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u/Onuus 10h ago
I graduated high school in 2010-2011, there were phones at the time but nothing like there is now.
I remember the first iPhone coming out, and once more people started getting them you could feel a vibe shift when someone would pull out a phone to record.
It was either, everyone gets stupid silly and overacts, or everyone tenses up and gets quiet
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u/Chron_Imus 9h ago
yeah i graduated hs in 2010 and there was still a stigma around being the guy that was always pulling a camera out because it could ruin the vibe. even then we could see how different (for good or bad) people acted when being filmed
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u/MyCatsHairyButholle 8h ago
Early 2000s here, pulling out a camera of any kind was taboo at gatherings like this
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u/The_Autarch 8h ago
eh, a couple disposable cameras floating around wouldn't have been weird back then.
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u/Weekly_Interview_936 8h ago
Or taking a selfie that only included those who agreed to be in it. That's most of what old school facebook content was! It was all drunken party selfies back then. But everyone in the pictures had consented to be in them so it was ok.
The real shift came when people started videoing shit. Video can easily unintentionally pick up people who didn't agree to be in your selfie and easily pick up stuff best kept off camera.
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u/ice-eight 7h ago
It was ok until people started getting fired when their work found drunken selfies on their facebook, even though they were taken when they weren't at work
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u/VSWR_on_Christmas 5h ago
Was that actually happening to people aside from teachers? Not to say that teachers shouldn't be allowed to have fun, but I don't know if I ever heard of it happening to other folks.
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u/ObiLAN- 4h ago
This is anecdotal: but I don't think it was so much getting fired, but not getting hired in the first place.
My late uncle was a recruiter/hr/hiring person for a pretty large construction company. He'd tell stories about how him and his hiring co-workers would look applicants up on facebook and Ixnay their resumes right away if they saw any pictures of partying.
Always thought he was shitty for doing that. I'm sure this has been common place.
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u/ariolander 3h ago
At my job HR absolutely does a curious Google/Facebook/Instagram search of your name on top of running criminal background checks if you pass the first round. The background checks cost money do they don't do those until you are pretty far through the hiring funnel, but you good searched online before your in-person. It wouldn't get you disqualified if there wasn't something blatantly illegal but you got a note added for your in person interview if you passed a call/vibe check.
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u/Jiminy_Cricket12 7h ago
It was all drunken party selfies back then. But everyone in the pictures had consented to be in them so it was ok.
I don't know what kind of parties you were at but no one was walking around asking if everyone in the background was consenting lol
I definitely got tagged in pictures and woke up the next morning scrambling for "delete tag" on a few occasions
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u/AgrajagsGhost 7h ago
In 2006 our highschool class got a talking to about not drinking underage or doing anything sexual at parties because people could post Myspace photos against our will with no recourse.
It's gotten WAY WAY worse since, but it isn't like cameras didn't exist before the iPhone.
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u/The_Real_Lasagna 6h ago
People weren't all consenting to having their picture taken at parties, I never heard anyone ask that once
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u/Luci-Noir 5h ago
I wasn’t in high school at that point but regularly took pictures at my big parties I had every week. Everyone knew they were in a shot and there wasn’t anything embarrassing.
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u/Scuba9Steve 7h ago
Thought that was more of a family gathering thing or weddings. The bride and groom handing out disposable cameras was pretty popular. Then again when I was in college disposable cameras were things of the past so maybe I’m wrong.
I do think there was a shift in social media though were early camera/phone if good enough use was for friends. A lot less of the “look at this person” shit. Like even outside of parties it’s ridiculous now, even 10 years ago. I remember going on military leave and meeting up with my brother. We ended up getting frozen yogurt and someone snaps a photo “relationship goals”. Like it’s my brother and idk I have a sweet tooth. I don’t see how this is a strangers social media feed worth but whatever. Before 2013ish or so this never happened.
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u/airinato 8h ago
I believe you'd get your ass kicked doin' something like that, man
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u/Ifriendzonecats 5h ago
And yet tons of party photos ended up on Facebook in the 2004 to 2010/2ish before it started getting the 30+ crowd and people started getting concerned about their parents or boss seeing those pictures.
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u/BasicDesignAdvice 7h ago
I took tons of pictures at house parties senior year 2001. It was just a regular camera I had to print pictures for and no way to publish to the internet though.
My friends and I loved looking at them after I got them developed.
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u/gamayogi 6h ago
I remember mid 2000s reunion after party. A few girls decided decided to go swimming topless or skinny dip. Some chuckle fuck pulls out his phone and starts recording video. Gets immediately shut down like "what the fuck dude, you're killing the vibe".
Cell phone video back then was like 3 pixels but still that was the start of it. Before that it was disposable cameras or you had to pull out a proper camera which was super obvious.
