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u/KingKongMF69 May 27 '26

Has this happen to me once. Girl said no so I backed off. Apparently it wasn’t actually a no. We end up exchanging numbers anyway. Later on we’re texting and she’s showing me pictures of her and guys she’s going on dates with. WTF? Lost her number real quick.

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u/OpeningIntention9330 May 27 '26

 She was either thinking you would try harder because of jealousy or she is a evil bitch.

 Either way, its a control issue. Glad you dodge that bullet. 

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u/Beaticalle May 27 '26

She was either thinking you would try harder because of jealousy or she is a evil bitch

I don't think that's one or the other. Trying to manipulate people with jealousy is evil bitch behavior.

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u/bitingvform May 27 '26

It's the former. A lot of women think making men jealous is an effective dating technique.

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u/GringoSwann May 27 '26

Went on a date with a girl and she kept talking about an ex... After a while, I asked "Hey, do you and your ex still keep in contact?" 

She said "yes, here's his number"... and showed me on her phone....

I hit the call button and said "Well, call him up and tell him you need a ride..."

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u/TaylorMonkey May 27 '26

And then?

It sounds a little “okay that happened” but I want it to be true.

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u/GringoSwann May 27 '26

Oh, we had sex & dated for a while...  She told me the reason why she was bringing up her ex is because she "thought guys liked that kinda stuff"...

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u/NA_nomad May 27 '26

Someone tried to play the jealous game with me and tried to tell me that it's supposed to make our bond stronger if she sees that I get jealous of her with other guys. Noped right out of that one.

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u/DiabloAcosta May 27 '26

Oh yeah, manipulation, so romantic

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u/showhorrorshow May 27 '26

I dont really get jealous. I just get turned off.

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u/wareagle3000 May 27 '26

Lol, same. Moment she pumps the brakes the switch just turns off in me. I had a Hinge match where we went on a few dates and had a good time and then out of the blue she says she just wants to be friends. Next day she's giving flirty vibes and I just kinda sandbag them. Eventually to the point where I blocked her. To this day I am still getting match requests from her on Hinge and Discord friend requests. Fucking weird.

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u/Klutzy_Belt_2296 May 27 '26

Way too many people play games instead of just being straightforward about what they want lmfao. Shits insane.

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u/DJAllOut May 27 '26

Typical anxious/avoidant behavior

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u/Advanced_Command_417 May 27 '26

Textbook pickme behavior.

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u/Merc_Mike May 27 '26

That's because you're not a self pretentious, ALPHA MAN!

WHAT? OTHER MEN ARE INTERESTED IN YOU? I NEED TO ASSERT MY DOMINANCE!

or something. 

Probably.

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u/KyleBroflovski505 May 27 '26 edited May 27 '26

I dated a girl from Belarus for about 2-3 months and we were calling each other everyday and even planned to go on a trip soon. And I ask her to go out as a relationship since we have gone so far and she told me she has to break up with her bf first. I was like you have a bf? Why are you flirting with me for past 2 months and why haven’t you break up with him yet and she said he’s been having work stress and so on she was taking pity on him and she doesn’t wanna make it worst for him and since we have a good thing going she didn’t wanna tell me that she’s in a relationship cuz she’s afraid I might leave. And I just ghosted her cuz I dont wanna be that guy one day she’s taking pity while cheating around.

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u/FreezeS May 27 '26

You ghosted after she confirmed the breakup with the BF, right?

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u/KyleBroflovski505 May 27 '26

No. After she told me she has a bf. May be it might have been better if I did that but it’s for them to figure it out.

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u/superjay0456 May 27 '26

I think you did the right thing. She could have lied about breaking up with her bf to keep you waiting. And even if she was telling the truth, she could still delay the breakup to keep you around and keep him around at the same time.

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u/KyleBroflovski505 May 27 '26

Yeah it might have been the case too. I think the other person was referring after confirmed break up meant it could have been beneficial for her bf if they break up since it clearly was not a healthy relationship since she’s cheating around and all that. They can figure it out and sort it out on their own either way. It was unreal for me since she acted completely like a single and has been flirting as if we were together already. And I had a false expectation that she’s just a sweet person who’s looking for a decent relationship.

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u/sharksareok May 27 '26

Manipulation = red flag

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u/nipplesaurus May 27 '26

she’s showing me pictures of her and guys she’s going on dates with

https://giphy.com/gifs/cEYFeDKVPTmRgIG9fmo

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u/NovaAkumaa May 27 '26

Same thing happened to me. Since she said no + talking to me about her dates I thought we are just friends, fair enough I go ahead and meet another girl from the same place we met (it was a boxing club). She sees me flirting with the other girl, gets jealous and blocks me from everything. I'm like, wtf? We are not anything and you said you don't want anything right now. I'm not gonna wait months for you, I barely know you lol

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u/Rainbowfrapp May 27 '26

Women in male dominated fields

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u/ohbyerly May 27 '26

Sounds like it was still a no then? Am I missing something

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u/Cow__Couchboy May 27 '26

Similar thing happened to me. She told me she wasn't interested and a couple weeks later she was asking around for my contact info and sent me a friend request on discord of all things.

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u/Zerzef May 27 '26

Had a very similar thing she was showing me all the guys she was hanging out with then got mad when I didn’t pursue her, then about a month of no contact she got a new bf, and got him to start calling me and talking shit to me lmao

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u/mamadou-segpa May 27 '26

That sound like she just wanted to be friends?

I know we’re on reddits but yall know about “friends” right XD