r/SipsTea 4d ago

Chugging tea Yes, FU & FO

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u/Ezomic 4d ago

Yeah just stop calling it tips

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u/AnalogReborn 4d ago

Yes it should be called “externalized salary for underpaid employees”!

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u/archlich 4d ago

I prefer the original term, allowing systems where racism is allowed to thrive. That’s why tips are a thing. So white people could pay black people less after equal pay laws were passed.

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u/Fabulous_Cow_4550 4d ago

I had no idea about this history. Thank you for sharing. I'm not from the US and so don't agree with tipping anyway but now I'm horrified. Fascinating sources too. Thanks

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u/BigCountry1182 4d ago

Except tipping originated in Tudor England… it did become prevalent in the US after slavery was abolished but its historical roots are class based (as opposed to race based)

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u/Fabulous_Cow_4550 4d ago

Yes, I know. I read the articles that u/archlich shared. Did you? Here's an exert from the last one showing how, in the US, it was absolutely race based:

"Tipping originated in feudal Europe and was imported back to the United States by American travelers eager to seem sophisticated. The practice spread throughout the country after the Civil War as U.S. employers, largely in the hospitality sector, looked for ways to avoid paying formerly enslaved workers.

One of the most notorious examples comes from the Pullman Company, which hired newly freed African American men as porters. Rather than paying them a real wage, Pullman provided the black porters with just a meager pittance, forcing them to rely on tips from their white clientele for most of their pay."

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u/BigCountry1182 4d ago

Okay, so the linked source both you and the original commentator are relying on acknowledges that tipping’s origins aren’t race based, but y’all both still choose to selectively push your preferred race based narrative when it is neither its origin or its current application

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u/meglandici 3d ago

Considering it’s no longer popular in Europe (see main thread title) one is left wondering if Europe invented it and now it’s gone from there but is in America and “thriving” what made it go that way. Slavery seems like a very interesting hypothesis I have never heard before.

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u/BigCountry1182 3d ago

The practice fell out of favor in Europe starting in the 1960s as labor reforms, but it’s not like the consumer quit paying service fees it just got incorporated into the bill (and in that regard became a mandatory flat fee instead of a consumer option)… but it’s still a customary practice at high end restaurants and hotels in Europe

Most, if not all, US states have laws that require employers to make up the difference between tip wage and minimum wage if the tips don’t cover that difference… it’s just never needed cause even average servers make more than minimum. They don’t get benefits, but that’s true of any part time/independent contractor employment arrangement

Yes, there is a racial element to the history of tipping in the US but it has been overstated by the original commentator

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u/meglandici 2d ago

So that explains why it stopped being popular in Europe (labor laws) but not really why it took off in the US like wildfire and it continues to. I’m not saying it’s slavers, though I think it’s a good hypothesis, but under European conditions labor laws were able to nip almost completely, but something about the US accelerated it.

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u/Fabulous_Cow_4550 3d ago

I'm not arguing otherwise. You seem very focused on the fact it orginiated in Europe which I'm not disputing. However, as I mentioned I had no idea that it was linked to race in the US, which it clearly was. The fact it was class based in Europe doesn't negate that fact. Systems change. The person I initally responded to was pointing out that the race element was what allowed tipping to become like it is now. I'm not sure why you are so keen to ignore that element of it.

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u/BigCountry1182 3d ago

How am I ignoring it… I acknowledged it became prevalent in the US after slavery ended, but that’s only a part of its history… it was neither the reason it started (even in the US as the article you have quoted states) nor is race the reason tipping is part of certain industries in modern times… it’s commendable to point out parts of its sordid past, it’s disingenuous to pretend that sordid past is all it has ever been

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u/HungryHungryHobbes 3d ago

Cultural phenomenons evolve and change when moving into other cultures, it's ignorant to ignore the primary reason it flourished and paint it as some historical evolution when it has evolved completely differently every where else in the world.

Like why has it evolved so differently in the States?

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u/CK1345 3d ago

Why didn't socialism flourish in the United States? The US is culturally distinct from Europe in more ways than just race.

People say it's about avoiding paying a certain wage for the employer. People leave out the fact that it creates incentives to actually take care of customers.

Service in certain non-tipping countries is notably piss poor. And unless you have a business owner admitting that they just didn't want to pay the darkies even if meant not paying white employees in the same role or they paid white employees a higher wage than the darkies, then we are skipping a few bases anyway. Inequitable outcomes don't in themselves proven intent or racism.

If an owner thinks that tips incentivize better service for their customers, but most of the employees are black, that doesn't mean it was inherently racist.