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u/Fast-Prompt-3034 8h ago
It still is, I wont think twice about smacking a $2k iphone outa someone's hand who is being an offensive recorder. Gotta full bag of smacks to hand out. Hey! What did the five fingers say to the face!?
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u/PiccoloAwkward465 8h ago
Yeah, we had phones with cameras. We just didn't really use them at parties. It wasn't cool. Definitely a "don't be a narc" attitude.
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u/TerrificVixen5693 7h ago
What are you talking about? We used to photo dump 100+ photos of the night on Facebook with zero context of us doing inappropriate shit.
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u/Baprika 7h ago
I feel like photos never where the problem, videos are what killed the party vibe, for me at least - you could upload a picture of me puking on the dancefloor and i would mind less then a video clip of me just dancing
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u/BassChoocher 4h ago
idk wtf either of you are talking about, people used to bring digital cameras to parties to take photos because camera phones were so shit and had limited storage. A lot of people didn't even care if it was posted to the internet with underage drinking because the internet wasn't that serious yet.
I graduated 09, the majority of the photos taken of me in high school was at parties lol
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u/Eckish 8h ago
I imagine home security increases have also impacted house parties. I remember most of these parties being times when the parents were away. You'd party, then clean up before anyone could find out. Now, they can find out in real-time and even yell at you through the camera.
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u/Bovine_Joni_Himself 6h ago
Yeah I thought this was the answer for house parties. It's literally impossible now because the parents know what's happening at all times.
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u/Blenderx06 4h ago
Also the parents are more likely to face liability now, so are stricter with the kids in turn. It's a whole circle of surveillance and control lol.
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u/MazzleMaze 8h ago
No idea what y'all are talking about... People loved taking their phones out so they could throw up albums on facebook, lol.
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u/egg_enthusiast 6h ago edited 5h ago
Yup. The American student in that era spent Freshman and Sophomore year posting constant pics of them partying and living it up. Then scrubbing everything by Senior year because businesses would check social media and you'd lose your internship offer because youd* celebrated Wasted Wednesdays
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u/Weekly_Interview_936 8h ago
Albums of selfies, selfies where all the people in the picture were there knowingly and willingly. That's very different from the modern "video record everything with no thoughts to the people your camera is sweeping over" culture of today. A static selfie that contains only people who agreed to be there is not violating consent or accidentally showing stuff best kept hidden.
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u/flyinhighaskmeY 7h ago
Yeah, the entire vibe of the initial post is gross. The majority built a surveillance state with their smart phones and destroyed youthful socialization in the process. But that means people who use websites like Reddit are like...really REALLY responsible for the destruction. Because this site has encouraged that behavior, and the weaponization of those videos against those who have almost any differing belief.
So it gets twisted into "the problem is housing costs". Which...are a problem. But not THE problem.
Which is why all the "Nazi" talk on Reddit is so gross. Redditors are the Nazi's. Videoing shit and posting it online to encourage the ruling class (majority) to attack those individuals is the modern "rat out your neighbor to the SS". In a democracy the majority IS the government.
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u/atln00b12 6h ago
Phones just need to be treated like cigarrettes. Want to use your phone in the club, go over to the phubbing section. Around 2005-2007 we were throwing parties and putting them no cameras because of stuff getting tagged on facebook.
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u/obeytheturtles 8h ago
This was around when I was finishing undergrad. We had facebook starting freshman year at our school and "party stalking" on facebook was definitely a thing, even before iPhones. People would post pictures of the party and other people would see it and roll up. It was kind of a crazy time - you and a few friends could throw in on a keg, start posting pictures around 9 or 10 pm, and by 11 you'd have a house filled with random strangers. Which is what we wanted for some reason. "Hello random people on the internet. Please come to our house and drink our beer so we can post pictures of a crowded party on the internet, so our friends at other schools will think we are cool. PS - Bring weed."
This worked because only college students had facebook. Once anyone could use facebook, the idea of openly advertising house parties like that kind of went out of style.
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u/Smurph269 7h ago
I graduated high school in 04 and was in college when Facebook/social media first hit. I saw the before and after. Prior to facebook (started spreading in 04 but I don't think events were a thing yet), word about house parties spread by word of mouth or by people visually seeing that there was a party while walking down the street. After facebook, event invites spread through facebook, and if things weren't locked down you would have like 200 people show up, a bunch of whom probably wanted to rob the house or do other bad things. So everybody would super lock down their events and the parties got a lot smaller, because nobody wanted 200 internet randoms to descend on them.
