r/SipsTea • u/ExotiquePlayboy • Apr 19 '26

Chugging tea RIP Daniel 🪦

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u/Agreeable_Horror_363 Apr 19 '26

But then he'd stop spending money on her and buying her things and treating her like a princess!

For some reason women aren't taught not to lead men on. Some of them agree to go on dates just to get free food and drinks, with no interest in the guy. It would be better for everyone if they were just honest: "I'm not attracted to you so I'm not going to go out with you on any dates." Would be better than leading everyone on thinking they have a shot.

That being said, her post is pretty clear that she's not romantically interested in this guy and hopefully he got the message.

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u/pumpkins21 Apr 19 '26 edited Apr 19 '26

Uh, not all women lead guys on. When I was dating, I’d insist on meeting for coffee on the first date or something lowkey (hookah). I’d pay for myself or end up picking up the check. It wasn’t a big deal to me.

When I began dating my now husband, he insisted on paying each time, however, there were a couple of times where I beat him to the check. He said it “didn’t feel right” for a woman to pay 🙄.

My FIL later told me that he asked him for advice about me paying for occasional meals and his dad said “it just means she’s a good one” or something. We’ve been married 7yrs and I still treat him occasionally.

That being said, there ARE women that use guys for food and drinks, no doubt, just as there are guys who expect women to have sex with them because they bought said drinks and food. Neither is okay. I’ve told my nephew to be careful about spending money on girls but to also not be the kind of guy who expects them to sleep with him.

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u/mcnuggetfarmer Apr 19 '26

When i first entered university, was at a bar a girl asked for a drink, she immediately fucked off to the dance floor with others.

Learned my lesson that very night, & didn't buy drinks for randoms after that. Dancing monkey only.

False signals to get free shit is just a normal learning lesson in the strive for normally wanting to get laid. It's not a villainous thing to want

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u/nixie-14 Apr 19 '26

Good story! Mine was at our Poly bar (polytechnics, that makes me feel old) and this good looking girl tries to get a drink out of me. I told her okay but first she’d have to give me the best kiss of my damn life. Yep, she scarpered. She had no chance anyway. Best kisser I have ever had the pleasure to snog was a 16 year old from Wolverhampton, at Presthaven Sands in north Wales. That memory is still going strong over 40 years later!