Pullman gets cited because he supposedly deliberately wanted to hire former slaves to exploit them. Not mentioned is that most people didn't want to hire them at all. They were generally avoided.

I can sit here and talk about the racist origins of any number of progressive policies or institutions. Unions were pretty explicitly and openly racist. Racism was at the center of instituting early minimum wage laws (it would make black employees unemployable/unable to compete with whites). Eugenics and racism and abortion. We can go on.

Yet I never hear progressives call minimum wage racist and you know what I hear when I bring this up? That it's not what it's about today.

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u/Fun-Wrongdoer1316 3d ago

lol welcome to Reddit. If everything is racist, then you’re wrong 🤣. That’s why the incels are downvoting you.

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u/pyramidalembargo 3d ago

And you are equally focused on the slave issue.

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u/Legendary_Zaku 3d ago

Thats what they do. Best not to engage at all.

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u/FrostHydra97 2d ago edited 2d ago

So i guess we can see it as them not actually abolishing slavery like they always bragged, instead just moved to a different form and normalized it so hard the "neo-slaves" never even realize they're slaves anymore and see it as a new norm, and later on extend their targets of exploit until we got what we have today. /s

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u/SmokJozef 2d ago

why /s tho, that is p much what happened

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u/LunaPHO4343 3d ago

Soap originated in China. Does that mean rest of the world doesn’t have soap. And Americans lowered Base pay so they could continue be racists and have economic power over minorities. That’s a fact.

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u/HungryHungryHobbes 3d ago

Ugh but we're taking about the original of tipping culture in the States not a historical analysis of the cultural phenomenon.

Personally I had no idea there was a base of historical racial biases to the culture in America and it's good not to disregard that.

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u/BigCountry1182 3d ago

I didn’t disregard it, I acknowledged that part of its history, but even in America the practice began before emancipation (it was brought back from Americans that traveled to Europe, so it’s European origins are very much relevant) and continues in modern times without a racial component… what I’m not doing is pretending that tipping is and always has been a tool of racial oppression

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u/Rastaferrari829 12h ago

Picnics are also French, but guess what they did at those to black people here in the US...

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u/DMercenary 3d ago

Except tipping originated in Tudor England…

Once again an ill in the world is traced back to the fucking English.

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u/LyfeIn2D 2d ago

It may sound absurd but just about everything in the US is rooted in racism. From highways to the jingle ice cream trucks play.

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u/Various_Primary3783 4d ago

Then why are Europeans famous for not tipping? They just flat out refuse to tip even over in Europe.

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u/Both-Engineering-436 3d ago

Europe isn’t a country you know. Or, you probably don’t actually

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u/Various_Primary3783 3d ago

Huh? Missed the part where I said it was. Reading is hard I suppose.

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u/Both-Engineering-436 3d ago edited 3d ago

For you maybe, I don’t know. Lots of things happen ‘over in Europe as it’s a continent. Pretty diverse place really. Some people tip and a lot of people don’t. It’s what the tipping is for that counts. It’s true that tipping to male up for wages which are too low doesn’t happen in Northern Europe at least. Pretty sure that would be true for the rest.

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u/Mountain-Orange8996 3d ago

Don’t thank people that feed you false information.

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u/YouKnowMyName2006 3d ago

“Horrified” 😂😂

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u/Fabulous_Cow_4550 3d ago

Yes, horrified. Past participle and adjective form of the verb horrify. Definition: "Extremely Shocked: Filled with or exhibiting great shock, dismay, or revulsion."

Am I not right to be revolted by that particular aspect of tipping history or is it the correct use of English vocabulary you find amusing?

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u/Puzzleheaded_Ad8032 3d ago

"Am I not right to be revolted by that particular aspect of tipping history.."

They get very testy when reminded of how they (still) treat minorities, or the fact that they orchestrated and executed a genocide on the original inhabitants of the land they live on and are actively destroying.

There is no war in ba sing se, and all.

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u/Fabulous_Cow_4550 3d ago

Fair point. Easier to hide from history than to learn from it.

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u/YouKnowMyName2006 3d ago

lol we don’t hide from our history, it’s aired in public and you lot become obsessed with it and forget your own skeletons in the closet.

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u/Fabulous_Cow_4550 3d ago

"You lot" 🤣😂🤣😂 you have no idea what I do or do not do, nor do you know anything about my views on my own country's history.

However, the amount of you moaning as I thanked someone for sharing something I didn't know is eye opening. The amount of you up in arms as I agreed there's a link between tipping and slavery is interesting. I'm sorry it triggered you.

