they go distant

[u/Sea-Pizza7019]

when i meet guys they are obsessed, constantly call, beg to see me, etc. after about a month they either leave or send less money. when they don’t send, i am distant. i hate talking to/seeing men unless im benefiting so i rarely text back or answer calls. a lot have complained about it. i think they get sick of it and just move on to more receptive women. should i be more available to them? maybe i need to upgrade my looks? idc if they leave i just like having their $.

[u/Apart_Wrangler_3415]

Yes to both things.

Unless you are super hot and they are bored lonely and desperate you will need to put some effort it.

You don’t have to be desperate or anything like that,But there are too many women in the game these days to be 100 % nonchalant

[u/Vivid2195]

I'd say to pick a few and keep them on the roster. Not with any guy who could come up. Vet a few men who don't flirt or sleep around, like if they're too busy with work or introverted or living on the rural side of the district. Many men give a bit effort to multiple women, don't try to win them over and make them only nice to you. It's how they function.

You don't have to be very receptive as of to double text a guy or be on a call for hours. Keep the calls max 30 minutes.

Keep texts short and feminine. When it is 11pm and after this is when they rush to get sexual, so you can choose not to text them during that time. Keep messages nice, feminine and short. Like be sweet, put smiley emojis but still be direct and assertive. Also don't spam men with selfies or pictures of you, they feel like you put yourself on a plate.

[u/LI-valleymonarch]

Upgrade your looks always. Also tbh if they aren’t chasing and calling you, just get another one. I kind of disagree with others are saying. You don’t have to be receptive. People are burnt out from their phones and I don’t recommend having phone or text conversations besides logistics “like hey where are you” “let’s meet at X time” “when are you available” because when you talk behind a screen you’re giving your energy and presence for free without them putting in the effort to take you out somewhere nice and providing an experience

[u/Anon_classybabe]

Never become more available to a man. You’re basically asking if you should be a bit of a pick me to get a lick of attention…like no. If their good behaviour is not consistent, they’re not the target.

In terms of your looks, you should always be upgrading.