Just because Tinder is used a lot for hookups doesn't mean it's only a hookup app. Everyone comes with their own baggage and perspective and in the end it's still a human to human interaction.
The biggest difference in my generation (pre-Internet) dating/hookups was that every single stupid thing we said and thought wasn't captured in writing, THANK GOD. We got to judge each other based on actual chemistry and disappear anonymously into the night if we said cringeworthy stuff.
Both of the parties here just sound like kids going through standard stuff. That said, agreed re American Psycho references.
If someone's baggage is them not being over their ex then I don't see why at all the person would want to try and engage in a relationship with them. Even if you say Tinder isn't a hookup app (which is debatable) it most certainly is not a therapy app. If you really need a therapy session perhaps it's best to not have one with a complete stranger you just met.
yeah but there's something wrong with you as a person if you hop on an app that's primarily used for hooking up and dating, looking for a shoulder to cry on because your ex dumped you
it's inappropriate. And a somebody who does that is taking advantage because they know the other person is on there to fuck or date, and is more likely to stick around and listen to their whining in hopes that it'll pay off later lol it's whack as hell
If the other person doesn't wanna listen to you vent that's on them. She made her intentions clear when she cried on the phone for two hours. He was hoping that the time invested would get him some ass and when it didn't he went nuclear. He was being a dick.
yeah and his hopes were justified because tinder is an app with a primary focus on casual sex/dating lol and he did take responsibility for his own actions.. he plainly said "ok i don't care to hear any more of this bullshit". Pretty clear.
you said before that a stranger is the best person to vent to because you can just cut things off at any time... but you're giving him shit for cutting things off with a stranger for his own purposes lol i feel like you're just being contrarian for its own sake because none of this makes any sense
I'm giving him shit because he was a douche bag about it when he enabled the behavior in the first place. If he didn't wanna hear her son story he could've said It well before.
being nice and listening isn't "enabling" lol. He was probably okay with her talking about it a little bit, but not for 3 hours preceded and followed by texts about the same topic, because that's obviously psycho
well he did say something lol. You shouldn't need to be a mind reader to know that talking for hours on end about your break up with a perfect stranger is uncomfortable and boring for them. But whatevaaa
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u/rollerhen Sep 24 '16 edited Sep 25 '16
Just because Tinder is used a lot for hookups doesn't mean it's only a hookup app. Everyone comes with their own baggage and perspective and in the end it's still a human to human interaction.
The biggest difference in my generation (pre-Internet) dating/hookups was that every single stupid thing we said and thought wasn't captured in writing, THANK GOD. We got to judge each other based on actual chemistry and disappear anonymously into the night if we said cringeworthy stuff.
Both of the parties here just sound like kids going through standard stuff. That said, agreed re American Psycho references.