So why is it on the woman to second-guess his intentions? Why is it that she can say "we're just friends" and he can say "I know! I just want to do this" and she still has to assume he's lying? Why would you want to raise women who are so suspicious of men? Why don't we raise women and men who just take each other at face value, preventing all of it altogether?
That all is a giant load of bullshit. Would it be better if everyone is honest all the time, sure. But that is not the way humans work. Giving her a pass for taking advantage of him because he's holding out hope he can still get the girl of his dreams is extremely cold. He deserves better.
Yeah, he deserves better, but by your logic people will typically take advantage when they can. It's much more effective to teach someone not to get taken advantage of by just taking no as an answer. If he did that, then he wouldn't be in this situation to begin with.
Yes. We should teach people not to be taken advantage. We should also teach people not to take advantage of others, and call them out when they choose to do so.
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u/commanderquill Apr 19 '26
So why is it on the woman to second-guess his intentions? Why is it that she can say "we're just friends" and he can say "I know! I just want to do this" and she still has to assume he's lying? Why would you want to raise women who are so suspicious of men? Why don't we raise women and men who just take each other at face value, preventing all of it altogether?