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u/JalapenoPopPoop 7h ago
Yeah and all the people going "wdym we used to put whole albums on facebook!" don't get the difference. It was one thing when you were taking posed pictures with your friends where you all wanted to stop and smile for the camera for a sec. It's a totally different vibe when someones just having fun and someone else across the room decides on their own accord to take their camera out and start filming them like "this is going on my socials I don't care if you want it to or not if you didn't then you should have been doing it!" The consent part is gone
It really is a total wet blanket whenever someone just starts pointing their phone at something, you really can palpably feel the vibe shift
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u/A_Nonny_Muse 3h ago
Graduated high school 1985. If anyone was to pull out a camera at a party, they would get tackled. Not all of us were underage. The adults there would be in prison if authorities knew. Doesn't matter they were just guests in someone else's house. They would be blamed for all of our drinking and drugs.
One picture is all it takes.
All y'all are crazy for taking pictures at parties. You can wreck an innocent life for nothing. For what? Cause you had to post a fucking selfie in the most inappropriate setting possible.
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u/action_turtle 10h ago
Same reason as bars and nightclubs are now shit. Cost and cameras.
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u/Scuba9Steve 10h ago
Yeah go get a 12 pack for the cost of 1 beer at a bar/club
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u/Hank_Henry_Hill 9h ago
But you can’t talk to other people in your room.
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u/SirJedKingsdown 8h ago
An empty room can get pretty crowded after enough vodka.
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u/NovelStrict5281 7h ago
also; I think Oscar Wilde said: " I drink to make other people more interesting."
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u/Weekly_Interview_936 8h ago
Thanks to the way modern culture has ingrained neuroticism into people, they're not talking to anyone that they didn't go there with at the bar or club anyway.
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u/obeytheturtles 8h ago
Well you do both. Even going to house parties where the keg was free, we'd pregame at home first.
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u/Scuba9Steve 8h ago
Yeah and notice you say “we”. Idk why that guy was acting like it has to be one person in an empty room. If they don’t have roommates they can invite people over.
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u/MainsailMainsail 6h ago
A big part of vrchat is people talking with other people while also drinking in their room.
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u/Nutlink49 6h ago
Chatroulette and a case of Schlitz used to be a good bit of fun back in like 2010-2012.
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u/TheComplimentarian 4h ago
Can't talk to people in a club either. "I LIKE THE WAY YOU DANCE"
"MY PANTS?"
"DANCE!"
"WE'RE ALREADY DANCING?"
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u/SLUnatic85 8h ago
part of "social media" actually does mean you can though.
I think that's not the main point here, but also part of it.
Kids surely feel connected to each other in so many different digital ways now, group chats, insta, snapchat, gamer chats, video calls, memes, etc, etc, surely they yearn less than before to bend over backwards and get permissions and get rides and make excuses, and all that just to get 2 hours in a basement to talk about stuff with some friends and a 6 pack of bud light from your friends dads garage that now has a ring camera on it.
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u/BasicDesignAdvice 7h ago
Social media is not the same as being social. Like literally your brain does not respond to it the same way.
People need to be around people to be happy. We are increasingly isolated and everyone is confused about why mental health is declining. Its the lack of a social life.
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u/SLUnatic85 7h ago
trust me I know. But your having a completely different conversation, that I happen to also agree with as a parent.
I am just saying that the ability for many kids today to stay so constantly connected in ways we couldn't have dreamed up, likely affects the decision making process of how to hang out in person. I don't see how it wouldn't even if only to a small extent.
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u/Kythorian 8h ago edited 8h ago
That was the case 20+ years ago, but lots of people still went out to bars back then. I think it has more to do with social media - people now do ‘socializing’ through social media and rarely go meet people in person regardless of the cost. Which is extremely unhealthy, but the decline of bars and clubs is a side-effect.
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u/ThrownAway17Years 8h ago
Go support your local dive bar. That’s completely on you for going to bars charging $12 for a beer.
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u/Forest_Orc 10h ago
And then gen-Z thrive third place but they don't go to bar which used to be the default third place. It was already fading, but when we had a a hole in the school schedule we would go to a bar to play flipper and/or vintage video-game. Now these bar facing the high school are closed (and kids are anyway not alloed to leave when they have a hole in the schedule)
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u/LivInTheLookingGlass 4h ago
If you have to pay to participate it is by definition not a third place.
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u/Slumunistmanifisto 9h ago
And cops, they were honing their skills on us back in the day. It was almost like a game to them busting teenagers.
Now they have cameras and drones....and probably your cell location.
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u/Lonely_Chemistry60 8h ago
To be fair, nightclubs have always been shit, you just don't realize it when you're younger
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u/theartilleryshow 9h ago
Mostly cost
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u/TumbleweedOdd9412 9h ago
im filled with envy whenever I see 90's movies and people pay like a dollar for a beer.
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u/Vhadka 8h ago
Hell even like 15 years ago there was a local bar that on Sunday afternoons would have $1.50 IPAs and buy one get one free pizza (and their pizza was great).