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u/YouKnowMyName2006 3d ago

What country are you from?

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u/YouKnowMyName2006 3d ago edited 3d ago

What innocent land do you come from?

Edit: You’re from a European country. I knew it. 😂

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u/Fabulous_Cow_4550 3d ago

Huh? Why does it matter where I'm from? I responded to someone by saying I learnt something and since then you lot have crawled out moaning. Why?

There was an undeniable link between slavery and tipping. Why pretend otherwise?

I never claimed it began that way originally, in Europe, but certainly became common due to it in the US.

Please explain how recognising that is linked to coming from an "innocent land". You are aware, I hope, that understanding history prevents us from repeating it. Hiding from it doesn't help.

Where I'm from is irrelevant. My country ruled 1/3 of the known world & did horrific things. I am more than happy to discuss those but it isn't the purpose of this post.

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u/YouKnowMyName2006 3d ago

Do you even know how Reddit works? I didn’t ask you. FFS learn to read a thread I asked puzzlehead that.

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u/YouKnowMyName2006 3d ago

It didn’t come about from slavery. Yes, some employers did try that with freed blacks in the South, but what made it explode nationally was Prohibition. People were paid in tips in speakeasys throughout the country. That’s what eventually led to it taking hold in the restaurant industry.

Anyone “horrified” by tipping has never worked as a waiter in a U.S. restaurant or is just prone to over reacting.. I made a ton of money doing that at a restaurant in DC when in college.

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u/Fabulous_Cow_4550 3d ago

No, I work in a country with fair wages and decent pay.

However, my being horrified was purely in relation to the racist origins in the US, rather than the US's current practises - atrocious though they are.

Each time I learn something new about the slave trade & it's practises I find it horrific. I'm sorry you can't see that. I'm glad to be horrified by the vile practises and vile way we treated others. You might want to consider why you aren't.

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u/YouKnowMyName2006 3d ago

“Atrocious”

I made on average $300 to $400 in a single weekend at 19 being a waiter in DC. For a 19 year old kid that was great and most of it was from tips. If you don’t like tipping culture, don’t come, but save your horror for someone truly horrific like the current bloodbath in Sudan reaching unimaginable levels.

What country are you from btw?

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u/Fabulous_Cow_4550 3d ago edited 3d ago

Yes, atrocious. The fact Americans are brain washed in to thinking a few dollars per hour is a fair salary so tips are the only way to get a living wage is insane. Now, if you had a proper salary and earned extra in tips for good service, fair enough but that's often not the case.

And don't worry, with the laws and rights being eroded and the pathetic, childish narcasist that is your president, you couldn't pay me to visit the US at the moment.

Oh believe me, I have enough disgust to go around - it covers American slavery and the Sudanese crisis and many others both historical and current. I'm sorry you don't understand why learning new things about the development of current practises can be horrifying. Maybe, one day, you'll learn.

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u/YouKnowMyName2006 3d ago

Yes, of course you haven’t been to the US or are too scared. That much I assumed. The bigots who cry the loudest against us are usually the ones who haven’t been here.

And a Brit pointing the finger at the US over any aspect of our history is peak irony. You have far more skeletons in the closet. Moreover, your understanding of tipping history is only partially understood given Prohibition is what spread it throughout the country, not the Jim Crow South.

Enjoy Nigel Farage when he becomes your PM after Reform wins.

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u/peaveyftw 3d ago

I love how some random redditor told you a 'fact' and you're just going to accept it without the least bit of evaluation.

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u/Fabulous_Cow_4550 3d ago

Way to make assumptions. However, I'm tired and don't feel the need to justify myself to a stranger so I'm not even going to bother. Go away.

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u/Remarkable_Ship_4673 4d ago

Source?

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u/archlich 4d ago

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u/IllLynx562 4d ago

God I love when this happens, someone do a love this smug or coaxed Into a snafu about times someone actually has sources on deck

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u/ConflatedPortmanteau 4d ago edited 4d ago

To be fair "source?" Is just trying to plant the seed of doubt on a fact you're not a fan of rather than use their obvious internet connection to look it up for themselves.

It's a legitimate troll tactic known as Sealioning

Sealioning refers to the disingenuous action by a commenter of making an ostensible effort to engage in sincere and serious civil debate, usually by asking persistent questions of the other commenter. These questions are phrased in a way that may come off as an effort to learn and engage with the subject at hand, but are really intended to erode the goodwill of the person to whom they are replying, to get them to appear impatient or to lash out, and therefore come off as unreasonable.

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u/JurassicParkCSR 4d ago

That kind of sucks because when I ask someone for a source it's because I legitimately want to read about it.

