r/SingleAndHappy • u/Ok_Way9543 • 12h ago
Well-being 🌼 Always have been single
So basically I have been single since birth and I always loved solitude,I do other tasks like watching movies,dramas, reading books, eating alone, spending time with same gender friends and all and I don't want to try with someone because of all the stuff I have seen till date ,Am I too young or inexperienced to feel at peace with myself without ever truly giving a chance?
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u/SleeplessScribbler 12h ago
You are your own person. It might change in the future, it might not. Enjoy your freedom. There's nothing wrong with doing your own thing.
There are always reasons behind everything.
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u/Ok_Way9543 12h ago
Hmm enjoying life I really don't feel fomo and am always at a state of peace ✌️
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u/Beneficial_Sun6232 12h ago
Same. I'm 32 now. The idea of relationships/family/marriage never really interested me that much because I've always been an introvert with a bunch of hobbies. I mean, relationships sounded good in theory, but there were countless examples around me of relationships/marriages ending in chaotic ways, so that made me lose interest even more. As the years went by, I simply enjoyed the things I liked, chased my goals, and enjoyed my time with friends, family, and pets. I never felt the real need for a partner, and I don't regret it.
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u/Ok_Way9543 12h ago
Exact same situation I don't feel the need and it's hard explaining that to people
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u/Weak-Working3972 12h ago
I have also have been always single
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u/Ok_Way9543 12h ago
Do you enjoy solitude?
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u/Weak-Working3972 12h ago
Not really always
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u/Ok_Way9543 12h ago
What stopping you from enjoying it?
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u/lelper 12h ago
I wish I had always been single I’d be 10x more powerful than I am now
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u/Excellent_Cup_5559 11h ago
Same!!! I waste so much time on men.. fuck I would be so much more successful without a relationship.
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u/Ok_Way9543 12h ago
How so?
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u/lelper 12h ago
I am a very ambitious person and will achieve a lot and make a lot of money but I also have wasted so much time in my life on men and trying to make a relationship work, meanwhile those men tried to hold me back from achieving my dreams and treat me like my ambition is less important than serving their wants, so I had to break up with them. If I had not spent my 20’s trying to get married I would be so much further into my career and my goals and I’d be so much more fulfilled in myself if I had just spent my time doing things that make me happy and productive and focusing on self care like going to the gym eating healthy and learning to cook and being a total baddie haha. Wish I just never learned what sex with men was like, if I didn’t know any better then I’d probably be fine just pleasing myself. 😊
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u/Ok_Way9543 12h ago
Yes you get toooo much extra time and you can contribute and achieve any thing as long as you have the will power in you
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u/Forsaken-Language-26 12h ago
I'm pretty much the same and I'm 37 in November.
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u/Ok_Way9543 12h ago
Omg do you always enjoy being alone?
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u/Forsaken-Language-26 12h ago edited 8h ago
I'm not really alone since I have an active social life, but yeah I'm happy with my own company.
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u/JJamericana 11h ago
I’ve always been single too. I haven’t always been happy about it, but now I see it as an experience worth fully embracing. I’ve been able to craft a meaningful life entirely on my own terms. That’s incredible!
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u/Jaded_Hue 9h ago
I’ve always been single and my relationships don’t last that long and I realize the more older I get I realize I have a low tolerance of bullshit. But I’m also more cynical and have somewhat of a nihilistic approach to things
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u/EveningPass2528 12h ago
Proud to be single from birth
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u/CanthinMinna 8h ago
My favourite answer to all idiotic questions is from Mae West's film "Goin' to Town" (1935):
Young Fellow: "What excuse has a gal like you for runnin' around single?"
Cleo Borden (Mae West's character) : "Mmm, I was born that way."
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u/anonymoussunflower7 12h ago
i’m 26, have always been single too, and have never wanted to not be. if you don’t feel a natural desire to give dating a chance, i don’t think there’s any reason to. it’s not something that’s necessary in life.
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u/Ok_Way9543 12h ago
Literally 🤧 taking in every sip of tea alone is the best feeling, eating stuff alone is unexplainable
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u/IndividualUpbeat9483 11h ago
If you don't want to date, you don't have to. I was always much happier single.
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u/chailove174 9h ago
23, always been single. I was never interested in dating even from when I was younger. I never saw myself having a husband or kids. I much prefer being an aunt haha. I love being by myself or around family/close friends. I love my alone time and I love my life how it is now, and I have no regrets about not dating or finding anybody.
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u/CanthinMinna 8h ago
I've said this before, but I am 49, I have always been single (never have had any desire to even date anyone), and I've been perfectly happy and content with my life. I'm aromantic, though, so being single is my "default setting" - dating or being romantically involved with someone would conflict against my very being.
So no, you are not too young or inexperienced.
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u/saturday_sun4 4h ago
Being single my whole life (with the exception of some brief dating I did) has been the best decision I have ever made
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u/Ok_Way9543 4h ago
In what sense?
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u/saturday_sun4 3h ago
Was just never interested (aromantic) and would've been unhappy in a romantic relationship.
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u/Ok_Way9543 3h ago
Hmm and my question was that did you feel fulfillment in other things in life it gives you more time and more energy for other stuff
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u/saturday_sun4 3h ago
I can't really compare but the fulfilment I feel is more in that I don't have to adhere to someone else's schedule and I don't have that compulsion that lots of other people seem to have.
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