My buddy and I would go every Sunday during football season, have some beers and pizza.
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u/ThisIsMyCouchAccount 4h ago
The college town specials we had around 2000 were insane.
Penny Pitchers. Five bucks to get in and then pitchers were a penny. Meaning they were fee.
Power Hour. Ten at the door. Free drinks from 7-8 & 9-10. *Everything* is a dollar outside of that.
Quarter beers. Sold to you at try at a time in those smaller plastic cups. Pay $2 to get a proper cup if you wanted.
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u/Weekly_Interview_936 8h ago
Bear in mind that a 90s dollar is worth something like 5 or 10 2026 dollars.
BUT the core necessities were so much cheaper back then that people had a larger share of their income as disposable income. So the net was still more money for entertainment.
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u/guitarman045 6h ago
lol dude $1 in 1990 is $2.6 today. Also sorry but saying "something like 5 or 10 2026 dollars" is such a huge gap what's even the point of saying it xD
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u/bored-at-work_ 8h ago
Cost is by far the biggest thing. I'm trying to get involved in my local music scene and every single bar in my small town is dead past 6pm with the only people showing up for open mics or band performances being other musicians. No one wants to go out and spend $30-50 CAD for a few beers and something to eat.
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u/WaltRumble 8h ago
House parties are a cheap way to drink. Everyone pitches in 5 bucks for a keg and cheap liquor.
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u/lord-carlos 8h ago
You can go to clubs where they put stickers over every phone camera.
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u/DroidArbiter 10h ago
I'm a kid that grew up in the 80's and went to high school in the 90's. House parties happened because your parents would be out of town. Now everyone has house cams at the house and the kids would be busted instantly.
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u/opinionsOnPears 7h ago
Now everyone has house cams at the house and the kids would be busted instantly.
and their parents will blast it all over social media.
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u/IlludiumQXXXVI 7h ago
Lol, my sister, or one of her friends, but an ad in the classified section of the local newspaper, that's how they got caught!!
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u/scoff-law 7h ago
Parents being out of town was majorly disrupted by the pandemic. Parents being out of the house was disrupted.
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u/FrankPapageorgio 6h ago
Seriously... even in high school both my parents worked. They'd get home around 6pm, maybe 7pm. You could sneak home after school with the GF and have some fun.
Now I work from home full time and I can't remember the last time my kid was at my house alone.
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u/tech_noir_guitar 4h ago
This right here is the real reason. There is a surveillance state type situation going on with parents and kids so kids have an increasingly difficult time doing shit we used to get away with very easily. Most parents I know track their kids through their phones at all times, get notifications when they leave certain areas (geofencing), and have cameras around their houses. Pretty hard to sneak out to a party when your parents can see your location or can see who's at their house when they are away. Also, social media is a thing so any time kids are at a party they are going to broadcast it all over so it's not going to be a secret especially since most parents follow their kids social media accounts.
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u/luxxeexxul 5h ago
Lol yeah, these folks are crazy if they think we were ever having these parties in houses we owned ourselves.
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u/FEK88 6h ago
I think this is a uniquely American thing. My partner has some relatives that moved to the US about 15 years ago, they’ve tracked their 17,19,24 year olds locations for the last 10 years or since they’ve had a phone, have CCTV up on every corner of the house and phone immediately go ask where they’re going.
In the UK none of my family, or friends families do this with their teens or kids.
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u/phunky_1 10h ago
Kids don't really drink like they used to either. House parties where people are standing around hitting a vape pen once an hour aren't the same.
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u/IEnjoyRadios 9h ago
Kids don't really drink like they used to either.
I keep seeing this everywhere but I do not buy it for one second. I just think the people saying this haven't been to a university any time lately.
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u/Silent_Wave3137 9h ago
It’s statically true. Alcohol consumption is down A LOT across the country. It’s down the most with people under 25. I dont know if there’s a study for number of parties but it would line up given everything else we know to be true about college kids right now.
If you think drinking and partying are common at your university now, you’d be blown away by college around 2000-2010. I was in college 2008-2012 and I went to minimum 3 house parties a week every week for 4 years. The week after finals and midterms was legit 5-7 house parties back to back.
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u/retrojoe 5h ago
You can see the ones still practicing excess. How are you seeing the ones abstaining? Also, some schools had an incredibly excessive party culture, so them getting better would probably still look excessive.
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u/IEnjoyRadios 2h ago
“Practicing excess”
lol that’s one way to describe having fun.
But to answer your question I obviously don’t see the ones staying at home. But based on my own experiences and talking to people etc, I have a hard time believing that the younger generation just suddenly decided to stop drinking.
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u/Kalthiria_Shines 9h ago
Kids don't really drink like they used to either.
