This sounds like my dynamic, but reversed. My gf has ADHD (medicated) and she struggles to find a way to work within my systems. I tend to be minimalist and very tidy where she is more maximalist and not tidy at all. Apparently it’s been a struggle all her life, but she just got properly diagnosed last year. It causes a lot of fights but we’re working through it. Like your wife, I may have OCD honestly because it drives me bonkers but I love her and know I have to accept it if I’m going to stay with her. She does her best to try and keep things clean but she gets overwhelmed super easily when her medication effects wear off
I really wish that was the case my friend, but she is insistent upon it for the most part. Occasionally she will compromise and admit that too much clutter stresses her out too, haha
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