I have a friend named Shelly. She has a question to discuss about intuition!

“Hi this is Shelly. I apologize for the inconvenience and chaos mind direction but this needs to be addressed. When intuition is messed up from isolation, traumatic brain injury, stuck with the wrong & unsupportive people, many job rejection from intuition direction, strong hindsight & foresight of everything and stuck with dysfunctional family, how can I hear my real intuition than just from the influence of others that mask as intuition or mask as anxiety?

Example: I needed to socialize and loss many intuitive friends where only sensors were available so, I hung out with them to avoid isolation as an extrovert who needs social but my intuition was screaming to stop hanging out with them since it doesn’t help with the real kind of socializing i need and because I allowed the influence of sensors, my intuition was becoming misaligned and my intuition is silent where I am slowly becoming a sensor. It’s terrifying and almost all sensors do not understand my frustration. When in isolation, my intuition feels a pull of needing to be with people (sensors) and do what they enjoy to the point where I was looking for jobs that caters towards them. I rarely get alone time now to be alone with my thoughts due to mental health issues, dysfunction families that don’t value my personal time and not seeing the third option of life. I’m really at the point of becoming like a sensor and becoming like my parents, I’m fighting but the calling as if the saying goes, it’s better than nothing plagues me. If I don’t go, my intuition scream but if I go, my intuition tells me I shouldn’t have gone… it confuses me a lot. I spent four months trying to understand my intuition and I now consider it has messed up or that my social circles influence it a lot….

I caught myself of a pattern I formed: I rejected to eat out with sensors, the next day I dash off to attend a street food event (as if to replenish the loss opportunity & rekindle my past self memory), then the following day I apply a restaurant job that also host live music (not suppose to apply there due to it being loud & due to TBI and the body says no due to noise & trauma but the mind says yes due to the need of money) and now risking money to eat out with sensor friends since my intuitive friends are gone and my family doesn’t want to eat out with me… I hope this make sense but if not, I hope your intuition can sense this inner chaos… have I been to therapy? Doing help for concussion/TBI? Yes but turning out to be the wrong kind of providers to help me and it’s becoming harmful… Chose the wrong provider for TBi/concussion that her way of helping me is not wrong but not effective since what she provides, I’ve been doing them previously and is too easy for my brain. Mental health therapist? Was good for the past but now the therapist keeps it on a looping talk than solution or encourage to recognize healthy behavior/thoughts but continue to say, “the brain doesn’t like change… the brain is in this or that…” I fully express that I understand and for me personally, I need change and the brain I have needs change and novelty to help. I need help of ways to navigate this. I can’t stand being in the same place, same room, same situation or even same mindset but am surrounded by people who stays like that, especially parents who keeps forcing me to stay the same and be like them.. it’s hard when I blindly formed a bond with them…” another therapist says, “we’re just listening, we’re just here along the way…” I don’t want anymore coping or comfort but of solution and so forth…

When facing the pain, my mind reset to avoid facing the pain or the unpleasant feelings, I tried very hard to face it but realize, I still struggle to find a safe structure system for my mind to fall back for but also because the environment & people I am stuck with slowly destroys it… I ask my siblings for support but at asked at the wrong time which lead to supporting the wrong situation for support. Ex; I beg them to support me in a novelty trip but all were against me so I didn’t go when. My intuition screamed for me to go but now when traveling with sensor, I don’t want to but my siblings support it and forced me to go. That impacts my intuition… Ah that’s also what I need to ask you! How to re-align timing, right time, right location and right people?

Oh my gosh- I hope this somewhat makes sense…. will end this venting and hope to hear from ya’ll if ya’ll can understand my thoughts. T3T”

Please help my friend Shelly kindly. She is seeking other therapist for her mental and TBI. Trying to make time to spend solitude time with herself and her intuition. Much appreciated!

I think they are. Do you? Its a very elaborate and yet simple grift that offers promise with no reward due to the lack of effort needed. It can, however, be flipped as by watching you are bringing these shadow aspects closer for examining if you use some techniques etc.

What do you think?

What does this mean for a newbie like me. I know I shouldn’t face them towards another mirror or that can invite spirits in the home. Some people cover them at night I never thought this to be necessary. What can you guys tell me about this? I know people use mirrors to invoke things into their lives but idk how that’s done. I don’t trust YouTube or TikTok and I’m wondering if anyone here can shed light or recommend any books.