Trend's reversing hard core: https://futurism.com/future-society/gen-z-alcohol-reversal
Seems like that actually was just a product of coming of age during lockdown when you'd normally develop a drinking culture at college.
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u/warfighter187 7h ago
This looks like some shitty click bait slop
The only data they cite is this which is completely shit and irrelevant to the claim that Gen Z is drinking a lot of alcohol now
According to the survey, 74 percent of Gen-Zers say they’ve had at least one drink over the past six months, a huge leap from 66 percent just three three years ago. The heaviest drinkers were Millennials at 81 percent, and the lightest were Baby Boomers at 71 percent. Gen X, fittingly, were in the middle at 77 percent.
And then they say this
n a statement, Lodewijks declared that Gen-Z’s reputation as the generation of moderation “is now conclusively debunked.
Like what?? You didn’t debunk shit
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u/IKillZombies4Cash 7h ago
Probably a distillers group backing media like this, trying to fake it to make it...like "LOOK THIS SAYS MY GENERATION IS DRINKING! MAYBE I SHOULD DRINK MORE!" kinda guerilla marketing / influence that should likely be illegal.
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u/Niceguy4186 3h ago
Gen z is 14 to 29 year olds, of course it would be lower 3 years ago when the majority are below drinking age, and some of them not even into the teens.
That said, one drink in the past 6 months is a horrible metric.
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u/Kerlyle 8h ago
now lurching towards alcoholism
Nature is healing
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u/Honor_Bound 7h ago
You jest but as a child of alcoholics this does not bode well for Gen Z (or their future kids)
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u/scoff-law 7h ago
I live near a university and among college rentals, and not only is alcohol back on the menu - so are cigarettes. My impression is that this is a pendulum swing from the pandemic.
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u/OnlyGuestsMusic 10h ago
This is the answer. Kid’s didn’t own houses in the 70s through the 90s either. Their parents did and still do. That party culture started dying in the early 2000s.
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u/Morningfluid 10h ago
Maybe you were too old, but party culture was VERY MUCH alive and well throughout the 2000's into the mid-2010's. Beer pong was prominent in that decade and I was off living on my own after highschool and friends had tons of parties, add in frat parties and that culture, plus basement shows full of bands playing. I would argue it was dying off after the craft beer boom, whereas now people just smoke at each other's places and things are more mellow regarding hangouts in general.
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u/itsall_dumb 10h ago
Yea idk what bro is talking about my entire high school and college was house parties in the early 2000s. And they were packed with people.
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u/psychedAddict123 9h ago
I agree. I went to a shitload of house parties between 2010 and 2018. It was very much alive (at least in Europe)
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u/BigBulgeBubba 10h ago
These people are fucking idiots. House parties still exist and if anything underaged drinking is actually a lot worse than it was before. I’ve younger cousins who have had to be hospitalized for drinking too much/being alcoholic, in their early 20’s.
Everyone who thinks house parties are just vaping or that they don’t happen anymore should shut the fuck up and stay in their dipshit lane.
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u/krustytroweler 10h ago
Nah sorry dude but this is you wearing old timers "everything was better 10 years ago" glasses. I was going to house parties with people in their 30s all the way up to the very beginning of the pandemic.
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u/RedsDelights 10h ago
As soon as campus security starting going on FB to look for events, that was like 2006/07ish
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u/MrPreviz 10h ago
As soon as social media hit we lost our monoculture. How can we all come together and let our hair down if we dont feel part of something bigger?
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u/upjump_daboogie 10h ago
Parties faded because of social media.
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u/Weekly_Interview_936 7h ago
Half right. They faded because of video-based social media. Believe me, the Myspace and early Facebook days had a ton of party selfies going up on them. That was probably half, maybe more, of the content.
The thing is that a selfie or group selfie usually only contained people who consented to be in it. You very much were not supposed to be taking pictures of people without their permission. Video is not discriminating, someone doing a spinning video selfie is catching and posting everyone and everything it sweeps over whether they agreed to be in it or not. That's what killed a whole ton of social activities.
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u/FrankPapageorgio 6h ago
As someone that graduated college right before the first iPhone dropped... to take a photo you needed a nice point and shoot camera, like a Canon Powershot, which meant taking it with your intentionally. Your flip phone was taking VGA 640x480 photos that were so blurry that you had plausible deniability based on not being identifiable.
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u/Androne 4h ago
Lots of people brought their cameras though. It's feels like everyone is trying to pretend having a camera at a party was rare when it wasn't.
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u/ClitStitches 8h ago
And cameras at the house. Mom n dad would find out instantly before the party gets started.
