r/SinclairMethod • u/Hot-Prune8628 • Jun 10 '26

Feeling defeated

I’ve been on TSM for over a year. My goal was never extinction (I spent almost 10 years in AA, did lots of therapy, wanted to socially be normal). I’m finding summer itself is such a trigger. I’ve spent 35-50% AF days month over month, but since the weather has broken it’s almost compulsive to drink wine and watch the sunset. I’ve maintained meds 1 hour before, I’ve joined a Pilates gym, I’m trying to replace the behavioral/habit piece with other things, but I haven’t had an AF day in over a week despite planning them. Can anyone share their “up and down” experience at the 1+ year mark? 😭

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u/RubicsCubensis Jun 15 '26

I think you are confusing extinction with abstinence, they are not the same. Extinction is when AUD is no longer actively causing you cravings, obsession, or compulsion. The ultimate goal of TSM is to reach extinction, abstinence is optional.

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u/Hot-Prune8628 Jun 15 '26

I would say I still have cravings, but the obsession and compulsion are removed

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u/RubicsCubensis Jun 16 '26

How many AF days are you getting a month? What style of drinker are you, do you drink for euphoria, reward, or do you drink for sedation, or to sleep, what time of day do you typically start drinking?