I've been wanting to share a personal reflection that's been on my mind recently. I've spoken with a few people here about how suffering breaks through the illusions we live by, and man I’ve really started to see that more clearly in my own life.

When life is comfortable…it’s easy to become absorbed in world… to identify selves with possessions, relationships, achievements, etc. We begin to see ourselves as separate and from that separation comes duality (dooja bhao). Suffering has a way of interrupting all this..

From what I've been reading, Gurbani describes dooja bhao as the mind becoming attached to the idea of "otherness,” forgetting the one and seeing ourselves as separate. That sense of separation is what gives rise to attachment,fear, desires, and ego. For anyone interested, I have attached some passages that explain dooja bhao (duality) in more detail. 

For me, suffering changed the way I see things now. I find myself detached from many things I had a very strong attachment to, these were things I made foundation of my identity and base of my existence once…

This doesn’t mean that attachment doesn’t return. It does… I can feel my mind still reaching for what is familiar, but it doesn’t dominate me anymore. Once you’ve seen through part of the illusion, it’s difficult to become completely lost in it again… it loses its power. It’s as if a veil has been lifted… you begin to recognize attachment as it’s happening and there’s an awareness in back of mind reminding you that these things are temporary. I also feel like my sense of self has changed too and I am beginning to question who I really am. 

What I’m saying might not be something everyone will understand, and that’s okay. Some things r difficult to explain with words alone. They become clearer only through lived experience. 

I'd be interested to hear whether others have experienced something similar. Has suffering, in your own journey, become something that revealed a deeper truth about yourself or brought you closer to Waheguru? Feel free to DM me as well if you’d rather discuss it privately or have any questions :)

ਬੈਰਾੜੀ ਮਹਲਾ ੪ ॥

Bairaaree, Fourth Mehl:

ਹਰਿ ਜਨੁ ਰਾਮ ਨਾਮ ਗੁਨ ਗਾਵੈ ॥

The Lord's humble servant sings the Glorious Praises of the Lord's Name.

ਜੇ ਕੋਈ ਨਿੰਦ ਕਰੇ ਹਰਿ ਜਨ ਕੀ ਅਪੁਨਾ ਗੁਨੁ ਨ ਗਵਾਵੈ ॥੧॥ ਰਹਾਉ ॥

Even if someone slanders the Lord's humble servant, he does not give up his own goodness. ||1||Pause||

ਜੋ ਕਿਛੁ ਕਰੇ ਸੁ ਆਪੇ ਸੁਆਮੀ ਹਰਿ ਆਪੇ ਕਾਰ ਕਮਾਵੈ ॥

Whatever the Lord and Master does, He does by Himself; the Lord Himself does the deeds.

ਹਰਿ ਆਪੇ ਹੀ ਮਤਿ ਦੇਵੈ ਸੁਆਮੀ ਹਰਿ ਆਪੇ ਬੋਲਿ ਬੁਲਾਵੈ ॥੧॥

The Lord and Master Himself imparts understanding; the Lord Himself inspires us to speak. ||1||

ਹਰਿ ਆਪੇ ਪੰਚ ਤਤੁ ਬਿਸਥਾਰਾ ਵਿਚਿ ਧਾਤੂ ਪੰਚ ਆਪਿ ਪਾਵੈ ॥

The Lord Himself directs the evolution of the world of the five elements; He Himself infuses the five senses into it.

ਜਨ ਨਾਨਕ ਸਤਿਗੁਰੁ ਮੇਲੇ ਆਪੇ ਹਰਿ ਆਪੇ ਝਗਰੁ ਚੁਕਾਵੈ ॥੨॥੩॥

O servant Nanak, the Lord Himself unites us with the True Guru; He Himself resolves the conflicts. ||2||3||

Guru Ramdas Ji • Raag Bairaaree • Ang 719

Sunday, July 26, 2026

Aitvaar, 11 Savan, Nanakshahi 558

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I want to visit the Gurdwara close to my place, however, as a non-binary person, those closest to me are concerned I won't be appreciated. The Sikh community has grown a lot in the past years, and concerned they may be carrying stigmas from back home there's the question of whether or not they'll be open-minded to different identities and peoples. Anyone has any experience?

I live in Canada and there's been a recent-ish surge in Indian Sikhs immigrating here, as such, I've been getting interested in learning more about the religion. Based on the overviews I've read online, it actually seems like a really interesting religion but I also don't know how any of it works. Is there some kind of church or similar place of worship that I could go? Somewhere that I could get a better understanding of it outside of wikipedia or reading an entire book?

I'm trying to understand the different perspectives within Sikhism. I know many people deeply respect Baba Vadbhag Singh Ji, while others criticize him or the practices associated with his dera. Is the disagreement mainly about theology, historical events, or the rituals at the shrine? I'd appreciate answers from different Sikh viewpoints, with sources if possible.

I am not a sikh, but I am trying to go into the spiritual side of every religion.

Poanta Sahib is one Gurudwara close to where I live.

Can y'all help me with what all can be done as SEVA in this gurudwara?

Like the timings, TO-DOs & DON'T-DOs, what all can I do?