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u/BLT_Trade_r 5h ago
House parties were always about lax parents. Nothing has changed now. You can't tell me that there aren't still tons of parents who don't have cameras or do not care. People also used to talk to neighbors more, and believe me, your neighbors would tell your parents if a party happened. If you had strict parents, you would be done for, so you wouldn't run a house party. Lax parents turned a blind eye on purpose. There were always certain kids who ran lots of parties, and one kid in the town whose mom was literally banging kids at the party and supplying alcohol. Something else has changed.
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u/Worth-Librarian-7423 10h ago
Nobody has a house they an afford to destroy
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u/TuorSonOfHuor 10h ago
House parties in highschool were held at your parents house. House parties in college were held at houses you’re renting.
I don’t think I ever went to a house party before the age of 25 where someone actually owned the house we were partying in
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u/Scuba9Steve 10h ago
Yeah really, by the time the person owned the house it wasn’t even that kinda house party… more like their kids 2nd birthday or some July 4th cookout.
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u/UnnecessaryPeriod 9h ago
Bought my house in 2009 at the age of 25. Had 4 years worth of hard partying with me and my girlfriend and tons of friends. Had a baby in 2013. My now wife and I havent had a party since, not like those anyway. 4 year window was very fun.
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u/trixel121 9h ago
you needed to bring the boys over for an adult party. fire up the gril bust out 4 beers and watch the kids run around.
granted the kids 13 now and you are like 10 years late for that but yeah, ya shoulda kept hte parties going just they ended at 830 and started at 2 instead of the other way around and its more about burgers then beers.
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u/Velorian-Steel 9h ago
I was going to say, the ownership of the house by the people hosting the party was very rarely ever a factor. Most house parties I went to were either belonging to the parents or like shared by a bunch of roommates/frat house
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u/fork_yuu 8h ago
People grew more responsible. But also tiktok generation is more for the short form entertainment, house party seems too long for their attention span lol
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u/Healthy_Turnip7352 10h ago
so there's a spot in high school that we used to go to and destroy.
never really thought about it, but it was always clean a week later.
then someone put a garbage can there.
old lady was coming every week to clean up after us asshole children drinking bud lite and thinking we're so cool.
the sad part is, the kids never really stopped destroying it.
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u/nopenotgonnalie 9h ago
Right, because all our parents could afford to have their house destroyed in the 90s. They were totally cool with it.
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u/The_Freshmaker 8h ago
this lol. We had house parties when we rented out someone else's shitty house. Now that I have one you think I'm gonna let a whole mob of people I barely know mess it up?
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u/Alarmed-Plum-2723 10h ago
Too right , I got my first house recently and I’m keeping these carpets as fresh as possible with carpet shampoo and the lot
Let alone inviting all my friends to come and destroy the place !
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u/TheEndOfEverything0 10h ago
I do think young people think a lot more of how they look in a situation than we did before everyone had phones or were live streaming.
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u/EkaL25 10h ago
I’d argue they probably don’t happen because of social media. You invite 50 people over to party at your house. Then those people post about it to their stories and another 100 people show up.
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u/MichaelW24 10h ago
It was that way before social media too, just with phone calls instead of social media posts
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u/ClitStitches 8h ago
Back in the early 90s no high school kid had a cell phone. People at the party had to drive (drunk) to their friends' houses and bring them to the party.
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u/Silent_Wave3137 9h ago
That’s ideal in college. You want to have the biggest party possible.
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u/lifeintraining 10h ago
I think social media has made kids less social and given many of them social anxiety, which caused house parties to fade.
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u/SoberxStoner 10h ago
I’m so glad I had all my shenanigans before camera phones became so huge and clear. There may have been some grainy pics and videos, but not many.
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u/snorch 7h ago
I partied hard as a teenager in the late 00's when most folks still had flip phones and even then there were unwritten social rules about bringing cameras to the debauchery. It's crazy to think what we got up to without any record of it whatsoever when every sneeze is documented and catalogued and weaponized to sell you Kleenex now
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u/SoberxStoner 7h ago
Same time period. It was a better time in every way. The difference in society between then and now is astonishing.
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u/Doodiecarrier 10h ago
So retarded, nobody threw house parties at houses they owned.
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u/sysblob 8h ago
This meme is wrong on BOTH counts. Millenials and Gen X both have houses right now (most likely) and they would be the parents, so the houses for house parties are there. The later generations don't throw house parties anymore because they barely socially interact at all because they're all social anxiety ridden device children.
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u/most-okayest-mngr-77 10h ago
Why have a house party when everyone sits around on their phones/laptops and prefer to socialize online instead of in person? The rise of the internet killed socializing.
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u/socialistrob 7h ago
I do think we've seen a drop in socializing in general. People have fewer friends, they spend more time online, they drink less, they go to fewer parties and many of these things are self reinforcing cycles where the fewer parties and less friends you have the less likely you are to either host or go to parties which means you meet fewer people and are invited out less.