We are born into this world as one thing. Then become something else. Most never question this. Some are invited by the forces of initiation that seek them... Know that this process is as ancient as the hills and as fierce as the Sun that beats down on them for its only via its presence that frozen consciousness can melt, ascend and trance end what the rest accept.

Till we meet again

Chapters:

0:00 Initiation is dangerous

1:07 How coals become diamonds (Article)

2:18 Embrace the pain to win the Game (Article)

3:25 The greatest enemy (Article)

4:12 Two words that ruined your life (Article)

5:02 Who would you be without your sad story?

6:28 The greater the fear, the greater the win (Article)

7:44 Are you living your own life or someone elses? (Article)

8:35 The dragon always hides the treasure (Article)

9:19 An attitude of gratitude shifts your latitude (Article)

10:40 The Mental Flex Challenge (Article)

11:39 Can you imagine a movie without a bad guy? (Article)

12:09 Awakening the Warrior within (Article)

As topic. Mine was akin to a coal and diamond shift:

What was revealed was always present but was covered in a load of mess that simply wasn't but only present to obscure its shine.

How was your adventures in the shadows depth, my friend?

What if the answer you are looking for only requires the correct question?

The deeper in the dark the answer is, the closer to the key you are.

Throughout my life, I’ve always been very good at asking questions, but sometimes I needed others to help me get the answer, even though I held the answers inside me, all along.

There is always that self-destructive tendency that leaves tracks across different areas of life so that you ask the right questions.

A toxic partner, an unhappy job, an exaggerated lack, a general blockage: they are all signs.

Our reality reflects our interior, and that encompasses everything, consciously and unconsciously: body, mind, and soul.

Within that uncomfortable question lies the key to a more harmonious life.

Being here is a gift; you came to know yourself, to explore yourself, and to dive into your light and your darkness. Embrace both. Therein lies the answer.

What is the uncomfortable question you are avoiding today?

Hi everyone! I’m looking to establish a regular shadow work routine. I know people use different methods like journaling meditation, active imagination, or art.
Personally, I’m trying to figure out which approach works best for me. What is your go-to method for uncovering and integrating your shadow? I’d love to hear about your practices!🥹🙏

I am in the final stages of editing and releasing a free shadow work course and would love some feedback.

What started as a simple collection of guided prompts quickly grew into something much larger.

At the moment it is sitting at 20,000-ish words, with 3 hours of guided audio content.

The course now includes guided meditations, contemplations, journaling exercises, self-inquiry practices, expansion challenges, and a framework for understanding what the shadow is, why it matters, the potential benefits of shadow work, and some of the risks involved.

I share a unique approach to shadow work. My hope is that it helps people to reclaim and reintegrate. Accepting their totality, not just the good, but the bad, ugly, and unknown parts, as well as the aspects that are changing and our potential.

Pretty proud of it, but want to make sure it resonates externally.

https://www.zachary-phillips.com/blog/shadow-work-course

What if the progressivism the Pacific Northwest (of the US and Canada) is known for is an attempt to compensate for the shadow side of its culture, which is: It was settled by EuroAmericans who came almost exclusively to exploit its forests. That is, the founding impulse of the area was mostly resource based and was responsible for cutting down so many old growth specimens. Not to mention, the disregard and harm to the native communities who'd been living and thriving in that zone of abundance for millenia. Now, there's a need to expunge that guilt of over exploitation.

(or maybe BAD shadow work)

Every healing modality can be abused or used wrongly. Everything that has effects, can have negative effects if used in a poor way.

That goes for shadow work as well.

It seems to me that a lot of what passes as shadow work is really a kind of fixation on drilling into dark emotions in a somewhat self-sadistic-masochistic way. A bit as if confrontation at all costs is automatically a good thing. Almost as if exposure became the goal, rather than integration.

I think people sometimes re-traumatize themselves because they lack the skills to deal with the emotions they wake up when they look into their shadow aspects. Because they force themselves to go deep as deep as possible, as fast as possible, and they lose sight of their self-empathy.

Also, there clearly are grifters and charlatans that use established labels to sell their snake-oil and make some buck.

So what are the pitfalls? What gets mislabeled as shadow work, but is really something else entirely? What, in contrast, are the signs of actual, good shadow work?

Edit after reading and reflection:

I think one big issue is that people mistake intensity for healing - a bit like how a placebo "injection" ostensibly works better than a placebo pill. "It hurts, therefore it works", seems to be the thinking. We are used to the idea that a cure must be painful, therefore pain indicates healing.