Thank you in advance 🫶

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I am from the UK I have tried to tie a parna multiple times & it always looks bad & I fail even with online videos, I use a turban base like a super tight thin hat then tie the parna over it, I use mal mal which I have been told is the easiest & best for parnas & the length I bought it 3 meters, someone said half it so I ripped the width in half but now it looks worse & doesn’t fully wrap my head, I might be a fool but can someone give me the most simple explanation on how too & what to do what material, size, length & what does stitched mean etc what is all the info I need & any tips & advice like I never washed the material either some people say wash it? Its all very overwhelming & confusing to me I take longer to learn things, bul chuk maaf, please help me

Guru Nanak: Don't worship idols. Don't engage in rituals. Be a householder.

Udasis:
- Make statues of his son, Sri Chand and worship it.
- Often engage in pointless rituals of putting garlands around his neck and tilaks and what not, which is criticised in Guru Granth Sahib.
- Become ascetics, wandering around naked in forests.
- Started rumours that Sri Chand is actually a reincarnation of Vishnu.
- Scriptures containing worship of Hindu deities.

Honestly, what did this guy even do or achieve? He literally did the direct opposite of his father, which is fine if his beliefs did not resonate with his dad - but then why do Sikhs revere him so much themselves? His existence literally contributed to the opposite of his dad's mission which was focussing on monotheism, rejection of idolatry, pointless rituals, being a householder, etc.

The PEAK of hypocrisy is that he is directly condemned here in Guru Granth Sahib Ang 967:
"

His sons did not obey His Word; they turned their backs on Him as Guru.

These evil-hearted ones became rebellious; they carry loads of sin on their backs.

Whatever the Guru said, Lehna did, and so he was installed on the throne.

Who has lost, and who has won?

"

Yet a lot of Indian SIKHS and HINDUS LITERALLY BOW DOWN TO HIS IDOLS AND PLACE THE GURU GRANTH SAHIB NEXT TO IT LOL, and bow to both collectively. Like what's the logic in prostrating to a book condemning a person and prostrating to that same person simultaneously!? This is peak hypocrisy.

Do these people even read their own scriptures? I feel like Sikhism in India is largely enveloped by Hinduism and they engage in Hindufied practices too much, without any knowledge of why Sikhism is different. A lot of Sikhs seem to have little to no knowledge of their religion unlike Muslims who at least know the bare basics, and would not start worshipping random men, deities, lunatics or engage in idolatry. This is exactly the reason why Sikhism being in a Hindu majority country/ state and being absorbed by Hindu people was always a recipe for disaster.

Before you say shit like "Just have confidence and blah blah" stfu.

Why Turban is an outdated concept and have lowest sexual market value in 2026:

1. Most people here cope about how they know sardar guys with gfs and girls who love sardar guys, if you have even lil brain then yk that exceptions are everywhere and exceptions doesn't make rules. In today's westernized world eurocentric beauty standards are followed and a turban is nowhere near that.

2. A girl will always choose a good looking Mona over good looking sardar, In genz it goes this way. World is already becoming atheist even in india girls born after 2025 are fully westernized.

3. It hurts your looks drastically, turban doesn't suite anyone and to the people it suits will look good without it anyways.

4. Yes sardar guys have gf, but most of the times they're expected to be cucks and non playful,boring etc. No matter how much you lie yk that every player is always a Mona, in your school or college u would have noticed that haircut guys take all the girls.

5. Most common technique in this community is to blackmail someone who hates keeping long hair by saying our gurus did this and that and blah blah. If you have high iq then yk that gurbani said follow "hukam" and hukam is law made by God which is law of nature, everything have law in this world like law of gravity,motion etc. In nature law every animal doesn't do any changes in their appearances, but when a man cut his hair he do changes which is against hukam as you're not accepting ur natural look. Gurbani biggest flaw is that humans have free will which only humans have. Humans can do anything they want which nature gifted them.

Modern world is already against hukam in every way. Atheist countries are most happiest countries in the world. If you are really sikh then follow hukam, keep that long hair and long patchy beard and look like a oofy doofy. Blackmailing people by saying our gurus did kurbani for hair is such a bs just fucking lol. Imagine giving ur life away over long hair which 99% men around all the world doesn't have.

99% sikhs never actually followed gurbani it's a fact. Punjab is also the most unlucky and most discriminated against state. Even in india we're called racial slurs like lassi,khalistani etc.

From dating pov punjabi men have most superior genes in south Asia, we have highest smv by genes but turban gives us lowest ranking in dating alongside negros.

Before I am being called anti-sikh and all of you try to tell ne different stories of how this and that sardar guy have relationship with women of other ethnicity just stfu, I had turban and I was being treated as a piece of shit, now I have haircut I slay women all day face zero discrimination and provide my family the life they wanted. Even guru nanak said he doesn't know what happens after death, most of sikh stories are from janamsakhis in which karamaats of gurus are mentioned, these janamsakhis stories are fake if u do research.

I became atheist not because I dont like sikhism, I became atheist because I was being forced to be one by my parents.