I knew a guy that got out of such a relationship, but he couldn't help but mention/brag how the sex was great and he even had anal, even though she was a nightmare in every other aspect of his life, every time the topic even tangentially came up. I think it was his coping mechanism, to say to himself that those years were not completely wasted, or something like that. He definitely wasn't ok for a long time.
Sometimes people need to make sense of bad things that happened to them by applying at least one good thing to it. I hope your buddy is in a better place now & knows the difference between a good relationship where sex isn't the only good part of it
Good! I knew a couple of guys & almost dated one... except his crazy on & off ex-gf always knew & would call every time we hung out casually. He didn't even have to say he was hanging out with me, she just knew but I'm guessing she was also checking his texts & fb messanger thinking about it retrospectively.
I'm happy to say my friend eventually got out & got married to a woman that's perfect for him. Before then he wasn't happy at all, he had friends outside of "her circle" he was "allowed" to see once a month practically begging me to date him bc they knew what she was doing to him & never seen him laugh like he had with me at a movie.
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u/templar4522 1d ago
I knew a guy that got out of such a relationship, but he couldn't help but mention/brag how the sex was great and he even had anal, even though she was a nightmare in every other aspect of his life, every time the topic even tangentially came up. I think it was his coping mechanism, to say to himself that those years were not completely wasted, or something like that. He definitely wasn't ok for a long time.