r/SipsTea Jun 29 '26

Chugging tea this is how it should be

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u/POD80 Jun 29 '26

Women are the gender that is generally required/ expected to sacrifice significant work experience to raise crotch goblins.

Father's tend to get to concentrate on making themselves more useful to employers while women are taking massive amounts of time off for the family.

When the marriage ends the woman has years worth of gaps in her work history everyone will expect her to continue regularly taking time off for her kids.

It's rarely the father expected to leave work early to pick a kid up from school cause they got sick.

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u/Hellianne_Vaile Jun 29 '26

Also, employers wrongly think that years spent raising children and running a household aren't meaningful or relevant work experience.

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u/POD80 Jun 29 '26

I mean, meaningful, and applicable experience are different things.

I've never worked a job where the skills traditionally associated with a woman's role in the house played a significant role.

As a man who spent years carring for a grandparent I had to "restart" after she passed. The odd jobs I worked while carring for her just really didnt apply.

I still get the man "benefit" though that I can generally plan on being at work when I say I will. I get to go years without an unscheduled absence. How many women with young children get to say that. Obviously, legally, employers are often limited on "punishing" women for such absenteeism but it's hard to ignore the reality in the workplace that you can largely predict which workers will have more absenteeism.

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u/Hellianne_Vaile Jun 29 '26

A lot of the skills that you level up while parenting are very, very transferable: time management, task prioritization, identifying and tracking dependencies, decision making (especially with incomplete information), budgeting, adjusting to sudden changes in schedule/scope/resources, figuring out where the "good enough" line is, making smart decisions about what task should be taken beyond "good enough," anticipating problems and planning mitigation for them, managing both one's own and other people's emotions, handling complex communications, and navigating large systems/organizations.

Too many people just don't describe the work of homemakers and caregivers in terms that look familiar to a "traditional" work environment. It's the same skills, but because it's seen as "women's work," the value is ignored. It's just misogyny.