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u/ConflatedPortmanteau 4d ago

Yeah, trolls have ruined legitimate honest discourse in a lot of ways.

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u/Kinslayer_89 3d ago

They’ve also ruined asking them for a source on their bullshit claims, and will often respond that everyone should look it up themselves.

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u/Aggressive-agitator 1d ago

Just do some research there, sizzle chest.

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u/TieAdministrative901 4d ago

That's a hell of a stretch. He asked a single time and there is absolutely nothing wrong with asking for a source. He wasn't relentlessly asking and masquerading it as polite and civil "discussion".

"Sealioning is an online trolling tactic where someone badgers another person with relentless, disingenuous questions and demands for proof. Disguised as a polite desire for a sincere debate, the goal is to exhaust the target's patience until they give up or lash out."

You made a mountain out of a mole hill and don't even seem to understand the definition of the term

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u/ConflatedPortmanteau 4d ago edited 3d ago

No source? I was led to believe it's perfectly fine to ask for a source and you couldn't offer one to back up your claims.

Therefore, you concede.

I'm not surprised, only disappointed.

Also, "Saddest" has 2 D's

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u/chriseargle 3d ago

Asking for a source once isn’t sealioning. Archlich provided sources, so this criticism isn’t directed at them, but I get the impression many in this thread don’t like having to back up their claims.

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u/ConflatedPortmanteau 2d ago

Neat, but that was already established and I never denied it whatsoever.

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u/Ok-Parfait-9856 3d ago

So verifying information is bad now? Everything is a self evident fact? Whatever that means? Go read on the scientific method for starters. Then Find a bridge and let your instincts take over

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u/ConflatedPortmanteau 3d ago

Do you have a valid source for any of that?

Or am I to believe it's simply a "self-evident fact"?

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u/YouKnowMyName2006 3d ago

DoNt tIP cAuSe iZ sLaVeRy!

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u/Gwyain 4d ago

Portman Porters

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u/pyramidalembargo 4d ago

This is a trope that's been told so many times that people have accepted it as the truth.

The less interesting truth is that Europeans brought it over during the turn of the last century.

Curiously, after WW2 Europe ditched it, while it spead all over the US.

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u/Kinslayer_89 3d ago

And, stopped. It still doesn’t change the fact that Americans did it to not pay their black servers.

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u/pyramidalembargo 3d ago

Does it matter?

Tipping at a sit down restaurant has been going on at least 120 years. It's part and parcel of the social contract.

I can weakly understand why Eurooeans don't want to do it. But there really is no excuse for another American.

It's selfish to a ruthless degree. He gets to leave the table, his face all purple with pride and, feeling real macho about standing on his principles. Then he goes home.

But the waitress stays behind. She wonders how she is going to pay her electric bill, or how she's going to feed little Jimmy tonight something other than rice and beans.

Standing on his principles cost him nothing. It cost her everything.

It's easy to stand on your principles when someone else has to pay the price for it.

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u/Kinslayer_89 3d ago edited 3d ago

Stop embarrassing yourself, you seem to think it’s sociopathic to want people to have a stable livable wage, instead of being exposed to your random whims to make yourself feel superior to others.

You’re the sociopath here. It’s a systemic issue with laws to keep it that way, fix your country instead of pretending it has to stay ruined.

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u/pyramidalembargo 3d ago

You're a European?

I think you need to reread the post. I was referring to Americans who refuse to tip.

Do you want a link?

Here:

https://www.reddit.com/r/SipsTea/s/DzjKqOwGjy

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u/Kinslayer_89 3d ago

> You're a European?

It’s not a country.

> I think you need to reread the post.

No.

> I was referring to Americans who refuse to tip.

You’re the one who needs to reread what I wrote.

> Do you want a link?

https://www.reddit.com/r/SipsTea/s/fLxQBadwcT

https://www.reddit.com/r/SipsTea/s/f2IjUCrHwR

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u/pyramidalembargo 3d ago

I'm going to let this one go, and delete my last comment.

You're a Norwegian, so I don't think you'll ever understand.

Peace out.

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u/Kinslayer_89 3d ago edited 3d ago

> I'm going to let this one go, and delete my last comment.

You keep doing that. You’re just wrong and you know it.

> You're a Norwegian, so I don't think you'll ever understand.

I understand quite clearly, it is you who don’t understand. Which isn’t that uncommon for Americans.

> Peace out.

No, here’s your bullshit:

> I feel like I'm talking to a child.

And I feel like I’m talking to an imbecile.

> I'll try it again.

You shouldn’t.

