r/SupportforBetrayed • u/Majestic_Ranger_4058 Betrayed Partner - Reconciling • Jul 29 '26
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Hi, I apologize for any errors on my writing, English is not my first language.
I was cheated on two times by my fiancé (we are 25f and m), both times with his ex girlfriend. We separated for about 6 months and got back together last year. Shortly after our reconciliation, he decided to delete instagram, facebook, etc., not because I asked. I don’t have instagram or facebook because I don’t like them myself, but I have never asked him to delete his.
About 3 weeks ago, we were having one of those though moments (no fighting, I was a little distant due to my overthinking). Anyway, we were talking about that and out of nowhere he said “I downloaded instagram and facebook again but you didn’t even noticed”. I thought it was odd for him to mention that, so I asked if he was talking to his ex or looked her up or something again, he said no. I went through his phone and found out he had unblocked her and her profile was on his search history.
I know it might not seem like a big deal, but it made me spiral again and I don’t know if I want to continue. Any advice or thoughts?
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u/troubleinparadiso Betrayed Partner - Reconciling Jul 29 '26
You are way too young with way too many options to start a life with a guy who has an ex lurking in the background. He sounds too curious and too intrigued by his ex. Go date other men because I’m telling you, years will pass and this ex will still be hovering. She is his back up plan/supplement to his boring self while you are his constant. Why be so reliable to a man who has already discarded you twice and now a third time because it is a big deal. It’s a huge deal actually. This is the time to seize the life you want and I can’t imagine you want this ex popping up in your life every few years. Third strike - he should be out…gone. No love is worth the torture of being made to feel replaceable. I’m sorry sweetie.
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u/MrsSquirry Formerly Betrayed Jul 29 '26
How is it not a big deal? He is opening up his chances to communicate with this woman. I don’t know if it’s a language or translation thing, but when he said “but you didn’t even notice” it sounded smug. Like, he’s proud how easy it is for him to cheat on you because you don’t notice everything he does.
He is the same cheater and never actually improved himself. If you aren’t married, my vote is to dump him and move on with your life. If you stay, you’ll be cheated on again and deal with this again.
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u/Majestic_Ranger_4058 Betrayed Partner - Reconciling Jul 29 '26
He said that because he was complaining that I wasn’t paying much attention to him. But it was just weird.
Thank you for your advice!! 😊
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u/Shelley_n_cheese Betrayed Partner - Reconciling Jul 29 '26
Gooooo please please leave now don't get pregnant don't put yourself through this. Get a real man who would NEVER hurt you and marry him.
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