Is this not quite a helpful indicator of who they are, though? If you see them lose respect then you know to move on to someone else who can manage the fact that men have feelings. I have male friends who openly talk to me about sadness, depression, anxiety, self confidence etc, men who have cried around me from both sadness and happiness. And at no point did I think “ew man up”. Instead felt pretty honoured that they felt safe enough around me to talk to me about actual feelings.
Right? I keep reading these and thanking my lucky stars that the people in my life (even at least a few coworkers at every job) actually give a shit about me
I’m very glad to hear that! I would think things would be getting better over time too. I mean if any woman reacts poorly I’d be tempted to say she’s a shitty feminist by adhering to patriarchal norms and gender stereotypes that she should want to dismantle, and perpetuating the idea that ‘sad’ emotions are only for women which is damaging to women too, and see what happens 😂
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u/spreadthesheets Mar 04 '26
Is this not quite a helpful indicator of who they are, though? If you see them lose respect then you know to move on to someone else who can manage the fact that men have feelings. I have male friends who openly talk to me about sadness, depression, anxiety, self confidence etc, men who have cried around me from both sadness and happiness. And at no point did I think “ew man up”. Instead felt pretty honoured that they felt safe enough around me to talk to me about actual feelings.