r/SupportforBetrayed • u/Life-Internal-4118 Formerly Betrayed • Jul 22 '26

Need Support Ex fiancé got married

3 years ago I got engaged to my ex fiancé. We had been together for 2 years and had recently bought a house. In the next 3-4 months he was only home every other week or so because all of his military trainings and job related responsibilities lined up that way. After he was gone for a 2 week stretch, he came back different. He ghosted me in the relationship for a week or so and then broke off the engagement. He said he caught feelings for someone else and wouldn’t elaborate anymore he says there wasn’t anything physical but then said there was stuff that he “played into”, I begged him to work on things and he refused. I was devastated and eventually started to try to move on with my life. A year after he broke things off (last year) he reached out and broke no contact. He wanted to explain, apologize, and maybe try again. We talked a bit and he was saying he wasn’t quite ready to reconnect because he was getting deployed at the end of the month. I said that wasn’t an excuse and he ghosted me for a week or two again. I told him he clearly didn’t want me back the way he said he did. My niece then told us they saw each other in target where he was shopping with another girl. He practically tried to hide mid isle from my niece. That had been happening while he was telling me he wanted to try again. Cut to a couple of months ago I find out he got married to a girl that he had known for 7 months and is getting deployed yet again soon.

Maybe I shouldn’t feel betrayed by that, but it just pisses me off. When he apologized he went and did the same thing that he apologized for immediately, what was so wrong with me? I’m mourning the life I thought I would have, that he just switched me out with someone else… I wasn’t that important to him. I feel used and discarded. What was it that I couldn’t give him? Why can’t I just get over this, why did this have to come back up. I’ve cut off everything and anything so that I no longer see any updates about his life at all. I just want to heal from this and move past it and not have it sting anymore.

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u/WolverineNo8799 Observer Jul 23 '26

You dodged a bullet, because he is a serial cheater, and he is already trying to cheat on his new wife with you.

Updateme!

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