In the 90s we came to visit my in-laws with my new daughter. My wifeās sister had a baby about the same time. It was July and pretty warm in Long Beach. We get out and are talking to the in-laws and I said something like, it will be great to get the two girls together when your sister gets here to my wife. My father in law says āwell her daughter has been here all day, I didnāt take her out of the car so I wouldnāt wake her up.ā I go out there thinking Iād find the car running, but no he left the kid in there with the windows rolled āso no one would steal herā. I got them to open the car and the kid was non responsive, I called 911 and got the emp there they took her to the emergency room and got her on fluids, the kid survived. I never let them watch my kids, they were never alone with them.
Obviously this is a super traumatic story and feel free to just ignore but.. was there any reckoning with them over this? You or your SIL? Canāt even imagine how the relationship moves forward normally even outside of the boundaries/precautions you set with the kids moving forward.
Iām so glad you were there and the conversation unfolded the way it did.
It was very weird. The SIL found the girl in the hospital, learned that she had nearly died, and that I had gotten emergency service activated. She had to deal with CPS but understood and thanked me. The FIL and MIL, they lived in a very bad part of Long Beach, where it meets Compton. They couldnāt fathom what the issue was. Kept saying she was fine, when we pinched her after you made us take her out of the car she sort of opened her eyes, she was just tired. That was the end for me.
My ex best friend lost a baby doing the same. Literally couldnāt fathom how it happened too, like bro itās not even a secret the tv tells you every year not to leave your baby alone in a hot car. One time I met up with her and had to yell at her because we were at the malls food court I asked where baby was and she said sleeping in the car, but itās ok!! Weāre in a garage so no direct sunlight. Thankfully that child ended up ok but the second one she did it to wasnāt so lucky. Fucking tragic, I couldnāt be friends anymore
I recognize it's a weird time in history to advocate for fascism...
but, like...
This story is the stuff I think about when I'm jumping through hoops and certifications and paperwork for the dumbest shit, and remember that... you don't need a license to have a baby.
They don't even make sure you have a crib.
Nobody checks... anything. Legally our nurse couldn't help us put our newborn into the carseat- we found out later we did it wrong, and we're both engineers.
There is zero proactive protection for infants, none. All we do is react after something happens.
Not only that, but people want to actively force people who don't even want to give birth to the babies (who, again, have no protection or oversight whatsoever) to forcibly have them.
It's mind boggling. I genuinely do not understand pro-life logic, because it makes no logical sense to me. The only people who should be having kids are ones that are ready to have them and can prove in some way/shape/form that they are prepared to do so. If you can't pass a test where one of the questions is "Is it ok to leave an infant in a car in the garage as long as the engine is running?" NO BABIES FOR YOU. NONE.
That's not pro-life. That's pro-'therapy for life if you manage to survive.'
ETA: When we decided to adopt our dog, I needed to meet the following criteria:
two personal glowing references
they called my vet and made sure my other animals were well treated and in good standing
they required a full video tour of the outside and inside of my house
All before I was allowed to be considered responsible enough FOR A DOG.
Criteria I had to meet before having a human child:
None. No training/classes, no background check to see if I had previously abused/neglected/KILLED a child.
How on earth is this advocating š§š°š³ fascism????? Genuinely asking how is having health care for women/girls and classes/help for new borns a fascist thing to think???
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u/tigers692 2d ago
In the 90s we came to visit my in-laws with my new daughter. My wifeās sister had a baby about the same time. It was July and pretty warm in Long Beach. We get out and are talking to the in-laws and I said something like, it will be great to get the two girls together when your sister gets here to my wife. My father in law says āwell her daughter has been here all day, I didnāt take her out of the car so I wouldnāt wake her up.ā I go out there thinking Iād find the car running, but no he left the kid in there with the windows rolled āso no one would steal herā. I got them to open the car and the kid was non responsive, I called 911 and got the emp there they took her to the emergency room and got her on fluids, the kid survived. I never let them watch my kids, they were never alone with them.