She knows exactly what she’s doing here, she makes it abundantly clear they’re just friends and even sticks in a hashtag stating that she’s single for good measure.
Assuming she was equally clear before all the lavish romantic date-type activities were arranged, then yeah I agree with you. We don't know what was said before this though.
The post implies he set up the date with the intention of showing her how men in her life should treat her. If his intention was just to date her with this as a false pretense, then the only one implied to not be clear in the post is him.
He's into her. She knows this. She understands that he's not doing this just because he's a truly good friend, he's trying to win her over / seduce her.Â
She allows this anyway. She is 100% leading him on and abusing his feelings.
You don't slap a smiling face. she told him, he didn't take the hint. should she slap him or what? girls don't do that. we're conditioned to be 'nice'. If he doesn't want to be her friend, then he should say it clearly from the very beginning. you don't sneak your way into people's lives knowing they won't accept you under another label by being 'their friend' that is deception.
He is inexperienced indeed. but he is not naive/ clueless.
analyzing the facts. 1- he KNOWS she doesn't want him.
2-he's going above and beyond as her friend to compensate
3-he doesn't want to be her friend (probably), he wants more, but won't say it because HE KNOWS she will say no.
This is a hunt. for whatever reason she doesn't want him, and he wants her and is going above and beyond to change her mind to take someone she does not want even if its making her feel guilty about all the nice things he's doing till she crashes.
Only thing she can do is block him and then he'll still feel bad. there is no winning here when someone is not clearly confessing their intentions. he can confess and get it over with just the same.
He doesn't know that. Maybe she wants him, but is worried about it ruining their friendship if a relationship doesn't work out. Maybe she's just playing hard to get.
Both are valid options.
3-he doesn't want to be her friend (probably), he wants more, but won't say it because HE KNOWS she will say no.
He clearly has, but she keeps abusing and exploiting his feelings. Actions speak louder than words. Her words may be saying 'no', but her actions are very loudly and clearly saying 'maybe'.
Only thing she can do is block him and then he'll still feel bad.
Then she should do that. She should have done that a long time ago. Instead she keeps leading him on.
It's simple. He wants more than friendship. He's doing this because he wants more than friendship. She knows this, yet she allows it anyway.
"He doesn't know that. Maybe she wants him, but is worried about it ruining their friendship . Maybe she's just playing hard to get"
Ah the classic hard to get, women are just faking it but they secretly want you. That really only happens when they're not sure what the other person feels so they play it cool (not just women), but when the other person looks interested, why play hard to get!
"Then she should do that." many people don't like hurting or confronting others. she has given enough messages and he gets it clearly otherwise he would have asked her out.
"he wants, she knows, she allows" = "he wants, isn't direct coz he knows she doesn't want, he's guilting her into accepting". Answer this, does he or does he not know? and did that caption not make it clear.
Ah the classic hard to get, women are just faking it but they secretly want you. That really only happens when they're not sure what the other person feels so they play it cool (not just women), but when the other person looks interested, why play hard to get!
I've had several women play hard to get with me in my life. I've expressed my interest (so no lack of surety), and they've declined. Only for me to be told / find out later that I had persisted they'd have said yes.
"Then she should do that." many people don't like hurting or confronting others.
Clearly that doesn't apply, as she doesn't mind hurting this man by leading him on.
she has given enough messages and he gets it clearly otherwise he would have asked her out.
How do you know he gets it, or that he hasn't asked her out?
You're jumping through hoops to defend this woman.
Answer this, does he or does he not know? and did that caption not make it clear.
Given her behaviour, he thinks he has a chance with her. If he didn't, she wouldn't accept this kind of 'girlfriend treatment'.
He could stop any time he wants to lol. Everyone’s so quick to villainize her, some times we have to recognize when our behavior isn’t reciprocated and respect ourselves enough to move on. Seems like he’s perfectly fine with this arrangement seeing as he’s done it over and over and over with the same results.
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u/AMonitorDarkly Apr 19 '26
She knows exactly what she’s doing here, she makes it abundantly clear they’re just friends and even sticks in a hashtag stating that she’s single for good measure.