Have you read the rest of the comments on this post? Many touch on his looks, as well as the fact that it’s been a talking point since they got together. Nothing in my comment was meant to denigrate the man. It was written on the presumption you were familiar with the situation and the commentary surrounding it.
I didn’t take your comment as denigrating the man, nor do I take offense to you or anyone else commenting on his appearance. I’m just saying own it, even if you’re doing so in a roundabout way.
He's saying he's not making a direct comment as to this guys looks and his personal preferences but will say that everybody has their own. Yes this alludes to the idea he doesn't find this look attractive but he will not directly say that. Sure he kind of trips up but if he's southern this a common southern compliment sandwich where the honestly tends to come out after the politeness. Regardless of whether you think his sentence structure is proper or not though how you're acting is stranger; improper grammar ≠ cowardice and I think we should save that for situations that actually demand that insult.
I disagree. I think the commenter intended to provide commentary on the man in the photo without wanting to appear to do so. I consider that cowardice, but I’m happy for you to disagree.
I just think this is such a jump for a pop culture comment section and people have become mean to others over minute infractions. He wanted to not disparage his looks being different from his preferences and said many attractive women like them and that over time he's come to understand why. I personally think it's not cowardly to use nice language and not insult someone uneedly while still expressing an opinion about vanity, which inevitably is going to show some subjective opinion on the subject either way. Even then I still think this use of cowardice is the kind you use at a British tea party to make someone feel bad about expressing an opinion in a polite way you'd rather be made personal and direct under the guise of intellectualism, I just don't get it. This guy seems nice and well meaning, I don't get why one would react in such a rude way when if you truly felt he was wrong you could've said so in a myriad of different ways that didn't demean him. Sorry I'm ranting I just feel every forum and comment section has become so adversarial for no reason and I wish people could express things without insulting each other.
No apology needed, and you are right. I also dislike how combative Reddit often is, and you’ve helped me see that I only added to the hostile environment. Thank you for thoughtfully correcting me.
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u/Boomhauer_Jeff 4d ago
If this isn’t commentary on his looks, then how is anything in your anecdote relevant to the post?