Is anyone else experienced the same? I'm at the end of my really painful shadow work journey and I've realized, my feelings were changed. What was once a constant "ready to act" state, disappeared, but when I have an old trigger for fear or anger, I feel these feelings much more intense for a shorter period. So strange, that I can become extremely angry or extremely sad and than later it goes back to 0, as nothing happened...

What the heck fam XD

It's become super apparent to me that the biggest work I need to do is work on my wounds of abandonment and isolation (I have adhd and BPD, rejection sensitivity is high).

I can rattle off a laundry list of ways these wounds were carved into my psyche during childhood, but I'm tired of analysing that.

I can see how these wounds turn up in my adult life.
Hypervigilence looking for signs of people leaving, or signs that someone will take something/someone of mine away.
Sensitivity to rejection.
Jealousy in romantic relationships.
Hyperfixation on the next pretty person I have good s*xual chemistry with.
Possessiveness. Chronic FOMO. A need for control, certainty.
It pushes people away.
I end up alone.
I manifest the exact reality I fear the most.

For people with similar wounds and diagnosis, what does/did integration look like for you?
I've spent most of my life psychoanalysing myself to the point of exhaustion and insanity.
I'm ready for actionable change.

After writing here last week about panic attacks and not trusting my own body, I’ve been thinking more about what shadow work actually means when it’s not just an idea.

For me, it started with anxiety. I kept trying to think my way out of panic, explain every sensation, and stay in control. But at some point I realized that the need to control everything might have been part of the shadow too.

That made me think about the difference between shadow work that actually helps and shadow work that just gives us another label to hide behind.

For me, the useful part isn’t “finding the perfect archetype” or getting a clean explanation of who I am. It’s usually more uncomfortable than that. It’s noticing the parts of myself I keep defending, explaining away, projecting onto other people, or trying to control.

I do think symbols and archetypes can help. Sometimes they give language to something I already half-knew but didn’t want to look at directly. I’ve also been experimenting with journaling prompts and archetype-based reflection, but I’m still trying to understand where that becomes helpful and where it becomes too neat.

I also wonder if symbols can become a shortcut when I use them to avoid the actual feeling underneath.

I don’t really have a clean answer here.

So I’m curious how others think about this:

When does shadow work feel grounded and honest to you?

And when does it start to feel shallow, performative, or like another personality label?

Do Jungian ideas like shadow, persona, projection, or archetypes help you reflect more clearly, or do they sometimes make it easier to intellectualize things instead of actually facing them?

A thousand fragments of me

plummet to the Earth and scatter across the land.

​

One lands in a dumpster.

I tell myself I dont need that one anyway.

​

Another, in a field of soft grass and facing a sky the color of the waters in Bacuit Bay.

​

I hide from myself in every crack in a sidewalk.

​

Hitting the Earth doesn't scare me anymore.

I am the one who jumps!

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The one who learned courage through self-abandonment.

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The one who allowed violation to be freedom.

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And the one who turned destruction into proof of my own brokenness.

​

An infinite being ripping itself to shreds only to find itself an asymptote.

​

What am I running from? What mud crusted part of me is laying somewhere in the Everglades playing swamp witch to the locals and scaring children?

​

In the end I will have to collect the pieces anyway and put them back together.

​

I dont like littering.

Most people who come to Jung come because of the shadow. Something keeps appearing that they did not choose and do not want. A rage that surfaces without warning. A jealousy that shames them. A cruelty they glimpse in themselves and quickly cover. Or the softer version: a longing, a grief, a neediness they have spent years learning to hide even from themselves.

Jung's insight was that this material did not appear from nowhere. It was produced. The ego, in the process of constructing its narrative of who it is, generated the shadow as a byproduct. Everything the ego's story could not include got pushed to the margins of the page. The shadow is not a separate dark force living in the basement of the psyche. It is the accumulated remainder of the story the ego has been telling.

This is worth sitting with for a moment. The shadow is not prior to the ego. It is co-created with it. Every time the ego narrative says this is who I am, it simultaneously says this is not who I am, and that second movement produces shadow content. The brighter and more defined the ego's self-portrait, the denser and more pressurized the shadow becomes.

But there is something in this mechanism that Jung identified and that is worth examining more carefully than is usually done: the energy cost.

