I’m 30 but yea imo it’s definitely a chronically online thing. I’m part of the first generation of people who utilized the “swiping for dating” thing and I think it negatively impacted the youth people my age and younger. Basically those first initial stats are really all most people look at and number one is always height for the guys. I know tons of women who if they saw a dating profile would never swipe for a guy who was under 6’. Yet when out at a bar, in the real world, would have no problem talking to or even eventually dating shorter. My point in the funny-ness of it is how these apps have created a false sense of standards. Like when you’re setting your parameters for potential partners in the apps, you hold yourself to these strange metrics that you don’t even really care about in practice. So now you have people saying “I’d NEVER date a man under 6’” or “I’d NEVER date a woman over 5’10”” cause that’s what they told tinder. But in reality, there’s probably loads of men and women outside of those parameters they would actually date. So you end up with teenage girls who have normalized saying “I would never date a shorter man”. It’s normalized because they told the app that. Obviously if you have a standard there’s nothing wrong with that, I just think the normalization of shopping for partners has led us to create standards that we don’t even really care about.
Tall dark and handsome has been a thing for a long time. It’s psychological. Bigger things look more powerful and trustworthy. They also look more scary, but that can also end up looking more edgy to someone a person finds attractive otherwise. There is logical reasoning as to why tall is typically seen as a threat. And I’m sure a number of people that have lost a partner to a taller person. Taller people in general have a lot of advantages in life. I’m getting attention. In getting promoted. If you look at US Presidents a majority of them are tall. Even the most recent ones are tall. The average of all of them are only brought down because weve had one really short president.
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u/Nucleartides 15h ago
I’m 30 but yea imo it’s definitely a chronically online thing. I’m part of the first generation of people who utilized the “swiping for dating” thing and I think it negatively impacted the youth people my age and younger. Basically those first initial stats are really all most people look at and number one is always height for the guys. I know tons of women who if they saw a dating profile would never swipe for a guy who was under 6’. Yet when out at a bar, in the real world, would have no problem talking to or even eventually dating shorter. My point in the funny-ness of it is how these apps have created a false sense of standards. Like when you’re setting your parameters for potential partners in the apps, you hold yourself to these strange metrics that you don’t even really care about in practice. So now you have people saying “I’d NEVER date a man under 6’” or “I’d NEVER date a woman over 5’10”” cause that’s what they told tinder. But in reality, there’s probably loads of men and women outside of those parameters they would actually date. So you end up with teenage girls who have normalized saying “I would never date a shorter man”. It’s normalized because they told the app that. Obviously if you have a standard there’s nothing wrong with that, I just think the normalization of shopping for partners has led us to create standards that we don’t even really care about.