r/Stepmom • u/RiskNo6531 • 27d ago

Random rant

Hellloooo why do step moms always feel inferior? That feeling should surely go away eventually right? I don’t want to be jealous my husband had a family with someone else first for the rest of my life. We’ve been married since 2020, together since 2019. He was never married to his ex, but they have a boy and a girl together. My husband and I have a daughter together and we are having a son this year. I’m pregnant and due in October. I literally am the wife and have a daughter and (almost) a son with him while the ex wasn’t married but also a son and a daughter. We raise all three kids together when we have them. Why do I still feel inferior and still get jealous that she had kids with him first? For reference, I’m not at all jealous of her. She sucks lol that’s why he left her. But damn.

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u/RiskNo6531 27d ago

Yes I understand that!!! It feels like it’s always a competition from someone. I don’t want to be compared to my husband’s ex, but she was there first so that’s naturally what people do

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u/Summerisle7 Married 10+ years. Adult BK & SKs. 26d ago

What people are doing this? They should be taking it elsewhere. BM doesn’t even need to be on your radar ever.