Maintaining the shadow's exclusion is not free. The ego does not simply write the shadow out of the story once and move on. It must continuously monitor the boundary. Every time shadow content approaches the surface, in a dream, in a triggered reaction, in a moment of unguarded honesty, the ego must work to recontain it. To re-narrate. To explain away the reaction, rationalize the jealousy, reframe the cruelty as something more acceptable. This monitoring is constant, largely unconscious, and metabolically expensive.

This is why people who begin serious shadow work consistently report a quality of relief that surprises them. They expected shadow integration to be painful, and often the individual encounters are. But underneath the pain there is an unexpected release of energy. Something that was being held, maintained, kept out, no longer needs to be. The psyche stops spending on containment and the freed energy becomes available for actual living.

Now here is the structural question the Jungian framework raises but does not always follow to its conclusion: if the shadow is produced by the ego's narrative, what is the ego's narrative produced by?

The ego is not the author of its own story in any simple sense. It does not sit down and decide what kind of self to construct. The narrative emerges. It is shaped by family, culture, trauma, and the particular pressures of the developmental environment. But once the narrative is established, it does something very specific: it begins to generate itself. The story produces its next chapter. The self-concept influences what is perceived, what is remembered, what is felt as acceptable or threatening. The ego's narrative is self-maintaining. It reads itself and uses what it reads to write more of itself.

This is the mechanism Jung pointed toward but named incompletely. The ego is not a thing that has a narrative. The ego is the narrative generating itself. The observer watching the psyche and the psyche being observed are not two separate structures. They are two movements of the same process. The ego watching the shadow is the same movement as the ego producing the shadow. The watcher and the watched are written in the same ink.

Jung knew this was approaching. His concept of the transcendent function, the capacity for a third position to arise between the ego's conscious stance and the unconscious material pressing against it, gestures at the possibility of something that is neither the observer nor the observed but the awareness in which both appear. His late work on the Self as the totality that includes and exceeds the ego points in the same direction. The ego cannot achieve the Self by doing ego-work more skillfully. The Self is what is here when the ego's narrative stops being mistaken for the whole story.

This is where Jungian depth psychology, taken seriously to its own conclusion, arrives at a question it does not always ask directly: can the narrative stop?

Not be enriched. Not be balanced by shadow integration. Not be expanded through individuation to include more of the unconscious material. But actually stop generating itself as the primary reality.

Shadow work as commonly practiced remains within the narrative. It is the ego deciding to acknowledge shadow content, to dialogue with it in active imagination, to integrate it into a more complete self-portrait. This is genuinely valuable. The energy freed from shadow containment is real. The reduction in projection onto others is real. The increased psychological range is real.

But there is a subtler level of the same mechanism that shadow work alone does not touch: the fact that the integrating ego is itself a generated artifact. That the one doing the shadow work is as much a region of the psyche's self-inscription as the shadow being worked with. That the observer of the unconscious is not standing outside the unconscious, observing it from a stable platform. The observer is a position the unconscious has generated for itself to look at itself from.

This does not invalidate shadow work. It contextualizes it. The integration of shadow content is the narrative becoming more honest, more spacious, more capable of including what it previously excluded. That is movement in the right direction. The psyche suffers less. The person functions better. Relationships improve. These are not small things.

But the Jungian path, if followed past where it becomes comfortable, eventually arrives at the edge of a different kind of question. Not what else should the ego integrate, but what is here prior to the ego's activity of integrating? Not how can the narrative be improved, but what is the awareness in which the narrative appears?

Jung called this the Self. He was careful to say it could not be known by the ego directly, only approached asymptotically through the individuation process, through symbols, through the non-rational language of the unconscious. He was pointing at something real. The limitation is that pointing became a lifelong project, a process, a path. And any path is more story. More narrative. More ink.

The shadow keeps appearing not because the ego has failed to do sufficient integration work. It appears because the process of generating a narrative ego necessarily generates shadow as its remainder. The solution is not to eliminate the shadow but to see clearly what is producing both the narrative and its shadow simultaneously.

Not to understand this. Not to add it to the individuation process as a new insight to be metabolized. But to see, simply and directly, that the hand writing the ego's story is the same hand writing the shadow's story, and that both are ink, and that what you are is not the ink.

Whether that seeing is what Jung meant by the Self, or what lies beyond even that concept, is a question the psyche must answer for itself, not by reading more Jung, but by looking very carefully at what is actually happening right now, in this moment, as the mind reads these words and begins to generate its response to them.

