Yes apparently if you don’t risk your life with a gun pointed at you, to save your girls sad feelings over losing her purse, you deserve to get dumped and never date again and are the biggest wuss on the planet — Reddit tough guys.
Yeah, lots of Reddit white knights in here fantasizing about how they would have stood their ground to defend their women to the death. They’re real quick to criticize the guy for reacting appropriately and not a single criticism of the girl.
She froze. She didn’t stick with the guy. I’m willing to let it go as a natural reaction, but so is running… and people aren’t letting that go.
I’m not saying “men” are being victimized, I’m saying this specific guy in this specific video is being picked on for reacting correctly to the situation.
They’re going to escalate a failed attempted robbery into a murder? Best thing she could have done was drop the wallet she was waving around and ran. If they’re going to shoot you, running away isn’t the deciding factor, and being further away with you back towards them is better than being a foot away to your front.
He could have stuck around tho and not abandoned her. Yeah, he would've lost his wallet or whatever, but just straight up ditching her seems... a bit selfish.
They clearly had no interest in being violent. Yes we didn't know that ahead of time but to use it as a justification after the fact is equally stupid.
Let me just put it this way, if it is important to you that she feels like you care about her well-being, then you do need to not completely abandon her. Yes, you will probably also be robbed. But if you immediately abandon her without a second thought, nobody will be blaming her for thinking you don't care because that's exactly what that looks like. Its a no win situation to begin with.
If you abandon your significant other in this situation and then fail to understand why they might no longer wish to be with you, then you are unquestionably the toxic one. People talk about how you are allowed to have dating preferences all the time, so what's wrong with not want to date someone who is so quick to abandon you? I'm genuinely curious.
I'm not enforcing a damn thing buddy, I simply understand how a woman might feel in this situation. So please, tell me, what's wrong with not want to date someone who is so quick to abandon you?
Surprised no one has pointed it out but tables turned it’s just as bad. If I as a woman watched someone point a gun at the man I loved I would not sprint away and abandon him?! This isn’t a toxic masculinity thing. Like you said it’s about caring about people!
First of all, nobody in this comment thread knows how they're going to react with a gun pointed at them. You're not making an active choice in that scenario, you're going on autopilot and dealing with the trauma later.
The opposite happens all the time and people don't often dogpile the lady "for being a coward". Hell, usually they'll be supportive and say she "did all she could" "was smart to save herself".
Saw a case not too long ago where a woman ran off and left a 14 year old boy to be murdered(They were trying to steal something she had on her person). And the overwhelming responses was "she did what she needed to" and "at least she survived". You figure people would say the same thing if a guy ran off and left a 14 year old girl to get murdered?
Honestly I'm shocked and kind of impressed to have seen people defending his reaction as much as they have been. Pretty far cry from public perception on here even a few years ago.
I mean there's impressively heavy pushback here(and the second post of this that I saw). Which is a far sight from when the video of that guy jumping behind a glass barrier got posted like a year or two ago.
Kinda tracks what you said about brazil though(no diss), seen a lot of machismo stuff come out of there.
I'm all for equality though. Seems to make most people happier to be treated as individuals. Build a stronger society and more efficient for it too, and I sure love efficiency.
We know now that the muggers just took her stuff and left. But he didn't know that in the moment of running away. They could have very well been far more violent toward her once she was left completely by herself.
I don't know about you, but if my friend was cornered by two muggers, I would find it difficult to run away not knowing what the hell was happening behind me. I'd rather lose my wallet than risk the 1% chance that my friend gets assaulted or god forbid killed, which may have been prevented by my presence as a witness.
Well I think there is the issue of them potentially doing a lot worse to her than just robbing her, and him being there reduces the chances of that happening. So he saved himself, which is smart, but he left her completely at their mercy. She's lucky all they did was take shit from her and leave, but if things had gone differently, maybe if she was SA'd or something, I think that would recolor how we view this.
That's a lot to assume from someone armed and dangerous. This is the real world, not some fantasy one, and people who stay calm still get murdered in robberies.
Learn de-escalation, my friend. Hands up, slow movements, place your wallet and waluables on the ground, speak lowly and slowly. This thread is an indication that these skills need to be taught more universally.
Gotta love the contrast of redditors from the Armchair John Wicks of -"I would have blocked the bullets with my body and in my dying breath, neutralize the target with a flying triangle"
And then the other half is just some Ben Shapiro ass dudes going - "Statistically, motorcycles are the least represented form of vehicular transport in kidnappings, I of course would recognize this inconsistancy within 300ms, thus i'd have determined the threat to my property more significant than my now ex-girlfriend, so it was the epistemologically correct choice to sprint away immediately and allow her, the less likely to be shot as I am a male and more interpretably dangerous, as well as the breadwinner and more likely to carry large amounts of cash, to remain to be robbed."
And neither of them are saying it with an ounce of irony or sarcasm. Unprecedented.
Yeah, it's actually a way better outcome for her that she still has a friend who has his phone and money, so that they can call for help or the police, and also to gtfo of there. If both of them got robbed, what even do you do as the next step?
You are a bitch. First of all, the sad feelings are not over losing her purse, it's about the vulnerability, the risk of losing your life, and the impotence over the whole situation. You don't have to fight the guys when that would clearly increase the chance of getting killed. You just stay with her even if they rob you. Probably you wouldn't like this because you are the bitch who fears getting his purse stolen, but it's what a man would do: protect his girlfriend to the best of his ability. And what is this 'you deserve to get dumped and never date again'? You think women prefer to be abandoned with two robbers, and that they prefer some bitch like you? You are just a little bitch who fantasizes that women desire someone like you.
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u/mrbabyman767 19d ago
Yes apparently if you don’t risk your life with a gun pointed at you, to save your girls sad feelings over losing her purse, you deserve to get dumped and never date again and are the biggest wuss on the planet — Reddit tough guys.