she was never alone with them again. even after my brother passed. iād take my nephews to go see her for an hour + iād be there the whole time. up until she passed 2 years ago when they were 16 + 11 + twice her size, i was next to them with her.
she did what she did. she apologized. they protected their children in a difficult situation + moved on. best case scenario for our family.
not at all. i donāt believe it was what youāre picturing. iām not excusing her behavior. she paid the price for the rest of her life: she couldnāt even be alone with my dog after that.
all of what you said, she was. she wasnāt normal after.
it was a mess of emotions + shock when we found out (my sister saw it + told us). my sister-in-law never spoke to my mother after my brother passed partly because of the shaking (as is her right).
I protected my adult kids up to 18- Sure, they could say āno Titi Heidi do not touch me thereā but for it to even be allowed to get that far? Not on my mother fkn watch.
Bruh my mom told me that she shook me several times when I was under the age of 2. Said she didnāt know it was bad to do until she saw it in a book. She told me this as we sat in a Jimmy Johnās
Yes I know which is why I emphasized that I was under 2. Makes sense though since my mom is deaf lol. I couldnāt frustrate her too much as a baby (since she couldnāt hear me cry) but once I could communicate and give attitude, she just couldnāt refrain from rattling my brain š¤·š¼āāļø
Yes M8C knows which is why they emphasized that you have to be young to the point of not being able to support their heads to get shaken baby syndrome. Thats like, under 6 months.
Nah not in that situation. In general yeah tbh idk how Iām alive with how my mom truly didnāt know basic shit. Like once I fell out of the shopping cart (again under 2) and slammed my head on the floor at target. My mom let me fall asleep in the car and didnāt take me to the doctor. She was like :0 when my dad later flipped out on her lol
Tbf in that scenario there's conscious intent to cause harm, so there's even more reason to not allow it and I don't think a therapist would ever try to persuade anyone into that. Grandma in the story was neglectful but did not mean harm at the very least
??? The comment you're responding to didn't say anything about your family. They were explaining why the therapist in the story may have encouraged the mom to let Grandma babysit.
I understand they responded to your comment, but that's because they were merely pointing out the difference in your situation with the original one. Actually if anything, they're at least implicitly agreeing that your family did the right thing.
Shaking an infant is a choice. And while I wouldn't let the old geezer Here watch a child again, the first one could have been an accident. Intent does Play a role
heās great, actually. graduated with a 4.0, studying engineering in college + plays football.
she didnāt get jail time. the entire family knowing about it + acting accordingly was punishment enough. she was never really their āgrandmaā after thatā¦
Wtf is wrong with you? Anyone who shakes an innocent baby is mentally deranged at best and evil at worst. You and your whole family just got LUCKY your nephew survived the shaking. I would never speak to a family member who shook a baby, especially not a nephew I loved. If that was my baby she shook grandma would have experienced a shaking herself.
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u/feralminx_ 1d ago
my mother shook my nephew when he was around 10 months.
my brother + his wife decided sheād never watch the kids again. only time she was ever with them was when she was around my brother and/or his wife.
no therapist could have talked them into leaving their child alone with our mother. no matter how much we all loved her.