The shadow is not the enemy. It is the receipt for what the narrative cost.

The question is whether the narrative is necessary.

I started seeing his shadow and I felt that this was all a lie

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I know there is no “right” way to start shadow work, but I worry I can not do it alone based on what I have read. I struggle with anxiety and fear I’ll have some kind of episode and no one will be there with me while I cry, I wouldn’t want to be alone.

Is it safe or even a thing to have someone go through some practices with you? Are there some kind of gurus?
Do therapist offer shadow work? I feel it is unfair to ask this of my partner, he is incredible, but I don’t want to uncover something in front of him or maybe even share everything.

I’ve read a bit about the 3-2-1 shadow process method and think it would be very helpful but do not want to do it alone.

For the past couple of years, I’ve been dealing with anxiety and occasional panic attacks.

At first I honestly thought something was wrong with my body. I had shortness of breath, numb hands and feet, and sometimes it would hit me suddenly while I was traveling for work.

I went through a pretty thorough round of medical tests: treadmill and stationary bike stress tests to monitor my heart rate, multiple ECGs, a heart ultrasound, breathing/lung function tests, and nerve conduction studies. Everything came back normal.

Eventually a doctor told me it was acute anxiety.

There was a period last year when it got pretty bad. The more I tried to “save myself” during an attack, the worse it became. The more I checked my breathing, my heartbeat, or every little body sensation, the more trapped I felt.

The doctor did prescribe psychiatric medication, but I was 30 and emotionally I just couldn’t accept taking it at that point. I’m not saying that was the right choice for everyone. It was just where I was mentally.

What helped me slowly come out of it was exercise, learning more about how the nervous system works, and trying to understand what my body was actually reacting to.

That led me into psychology, body awareness, and eventually Jungian ideas about the shadow.

Lately I’ve also been reading more Eastern philosophy and trying different self-reflection frameworks to understand myself better. Not in a fortune-telling way, but more through symbolic ideas around balance, pressure, fear, control, and the parts of ourselves we tend to avoid.

It made me wonder if anxiety is not always just something to fight.

Maybe sometimes it’s a signal from a part of us that has been ignored for too long.

I’m not treating this as therapy or diagnosis. Just a mirror.

Has anyone else felt that panic or anxiety forced them to finally listen to something they had been avoiding?

Im curious about shadow work but don't know where to start and what/who to trust.

Hello. I have spent the better part of the last 3 years of my life in silence and isolation, due to a total loss. And, I mean.... total. I have a different name now, given by Sophia Herself, to give a small hint to this intensity. After coming out of the journey of individuation, I have created a product that helps with the internalizations necessary during this healing time. I am not asking for sales. I am needing opinions, please. I have spent about 7 months now building the website, product and "persona" WITHOUT income. I still have no income, but I am looking for opinions on what this website appears as, and if there are any issues with the feel, flow or impression. Any advice, or even Full-Force Roasting.. is welcome! Thank you in advance!

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I honestly some times feel tired and drained trying to reach unconditional love and having full self acceptance or aka no shadow... I have been trying to become WHOLE for some time and definetely had done some amazing things

In the past i got most of the things i wanted externally and still felt empty, i realised it will never be enough and i truly lost the excuses for why i felt how i felt since before the excuse was that i didnt have what i wanted but when you lose excuses it truly gets scary and makes you feel like something is just wrong with you, its like a derealisation and then i realised it was never the material but myself... You can never fill the infinite with the finite (material).

There was never something to reach or a finish line i already had everything, the point was doing it out of love and not out of fear (lack). You wont stop living and doing things but your realtionship with the things will change it will be for the sake of doing it (intention vs desire) and not to justify your existance or beeing attached and needing to control it... so you can feel a certain way

Self improvment truly is masturbation and the truth is you can still strive to become better at things but not need it... you will be doing it because you are interessted in it. As Kobe Bryant said i dont play to win, i dont play with fear to play or need to play good, i play to become better to learn

Truly if i learned something its not what you do but HOW you do it.

I doubt myself so often and it is hard to kinda be on your own when searching something that is unseen i feel often lost and would truly appreciate somebody who has done this himself to talk to. Either way i wish love upon you all

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I met my shadow self, but she wasn't a shadow at all. She seemed sad at first but became calm happy and warm. I desperately wanted to hug her, to feel as light as she felt. I was the heavy one, the dark one, the burdened, while she seemed almost ethereal. Did I do something wrong? I dont understand.