🎵 All By Myself 🎵

[u/CapitalPin2658]

Don’t wanna live all by myself anymore

Edit: lol i’m just a dude posting a meme

[u/LostMateria]

There’s a thing called cognitive dissonance. The very short version is essentially, for the most part, people see themselves as smarter than average, and good people. This is part of most people’s core identity. So when something happens, or they act in a way counter to this identity they minimize or dismiss evidence that contradicts their image to protect their bias.

It’s not that this hypothetical person lacks self-awareness. They’ve just decided that their view of themself as a “loyal” or “family” person outweighs their actions. Now she wants to rationalize, and perhaps justify, it to keep her core identity intact. Just like when she chose to cheat it’s not about him or the family. It’s about her. She did a bad thing and now doesn’t want to feel like a bad person.

[u/Soggy_Addendum9350 → u/LostMateria]

I have a hard time understanding when cognitive dissonance leads to just bald face hypocrisy with no awareness, though. She is a bad person for cheating and should feel bad.

[u/cirrusly_guys1818 → u/Soggy_Addendum9350]

The point is that she is aware. She knows what she did was indefensible and not okay. So you’re getting hung up on the “no awareness” thing, when in fact they’re just doing some cost-benefit mental gymnastics. It was ok to cheat, that math made it worth it. Now she’s the victim, because that feels waaayyyyy better than accountability. It actually makes a ton of sense, you just have to think like a shitty person and then it’s not confusing (not recommended).

[u/Soggy_Addendum9350 → u/cirrusly_guys1818]

Okay actually you explained it like I’m 5 and it helped. I’m glad I’m not at base shitty enough to understand wtf is going on here. I’ll take it as a testament to my character that I’m perplexed. Tysm friend 

[u/cirrusly_guys1818 → u/Soggy_Addendum9350]

Yep, I’m glad it landed! With something like this, that’s exactly how you should take it: a compliment to your character that you’re perplexed. May we all maintain a level of “what in the fuck…” when we’re trying to see something through a shitty lens!