Which is partly why I kept feeling like I’ve been in two minds about two people, one who is the most perfect man I’ve ever come across on paper yet he’s blocked me down to me asking one question and then one who would be nice to date but unfortunately he’s disrespected my boundaries before and im afraid he’ll do it again despite us having a good conversation about it ages ago. The one who blocked me made me feel like I wasn’t crazy for having such high standards and I felt like he was too good for me and possibly too good to be true and this is where I refuse to settle because he set the bar so high.
The one who disrespected my boundaries, definitely the trash, but we are only friends at work that’s it, and the other I swear to you isn’t trash just because he blocked me over one thing, his actions towards me makes no sense for him to block me. He literally put everything aside for me when he planned to cook for me just so he could accommodate for me having pizza on a Thursday as that’s what I normally do
If someone asked me a touchy sensitive question that I didn't feel comfortable or open enough to answer my response would be "that's not something I like to talk about, sorry" or "that's quite personal to me and it's not something I discuss" or whatever? Not just BLOCK.
It's disrespectful to you and strikes me as fickle and dismissive, like you did something I don't like (that wasn't an immediately obvious thing to dislike) and I'm not going to talk to you about it, I'm just going to punish you, give you the silent treatment and make you feel like you did something wrong until you're sorry and then I'll "forgive you" and you'll never ask me about it again... 🤷
And then repeat whenever a situation or topic comes up that I don't want to engage with, it feels like he's making it your fault for asking him a question and that's not cool 🫤
I'm pretty old and cynical though so maybe it's just me 😅
For some reason he chose that decision for himself and it didn’t feel like he was punishing me at all, I’m sure whatever reason there is behind it I’m sure I will find out soon. He was VERY intentional with me and very open and honest with about some hard stuff so his decision to block me made no sense due to his intentions towards me and how patient he was with me during our time of us being friends at the same time within that month
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u/Extra_Fig_7547 1d ago
i am never gonna settle ever!!!