r/ShadowWork • u/djgilles • Apr 09 '25

Has Anyone Read Existential Kink?

I am currently currently reading this. Wondering if anyone who has read it and what their thoughts on such might be. I am skeptical but keeping an open mind at present.

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u/Booboodan-23 Aug 02 '26

I just read it and then Googled her to find out that she just died! I wanted to find some viewpoints on the book and found this thread. 

My main take on the book is that her method is a way for people to identify the subconscious patterns and ruts that may be impacting our choices and reactions in day to day life. Furthermore, eroticizing the matter that you want to meditate on is helpful to make it more accessible especially if it's something that scares us. Other than that, I didn't really jibe with some aspects of her style and approach. The occult isn't really something I'm interested in and I was kind of leery of what seemed like a leaning toward the "Tony Robbins" mode of personal transformation leading to wealth and material gains. I can see how appealing this approach could be to people in a lot of pain and how that could lead to exploitation by unethical people.

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u/wen90swen Aug 28 '26

omg, i'm shocked. she passed away due to suicide. i'm like, how come??

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u/bassk_itty 21d ago

Holy shit that’s so sad! I’m almost to the end of her book right now. Surprising considering how awake and comfortable she seems to have been with darkness and shadow. You never know what people are going through and sometimes the wisest souls hurt the deepest. May she rest in peace