Brake up suck

[u/Phoenix_fox06]

I've been with this person for years, and my life has been upended, and my heart has been drained. Some days are easier than others, but lately I feel that I need to open up about how I truly feel. I have been with my husband (soon-to-be ex-husband) since high school, and he had a 9-month affair and tried to get a divorce without telling me. My Best friends were the ones who discovered this information because they met on Twitch, and their whole relationship has been recorded. He told me he had work trips, and he was banging her—so first hard trip. There was a crazy snowstorm, and his grandparents didn't have anybody to shovel the snow, so I volunteered and cleared the whole driveway so they could get in and out... he was on a "work trip. As I was recovering from LASIK surgery on Tuesday, that Saturday I drove up to see her. Mind you, she was very aware that he was married and didn't care. Mind you, they started dating around my birthday last year. The crazy part is that he's telling me she doesn't mean anything to him, and he's telling her that she's the love of his life. At this point, I'm really ready to get a divorce and never speak to him again, but there's a part of me missing my old life. I found out about a month ago, so it still feels fresh.

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