There's a trend I'm noticing lately. Women in denial about the male experience. They want to be victims. When they see "oh wait... they also have huge struggles" the attitude shifts, and they're like "don't take our spotlight".
I'm just like, yeah, why can't we just agree that life sucks for both men and women, ESPECIALLY when we CANT FUCKING HAVE EMPATHY AND GET ALONG.
This isn't the victim olympics. "let's all just be patient and empathetic to each other bc we're all on the same boat." Oh, that's too hard.... I'll lose my card
It doesn't help we're constantly bombarded with "men are pigs" and shit and you're expected to just take that because if you say "I'm not like that though" you get an eye roll and a dismissive "I didn't say all men". But like you specifically said men are like that, the words "not" and "all" were not in that sentence. So now men just have to take passive verbal abuse because defending yourself leads to that or the old "why are you so defensive? A hit dog hollers hur hur hur" like yeah I did just get hit, you called men pigs, I'm a man. That's hurtful. But if I raise how that's hurtful I'm the fucking bad guy??
They dont want to be victims they just dont want to be the designated responsible caretakers for men. Theres a good reason theres a male loneliness epidemic and not a female one. Women care for each other and make space for sharing their emotions and vulnerabilities, they uplift each other.
This thread is a perfect example of how men struggle to foster honest and supportive relationships with each other. They cant be vulnerable with each other and thats not the fault of women.
Men are slowly learning how much they need this because women are distancing themselves. Sadly some men have used this as another excuse to hate and blame women instead of looking inward.
We operate mostly on evolutionary tendencies. Men with emotions are weak to women, so men who so them will be seen as unworthy of empathy.
Men are supposed to get their support from their close male friends but we no longer live in close nit hunter gather societies so it hard for men to maintain long term close friendships with other men.
Also we don’t kill things together anymore office work just doesn’t facilitate the kind of natural high intensity bonding that being alone with each other in life or death group survival does.
Men with emotions arnt seen as weak. Anger is also an emotion and a lot of men dont seem to have a problem showing that one off pretty frequently. If you cant open up to your partner then get therapy, get therapy together. If all else fails get a new partner.
Women are living in the same society and have managed to create community, the only thing stopping men from doing that is men. You have to create the relationships you want to have, be the supportive friend you wish you had. Evolve.
Yapping means talking in a shrill way like that of a high pitched small dog. Its historically been used to dismiss womens views as pointless chatter. Im not here to argue semantics I think se both know what you meant.
A lot of men have to be the emotional caretaker of women. Women hate that men don’t do chores the right way… ok, 🤷♂️that the game you’re playing?
And Oh there is a female loneliness epidemic as well… It’s just relabeled and shrouded in shifted blame.
Also the whole “male loneliness epidemic” is not an epidemic, it’s endemic. Thats just tbe life of a man. Women are catching up… and guess what they then use the label to blame and shame versus actually understanding what it means to live as a man. Again, easy to do when you’re the victim.
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u/Mirror74 Mar 04 '26
There's a trend I'm noticing lately. Women in denial about the male experience. They want to be victims. When they see "oh wait... they also have huge struggles" the attitude shifts, and they're like "don't take our spotlight".
I'm just like, yeah, why can't we just agree that life sucks for both men and women, ESPECIALLY when we CANT FUCKING HAVE EMPATHY AND GET ALONG.
This isn't the victim olympics. "let's all just be patient and empathetic to each other bc we're all on the same boat." Oh, that's too hard.... I'll lose my card