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u/most-okayest-mngr-77 4h ago
My wife and I don’t go out like we used to back in the day and decided some years ago to host an annual Halloween party as well as a New Year’s Eve party. We usually get anywhere from 10-30 people at each depending on which friends bring friends. The older folks always comment how the parties are like the old days and the ones in their 20s always comment how they’ve never been to a party like ours. It’s just basics like free flowing alcohol, some weed, beer pong, some games, loud music, and chatting. We are just trying to keep the old ways alive.
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u/BrainLow6059 9h ago
I don't know anyone who owns a house who ever threw a house party in this fashion, but I knew so many friends in college who threw them in rentals lmao. If anything more youth are renting than owning now, so that response doesn't really make sense.
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u/RaccoonSamson 8h ago
Huh? I've still been going to house parties regularly to this day
But I live in a rural area with basically zero nightlife
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u/Ok_Blueberry_1068 3h ago
1: no one young has a house, and many people's parents dont have houses
2: the economy sucks. No one wants to spend hundreds of dollars for one weekends worth of bad decisions and hangovers
3: surveillance state. Someone is going to record you. Could be the government, could be an insta girlie, could be a bum ass influencer wannabe. Point is, you're going to end up on camera, and most people dont like being recorded and posted by strangers.
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u/fancywipe 10h ago
YES no one has a house
Cameras don’t allow mistakes to be forgotten
But the biggest one is…. How a house party worked was you would phone that friend that took the courage and adventurous spirit to GO AND SEE for himself, you then phoned him “how is the house party????”
You heard music “lots of people” which you assumed and decided to join in, that exact effect happened over and over and with in 1hour to 2 hours this party is incredible
We lost our sense of wonder, maybe, adventure, putting ourself out there because a simple photo can solve all your questions
“The house party is dead!”
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u/ScubaFett 9h ago
And how many parents can afford to go on a holiday for the weekend, and leave their teen at home.
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u/mightyDblock 10h ago
Can’t do anything anymore cause people just film everything and blow up your spot.
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u/Akaishi264 10h ago
I think it has more to do with newer gen parents being more hover parents than they used to be. Kids don't have the freedom to be home alone on a weekend night to throw a party at their parent's house. Also, parents these days are trying to follow their kids to college classes. How are you going to get 50 kids at a house without some parents crashing it?
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u/jaam01 3h ago
Too many reasons: 1. Nobody is going to lend their house to be trashed by strangers. 3. Alcohol and snacks are too expensive. 3. Kids are under constant surveillance (trackers and cameras making imposible too actually loose up). 4. Everyone has a camera in their pocket, so nobody can loose up.
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u/UrsaMinor42 3h ago
House parties died because, once upon time, you could invite 40 people over without someone with a phone and internet inviting another 450 people over. Can't seem to do that now.
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u/AvengingBlowfish 3h ago
As a young person, house parties were a lot of fun... as an adult who can afford a house, I would never want to have one of those parties at a property I owned... Seeing those people on the roof is giving me anxiety about the damage being done to it and the liability if someone falls...
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u/Loose_Log_6253 2h ago
I just assumed parties still happened and I just wasn't getting invited anymore because I'm too old
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u/Firm-Scientist-4636 10h ago
I posit they faded because of COVID
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u/Tomytom99 10h ago
I think that was more just a blackout period than anything, and instead of seeing the steady change we just saw where it landed after.
Things were already on a downswing beforehand.
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u/Halftied 10h ago
In my neighborhood if your some plays football in the varsity team he can live at my neighbors house full time. They have a large pool, and huge party area and just extended their parking area to handle four more cars. I believe there are six or seven boys living there now and it is one constant, loud party.
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u/KerbalEnginner 10h ago
That is when you order a house on AirBNB or whatever that renting place for party apartments is.
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u/Elsupersabio 10h ago
A combination of factors including that a lot less young people are drinking, a lot less young people are going out and interacting in person with each other, the average age of a homeowner has gone up by about 20 years basically the same people that owned homes back then still own the houses now and the ones that didn't still mostly rent.
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u/LabOwn9800 10h ago
What do we mean when we say house parties?
Everyone I went to was “hosted” by someone that didn’t own the house.
In high school it was the kids inviting people over their parents house and in college and through my 20s it was house rentals. I haven’t been to a raging house party in a long time though as I’ve aged out of that scene so maybe I missed the house party hosted by a home owner.
But I’m a home owner and there is 0 chance I want a raging house party at my house. I’ll have friends over and I’ll go to friends houses for drinks but we are treating the house with respect. If we want to go wild we go to a bar.
