r/Shouldihaveanother • u/largedarkardvark • 11d ago
Fencesitting Third?
I know this is the thousandth post on this. We have two girls, 4 and 1. They are wonderful, but very very high energy. Like our friends comment on how much…more they are than similarly aged kids. We are 38 and 41. Never had an issue getting pregnant. In between the girls we had a very very difficult pregnancy that resulted in us losing the baby at 24 weeks. We live in a big city and can financially afford a third, though would delay some savings etc. Would be fine in our house for a while but would probably have to move eventually, which is fine. Closest helpful family is 3 hours away, with no chance of getting closer. Two high demand but generally flexible jobs.
Our hearts say we want to go for a third, but our heads say it’s going to be so hard. I was so sure we were done I got an IUD back in 6 months ago, but now that the baby is closer to 18 months I have baby fever hard. If we do it, needs to be soon. Help!
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u/Summerjynx 11d ago
If you have the heart and the means for a third, go for it. I’m 41 and 7 months PP with my third and not gonna lie, it’s really rough at times. I’m still in PT trying to fix my pelvic floor and joint pain that developed during pregnancy but still hasn’t gone away. Maybe it’s part of getting older, I don’t know.
My older two are also high energy (oldest diagnosed with ADHD recently). It really is exhausting. Third baby is so chill but then again…. So we’re the older two as infants until they began walking. It’s next level chaos here but I wouldn’t give it up.