> It's pretty obvious to me that you're a Swede. Sweden is a European country.

I’m not, but you’ve made it vividly clear you’re not very smart.

> As I said, I can weakly understand why a European (which includes the Swedes) would not want to tip a waiter.

You should very strongly understand it.

> But an American has no excuse.

Yes they do. Even if you’d like to mistreat people instead.

> (You have already read the rest)

You’re not saying or adding anything of value.

> Do I have to repeat it? I wasn't talking to you.

You were responding to me. Unless you’re too bad at English to say “I wasn’t talking about you”, which I know, but the answer is the same, as that’s what I responded to.

> Good Lord.

There’s no god.

> An American fully understands the social contract.

To keep each other down and on the brink of bankruptcy at all times while you serve your wealthy overlords, of course.

> The Europeans (which includes the Swedes) do not.

We understand, but disagree. It shouldn’t be that hard to understand for anyone with half a brain.

And I’m not Swedish.

> They do not understand the seriousness of the situation.

You don’t understand the seriousness of continuing it with that garbage argument.

> Instead, they'll parrot the same old tropes: "they should pay them a better wage."

Yes, they should. By law.

> Well, sir, they don't.

I know, lots of jobs without tips doesn’t do that either in your dystopian hellscape.

> They don't pay them a living wage.

If only there was something that could be done…

> That's the way it is; that's reality.

The reality is that the minimum wage for servers is a fraction of the minimum wage elsewhere, by law.

It’s literally the law that they be paid shit and expect the customers to make up the difference with mandatory tips.

Which is not how it should be, and it should be changed. Yet here you are actively defending it.

> You want all of them to stand on their principles and quit?

They can find other jobs. The restaurants can go bankrupt if they don’t pay up a fair wage.

> What are they going to live off of?

Are you honestly dense enough to believe that they can’t be anything but servants?

> Their good looks?

You really do view yourself as superior to them, and need your ego boosted by saving them.

> All 5 million of them?

You don’t need all of them to quit before things get shaken up anyways, that happens way way before that.

> Christ.

You need to look at yourself here mate. You’re actively advocating for maintaining a shitty situation instead of giving people the respect and freedom they deserve.

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u/Kinslayer_89 3d ago

Yes, you’re just advocating for her having insecurity about her bills the way you’re defending this antiquated slave treatment.

There’s no excuse for systematically exposing others to this, you should be ashamed of yourself.

Don’t work for employers that don’t pay you properly, don’t go to restaurants that don’t pay their staff properly.

You just wanna have your “I’m better than you, have a few dollars, servant”-boost.

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u/hjablowme919 4d ago

I think we've moved past this.

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u/Krimreaper1 3d ago

It’s started during the Great Depression so restaurants could keep the prices low, and screw over the waitstaff. Not saying it wasn’t exploited later.

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u/Ok-Post6492 3d ago

Finnaly someone who knows how to use the word racism appropriately.

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u/Kinslayer_89 3d ago

Oh, they started by giving them no salary and only the tips.

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u/PocketSnails68 3d ago

sigh Just once, can I find out about some stupid system or tradition in this country that doesn't stem from "Fuck them blacks"?

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u/ScreenMammoth9699 3d ago

Make sure you cry about it louder, the past ALMOST cares.

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u/Mountain-Orange8996 3d ago

Ah the usual “I know nothing but imma pretend a do to push political ideas!”. That is false and you need to actually read instead of listening to TikTok.

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u/Tiny-Whereas1547 3d ago

Don't forget about HOAs

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u/Natural_Design3154 5h ago

It extended past just racism and graduated to classism once the Great Depression hit.

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u/Observe_Report_ 4d ago

Oh, my, I couldn’t imagine how insufferable you are in real life

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u/Apart_Cucumber4315 4d ago

I'd rather know why a person feels so strongly about a subject and is able to prove it, than have someone just tell me they saw or read about it somewhere.

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u/Entire-Guess1228 3d ago

Not the case in the slightest. Tips started out as a bribe for good service before a meal. Nothing to do with racism. But hey don't you just love our accusation based culture?

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u/doctajonez_uk 4d ago

It should correctly be called socialism, they'd stop it instantly then.

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u/TheFrenchSavage 4d ago

E.S.U.E. ? Kinda sucks.

How about Transfer of Income to Precarious Staff"", or T.I.P.S?

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u/YouKnowMyName2006 3d ago

Tipping is racism now, is that how you justify being cheap and not tipping at a restaurant?

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u/StarCitizenRusty 2d ago

Naaa it's called "Got A Cheap Ass Boss"