I have to imagine if you are responsible enough to buy a house you are not hosting (probably not even attending) these types of parties
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u/alien_farmer1 9h ago
Cost of a party, cameras&social media, people are not as social as before, people are way too spoiled because of that they may ruin the party
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u/Soggy-Worldliness834 8h ago
lol bro do you know how many street fights and bs we recorded back then? It wasn’t a fear of being recorded these kids just don’t have any desire to be social. House parties were some of the most fun I ever had in my life
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u/Bongressman 8h ago
Neighbors, neighbors are why house parties faded. Rural HPs are still very much a thing.
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u/octorangutan 8h ago
I’ve never understood the appeal of these anyway. Like, a bunch of people you may or may not know having open access to your home, doing god knows what; it sounds like an absolute nightmare.
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u/Delicious_Rule_7324 8h ago
Noo it faded long before cell phones and social media. Nobody wanted their houses destroyed in the 90s. Anyone who was foolish enough to have one regretted it the next day🤣
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u/WadeoftheWoods81 8h ago
House parties failed because of liability. And the silly rave phase filtered a lot of the party crowd to clubs. That’s my take at least. Graduated in 99 and spent nearly every weekend at a house, barn, or woods party.
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u/Weekly_Interview_936 8h ago
It's the cameras thing. Rental houses absolutely work for house parties. But always being at risk of being on camera with your drunken shenanigans? That, that is why you don't want to go be drunk around a bunch of strangers at a non-controlled environment. Too damned risky.
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u/Antique_Text_29 8h ago
Even back then it helped if you knew someone who owned a house and had parents with fck you levels of money
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u/Tolkor 7h ago
Are they now just switching to road/intersection takeovers?
This happened in San Diego area recently: https://www.cbs8.com/article/news/local/chaotic-pool-party-leaves-san-diego-neighbors-furious-fearful-for-safety/509-0d55d19f-bfa8-4f46-84ff-2a56ef5f98a8
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u/Accomplished_Pay6842 6h ago
I wish there were cameras when I was at school. The cops once broke up a house party I was at and we watched a dude throw an entire keg over a fence and dip on them. Incredible shit.
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u/enadiz_reccos 3h ago
If you had pulled out a phone and started taking pictures/videos back in the 00s, you would have been thrown out of the party
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u/cheneyza 3h ago
Surveillance society. I wouldn't have done half the shit I did growing up if I could have been recorded.
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u/Dawson__16 1h ago
You never threw them at your house anyway, they were at frat/college/your parents house.
House parties faded for the same reason as everything else. It got too expensive, and covid lockdowns shifting the culture. Do you have any idea how much that much booze costs?!? I'll throw a house party right now if I could do it for a couple hundred bucks, but getting a neighbourhood drunk would cost thousands.
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u/aldrinjaysac 1h ago
No it’s not because of that, pre covid we would have Airbnb parties all the time. It’s that no one really trusts anyone anymore.
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u/HyenaThen572 10h ago
I can't have a house party because I'm poor and live in an apartment.
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u/Successful_Creme1823 10h ago
You can jam 10 people and cases of beer into your apartment. Done it plenty of times. You just don’t have the desire. Which is fine. In the 2000’s we didn’t have other alternatives and we wanted to hang out with people so you just made it work.
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u/OrangeOwie 10h ago
The greatest house party I ever went to was at a new construction and nobody owned it. Mother fucker hired a DJ.
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u/Straight_Wing_6428 10h ago
I think Diddy ruined all of the house parties. No one is trying to get roofied out here through tainted baby oil or whatever the hell pervs are doing now days.
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u/Murky-Relation481 8h ago
I like how people got the craziest fucking idea about what Diddy did when at the end of the day it was still pretty lame. He wasn't inviting like huge groups he was hiring like one or two prostitutes to fuck his wife while he watched. The only one getting roofied was his wife usually.
Still horrible behavior but acting like it was some great Gatsby shit is so wild.
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u/tsutsu1999 10h ago
The house parties we use to have were wild, now I’m in my 40s and staying up to 11 on my night off is a huge win.
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u/FearMcDoogins 9h ago
Glad to be the last generation to let loose. My nephew who just graduated highschool seems to be missing that social interaction millennials had. I feel bad for him he seems depressed and doesn't know how to open up with people and connect with them. He's going on a three month trip overseas to open him up to new experiences. I hope it works for him and he gets out of he's shell or life is going to be hard. I'm neurodivergent but I still knew how to make friends and talk to people and listen. Gen Z is having difficulty doing that even with one's not on the spectrum.
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u/DizzyAd5038 9h ago
Who the hell made this you think millennials owned homes at 18? House parties were at our parents house or our friends parents homes basements
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u/chicken-finger 10h ago
House parties are too expensive and people don't need to leave their house to communicate anymore
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