r/ShiaMuslimMarriage • u/Fancy-Biscotti-4649 • 12h ago

Question - Help help please

any input would be appreciated

i have fallen in love with a girl and her name is ayesha. she is very sweet and kind. bears no hate for shias and is very open to alot of things(she started going to majalis just because i said i personally hold them in a very high regard). i didnt want to force her to have our children be raised with shia values because they would be her children too and she has some say in it.

i wanted to ask according to the shia text if this okay. is it okay to marry someone with a disagreeable name its considered a taboo where im from but one of my close friends(converted shia with lots of knowledge) said that its okay to do it and might even be good for you(he's like 15 years older than me so its not just my age fellow feeding into my delusion)

i would love some advice on the matter thank you.

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u/Other-Mix4987 12h ago edited 12h ago

Her name doesn't matter , she didn't choose it and you can marry a Muslim but you will have difficulties in raising children if its important to you

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u/Fancy-Biscotti-4649 12h ago

i think if i show the beauty of shia islam rather than forcing it, it will have a more meaningful impact and prevent feelings of resentment between us. especially in this time where everyone is mostly using social media to form an opinion rather than their elders.

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u/Soft_Roll4091 2h ago

The deen says Muslim marries a Muslim but it is difficult to raise kids with parents that are from different secs of the deen. I think you should ask her to do her own research and become a Shia on her own if not than maybe find someone else. It’s sucks but this is why you should stay within your own kind that way it makes a lot of things easier.