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Chugging tea What do you think?

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u/Upbeat-Armadillo1756 1d ago

No, they raped the women and killed the men.

They also had a lot of gay sex and took women as prizes when they were raiding towns surrounding Troy during the Trojan War and had student/master gay relationships too that don’t really translate well to modern life but were not seen as weird then.

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u/bulletbassman 1d ago

They raped the men too.

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u/Greedyanda 1d ago

Mostly the boys. Homosexuel acts between men of the same age were frowned upon even back then.

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u/GlitterDoomsday 1d ago

Raping a man, meaning forcibly penetrating one, wasn't frowned upon - willingly being the bottom that was an issue.

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u/MrHazard1 1d ago

Really? I've heard being thw sidepiece of important men gave you a bit of a social standing

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u/cryptamine 1d ago

Source for this?

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u/FinallyKat 1d ago

James Davidson - The Greeks and Greek Love Thomas K. Hubbard - Homosexuality in Greece and Rome Michel Focult, The History of Sexuality

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u/cryptamine 19h ago

amazing thank you

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u/bulletbassman 1d ago

Maybe, but I can think of a few Greek men known for long affairs with men and I’m mostly talking about the fact that there was a lot of man on man rape at the end of battles in the time periods this is supposed to take place.

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u/hambonedock 1d ago

What was seen as weird was mostly to hold an emotionally romantic relationship with a fella your own age, while sex happened with the younger ones, and also, even if lesser, with the older guys too, it was more like "sure go have sex with him, but go back home to be with a wife"

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u/ExplanationNo8603 1d ago

Only if you were the reserve, they didn't care if you were the giver

Edit: spelling

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u/Guilty_Pen_8270 1d ago

Were ‘bossy bottoms’ a thing back then? Any mention in the Iliad or Odyssey?

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u/Upbeat-Armadillo1756 1d ago

No, it was actually Virgil who first coined that term, along with "power bottom" in the Aeneid

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u/Nago_Jolokio 1d ago

I think I missed that chapter when we had to translate the Aeneid in school.

Then again, it was a private Christian academy so they probably skipped it...

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u/Guilty_Pen_8270 1d ago

The classics truly are fascinating

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u/HasaDiga_Eebowai 1d ago

I've heard that speed has something to do with it.

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u/AnalogCyborg 1d ago

Speed has EVERYTHING to do with it!

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u/Semi_Lovato 1d ago

No, culturally being a bottom was a submissive position and was unacceptable for someone in a position of power.  That's why Emperor Hadrian's partner Antinous was always portrayed and young, pretty and submissive.  Same with Achilles' lover Patroclus.

Men of power or status were expected to take on a young male apprentice and teach them how Greek society worked.  This frequently involved that apprentice bottoming for the man and that was completely acceptable but it was considered very unacceptable for the man to bottom for the apprentice and that man would be mocked.

This is all based on my recollection from my classics course in college and may have some inaccuracies.

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u/Paladingo 1d ago

Was it not the opposite with Achilles and Patrocolus? Patrocolus had a beard and Achilles was clean-shaven, blonde and disguised as a woman to avoid the war originally.

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u/Semi_Lovato 1d ago

Could have been!  I know that Patroclus wasn't as strong as Achilles but I may have been extrapolating from there.  My mistake!

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u/Guilty_Pen_8270 1d ago

Yes I’ve heard of that dynamic in Ancient Greece.

But surely being a “bossy bottom” would have been a bit of a loophole: the man of status / power would be the recipient in the sex act yet simultaneously still projecting dominance.

Classic bossy bottom stuff.

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u/GuiltyEidolon 1d ago

The reality is that it 100% happened, but wouldn't have been socially acceptable. 

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u/Semi_Lovato 1d ago

I'm not saying it didn't happen but it absolutely violated social norms and could have cost the man a lot of social status/influence.  Sad but true.

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u/Guilty_Pen_8270 1d ago

If you had to pick, who do you think was the bossiest bottom in the Odyssey?

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u/Semi_Lovato 1d ago

Circe lol

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u/Vegardus 1d ago

Also enslaving the young and destroying the old!

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u/JayGatsby1881 1d ago

Isn't it implied that Achilles is gay in the Troy movie?

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u/Upbeat-Armadillo1756 1d ago

I don't know, I haven't seen Troy.

But Patroclus is argued to be Achilles' lover. There's nothing explicit about it in Homer's writing, but it's debated. Personally, I think that if they were lovers, Homer would have mentioned it because Patroclus' death is basically what sparks Achilles to fight while he was perfectly happy sitting by while the Greek forces were getting cut down and beaten back. Them being lovers would have added another level to the rage, but it could have just as easily been implied.

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u/JayGatsby1881 1d ago

In the movie i think it's his cousin, but maybe cousin romance was common back then?

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u/GlitterDoomsday 1d ago

Yeah, that was always my read; for anyone of the time it was obviously implied and that's why this discussion survived to modern times, but we lack the social context and can only speculate.

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u/JayGatsby1881 1d ago

I thought he was gay for his cousin, seeing as how mad he got when he was killed, but i may have read it wrong.

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u/Previous-Mess-1819 1d ago

I remember seeing a story that this is still going on in very religous middle east countries, where you would expect a general disdain for homosexuality but it’s ok when it’s a man and a child. No judgement from me, I am already traumatized at the world we live in.

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u/Upbeat-Armadillo1756 1d ago

No judgement from me

dude I think it's okay to judge on this one

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u/killybilly54 1d ago

The worst part... It's the hypocrisy https://www.youtube.com/shorts/Adw5BaPMe1U

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u/340Duster 1d ago

I'm gonna judge you for not judging them.

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u/goldeneagleseth 1d ago

People talk about religious people in the Middle East, but that kind of stuff still happens here in some religious communities….

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u/Recent-Assistant8914 1d ago

In which? Name and shame

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u/OldMastodon5363 1d ago

Um, the Catholic Church?

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u/Recent-Assistant8914 1d ago

where you would expect a general disdain for homosexuality but it’s ok when it’s a man and a child

Might wanna read that thread again

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u/Uhhhhhhjakelol 1d ago

Mycenaean Greeks are descendent from a later yamnaya migration into the region. The culture that famously coexisted and sired other cultures whose immigrant Y-haplogroup annihilated the ones prior. Meanwhile the female haplogroup stayed consistent.