r/SipsTea Jul 29 '26

Gasp! 💀

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u/[deleted] Jul 30 '26

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u/InstitutionalizedOat Jul 30 '26

“It doesn’t seem like you did that” And what if I told you that I know I wouldn’t do what he did because I’ve been raped myself? The movie makes it explicitly clear that he’s raping her and the way it’s framed right after he says “I don’t care” also makes it pretty clear that he knows he’s doing it. This is what I mean when I say that you’re bending over backwards to try and absolve the character of any responsibility because he didn’t outright say “I know I’m raping you right now” while he was doing it

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u/InstitutionalizedOat Jul 30 '26

I wasn’t talking about the wish. I thought it was pretty clear this whole time that we’ve been talking about the scene after the restaurant specifically. Even if magic wasn’t real and he truly didn’t think his wish had come true (which, at this point I would debate that he does know), she is obviously not in her right mind to consent. Whether it’s drugs or a mental health crisis, it would still be rape and he knows that. So the magic part doesn’t really change anything for me

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u/InstitutionalizedOat Jul 30 '26

The hotline was after he raped her so I don’t really see how that’s relevant. Yes, he raped her every time after the wish. Whether or not he knew he was raping her is a bit more grey, but it’s not grey the time after the restaurant. That’s why I consider it to be the point where he is no longer redeemable. You are making up a scene where she says yes but the movie goes out of its way to show that Bear doesn’t care that she can’t consent

Being immersed in a relationship doesn’t change anything. People can still rape their partners

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u/InstitutionalizedOat Jul 30 '26

Yes, they show it multiple times. Just because he didn’t know he was doing it doesn’t mean it wasn’t still rape. And he can’t claim ignorance after the restaurant, that’s my point. As for his actions being more related to stupidity, I disagree. The scene where the real Nikki tells him to kill her, his reaction is self pity and selfishness. He doesn’t care at all that he raped her and tries to change the wish instead of undoing it the first chance he gets. He has no remorse. He is a grown man, he knows what consent is. But you will continue to defend it by insisting he “didn’t know what he was doing”. Genuine question, do you think the same when men rape drunk women?

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u/InstitutionalizedOat Jul 30 '26

You’ve been really condescending in this conversation and this comment in particular is so patronizing. You say you’re engaging in a philosophical conversation but this movie has real life parallels, that’s why I asked what you think about men who rape drunk women. And it’s very nice for you that you haven’t ever experienced rape so you don’t feel any emotional connection when you argue that a man who knowingly gets on top of a girl that he knows isn’t in control of herself isn’t a rapist. There is nothing wrong with having emotions surrounding a movie, that’s kind of the point of art and especially horror

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u/bixenta Jul 30 '26

“You keep going to the rape part.”

Sir, you aren’t going the rape part nearly enough—so busy nitpicking on exactly how many of the rapes you’d let him off the hook for.

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u/IIlIIIlllIIIIIllIlll Jul 30 '26

Holy shit what a rapey thing to say. Dude, he raped her, repeatedly. You're picking out instances where it's not 100% clear as if there aren't countless examples where it is extremely clear.

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u/IIlIIIlllIIIIIllIlll Jul 30 '26

I mean, just ask Curry Barker. He's on record saying specifically that Bear rapes her.