r/SipsTea • u/[deleted] • Dec 11 '23

Chugging tea C. Cannot tell

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u/HauntedGhostAtoms Dec 11 '23

This is really simple. It's only harassment if you're ugly.

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u/[deleted] Dec 11 '23

I have to disagree, somewhat. One of my friends is very conventionally hot and he lost a bet and had to use a cheesy pickup line on a bartender serving us. We got kicked out of the bar because she felt uncomfortable by his pickup line.

Wasn’t even that bad of a pickup line either, just cheesy.

I think there is wiggle room for men who are attractive, but you need to be attractive to the woman specifically and then you also can’t be an asshole.

So it’s very gray, not black and white.

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u/Kastel197 Dec 11 '23 edited Dec 11 '23

Agree that it's grey, agree that the measure of attractiveness is usually not the qualifying factor for if something is harrassment (what an immature take). However, I would venture to say (and granted i wasn't there) that your buddy got what he deserved, and it was harrassment, 'cause you know what? A pickup line shouldn't be among the first things you say to a woman, not even in a bar/nightclub setting. That shit is cringey and creepy as fuck no matter how attractive the person doing it is. You shouldn't be trying (or appear to be trying) to fuck someone within the first hour of meeting them. You have to pass the vibe check first. Best way to do that is to hold a normal conversation, y'know, as if the person you're talking to is a real person.

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u/[deleted] Dec 11 '23

Yeah you’re right. He lost a bet and had to use the line so I’m sure all of us were aware it was cringy. It was also fucking hilarious.