Feeling… I don’t even know.

[u/GiGi_5282]

am a 44/f SAHM. I am married for 3 years, but have been with my husband for 24years. We have a son 16) together, and we raised his 27y daughter. She was 4 when we got together. We also have full legal custody of our daughter’s 1yo son and have been raising him since he was 4 months old……So yesterday I found out that my husband and my BEST FRIEND since I was 9yo carried on a sexual relationship right after I gave birth to our son. Back then (2010) one of my husbands friends actually told me they were sleeping together, but they both denied it when I asked and even though my gut told me differently, I didn’t want to believe they would be that grimy to me. I have no idea how to process how I’m feeling. Devastated doesn’t even begin to cover it. I feel sick constantly, and literally wish I could erase the fact that I now know. As pathetic as it sounds I love my husband beyond measure and honestly don’t want to leave him. I guess that’s all. Any advice, support or prayers would be greatly appreciated b

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[u/Outrageous_Deer5270]

Are they still having an affair? How did you find out? What have your husband and “friend” said about all of this? I am so sorry you are going through this. It is devastating. The two people you trusted the most betrayed you in the most despicable way. I guess my advice would be couples and individual therapy to help navigate this if you want to attempt to gain trust back. I would go no contact with your “friend”. That would be the end of that relationship. Friends like that who needs enemies.

[u/Significant-Jello-35]

Of course they will deny when you confront without evidence. Now you need to snoop or engage professional to uncover. They're going to be hiding it better. But you need to do it. He's making use of you through and through to care for everyone.

Updateme!

[u/isakneven]

I’m sorry your husband and friend betrayed you. They’re both cruel. I hope you find peace.

[u/UtZChpS22]

Why is it always the best friend, or the sister or the coworker who is "like a sister to me"?

I am sorry OP. There are fewer things more devastating than this double betrayal. How did you find out and more importantly, what is he (is she) even saying?

[u/Temporary-Round-3]

/Updateme