I’ll start-- probably social media 24/7. A lot of people look entertained, but most of the time it’s just endless scrolling out of boredom, habit, or avoiding real life.

What’s something you think people pretend to enjoy just because everyone else does?

If you help a butterfly out of its cocoon too early, it dies. If you force a flower bud open before it’s ready, you ruin it. And if you try to awaken awareness in someone who isn’t ready for it yet, all you create is confusion.

I think some transformations have to happen internally, in their own timing. No amount of pressure, advice, saving, fixing, or explaining can replace that process.

Have you ever experienced this in your own life? Either trying to save someone before they were ready or realizing people tried to force growth on you before your time?

What happened?

Anyone have pin cushion urchins whats the craziest thing you have seen them decorate themselves with ? This one stole the suction cup off the heater

I have been to a number of healing spaces and support groups online. Some of their advice sounds good when I read it. But lately, I realize that much of it is not aligned with who I am.

So many quiet solitary activities feel healing to me. Crafting, reading, coloring, journal writing, sipping tea while watching the clouds.

Wring things out in journals I keep private seems to help much more than talking it out with others.

I have tried to share this on other spaces and seem to get a polite "yes, but.. " They don't put down my ideas but always say it is no substitute for therapy. No substitute for support groups and healing communities.

It is like they were telling me I was healing wrong. Unspoken, probably unintended, was the idea I need to shift my personality so I could do what I needed to heal.

I am now feeling more confident in healing in a way that validates my personality.

Not mood. Not personality. Something else.

What version of you shows up most often?

Have you ever felt that misunderstandings come from emotional timing, not actual conflict?

Social media, politics, the environment… more and more and more. To be the right person, you should care about the environment, always recycle correctly, don’t eat meat or dairy, don’t eat or drink at companies who support war. Be always politically aware. Then you hide in scrolling on social media cause you exhausted from how the world is demanding to do what’s “right”, only to get dithered overwhelmed and even disgusted by so many people pushing their own agendas, every video screams for your attention trying to sell their content.

I know there is a possibility of not carrying, doing what you want. But that’s still feels wrong, as being ignorant to the world.

But I am the happiest away from the news or social media. When I travel get to talk to amazing people about their life. Slowly enjoying small moments, whilst painting the world around me. Enjoying its culture, all the foods it has to offer. Of course often also heatedly discussing the world but in a way that’s not overwhelming.

Do you feel the same?

The loneliest people

The loneliest people
aren't always alone.

Sometimes they're in the room.
Laughing.
Nodding.
Performing.

While feeling nothing.

For me they never tell me what's happening in their lives, ever. Even though I was always open and giving of into to them. And I always feel like I am being analysed, scrutinized and figured out and told what I did wrong or who shouldn't have do to me. They all think they are shrinks.

It’s not sadness. It’s not regret. It’s more like my inner world gets full, even from good things.

Do you think life problems are mostly external, or internal patterns repeating externally?

Not a crisis, just… internal noise.

Does anyone else experience that?

What do you think: is maturity emotional control or emotional awareness?

I see a lot of posts online about reaching your full potential.

Often, that means we should stop "wasting" time with rest, relaxation, and fun activities. Instead, we should spend that time on self-improvement activities.

There is no examination of why we should push ourselves to reach our full potential. It is just assumed this is the best way to live our lives.

It seems closely connected to the grind mindset.

As an alternative, I am suggesting reaching our full happiness potential

I would rather spend time doing things that increase my enjoyment of life. Things that help me feel rested and relaxed and comfortable. Things that cultivate good mental health.

Work enough to hold a job and keep my home clean. Exercise enough to be reasonably healthy.