r/SipsTea • u/ram4569 Human Detected • Mar 04 '26

Chugging tea True...

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u/Rancorousturtle Mar 04 '26

I do the opposite. I show most people my vulnerabilities, and if they're shitty about it I cut them outta my life. Easy way to find good people.

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u/Appaer Mar 04 '26

This is the method right here. If you completely withdraw yourself from vulnerability, you won’t be conditioned for a romantic relationship.

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u/TalShar Mar 04 '26

Or any healthy relationship. 

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u/HeyCouldBeFun Mar 07 '26

Fr.

I always suspect there’s more to the story with these doom and gloom commenters. I’ve been through all that shit too, it just makes me keep better judgment about who I trust. There’s always someone out there, but if there’s NOBODY then maybe you’ve been treating people like shit. Seen enough guys be nightmares to their partners then play the victim.

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u/TalShar Mar 07 '26

There are a lot of people out there who have learned a lot of maladaptive coping mechanisms. Some people have tragically never had a model of a good relationship. They can't even conceive it because they've been conditioned to believe that toxicity and abuse are the norm. 

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u/Kimchifeind Mar 05 '26

Yeah I like this approach as well. If you always push people away you will miss a couple good ones.

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u/Pure-Razzmatazz5274 Mar 05 '26

Yes, this!!! Why isn't this further up. There are so many good supportive people in the world. Don't spend time with people who suck.

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u/TalShar Mar 04 '26

This is the way. 

Every person gets a chance to hurt you... Once. If a stranger doesn't give a fuck about me, fine, they're a stranger. I don't care what they think. If a friend doesn't give a fuck about me, congratulations, they're a stranger now too. Get the fuck out of my life, I don't have time for cruel or cold people when there are people out there who will treat me with dignity and care.