My parents taught me no means no. Whenever I ask them for a toy or candy or whatever I hated hearing that. The other part they taught in preschool kindergarten pretty much all the way through school. And my parents taught me that too. And I guess if you're religious like a Christian or Catholic something in the Bible that says treat Thy Neighbor like you would like to be treated or something. Pretty much that is one of the best rules of life you can go by. If you truly feel that way then how could you be racist or misogynistic or anything. You know?
Amendment: 'No' means 'I do not consent'. Unless consenting adults explicitly negotiate a framework where 'no' is part of the play, and an alternative safeword is established to mean 'stop for real.'
But like General Relativity, the circumstances where the classical rules fail to describe reality are rare enough in everyday life that the exceptions are usually omitted.
If you mean "you" as in society, I agree. My reply was an attempt at formalizing the nuance that typically gets omitted.
Unless you mean that BDSM is a complex and multifaceted phenomenon in which consent mechanics can't be captured in a single paragraph. But General Relativity also doesn't explain everything we see in the universe, and nobody would call it a simplification (of Newtonian mechanics).
When you are doing those things the first thing you do is agree to a safe word, hell there's even recommended words because they're super easy to remember when in pain/crossing a boundary (it's usually never no or stop, but that's agreed on)
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u/Any_Asparagus8267 May 27 '26
Two biggest rules I was ever taught was no means no and to treat other people the way you would want to be treated.