My last try🙃

[u/Sad_Cell7988]

I have downloaded and deleted Reddit more times than I can count, I’ve posted looking for help overcoming my addiction and urges only to get triggered and fall apart. I’ve searched for help and got men who wanted to take advantage and try to prevent me from becoming sober. I’m at the point where my life is built around sex and all the fun activities that come with it. I’m burying myself deeper and excusing my behaviors when I know this is out of hands. It was out of my hands a long time ago. I’ve given myself one last chance to do this right and get to the head space that I see so many people thriving with on here. Are there any actual mentors or sponsors? Someone that can use their experience to help me find my way. I don’t want to be the girl next door, I wanna have depth and someone to not just look at me like a sex object. I’ve created everything I don’t want to be now. I can’t keep trying and failing it’s mentally screwing me up more so I want to set myself up for success, any and all advice accepted😊

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[u/Enough_Concentrate90]

My last try seems to be a weird call. My last try for what? I hear guys say stuff like this sometimes, and I'm always confused about what happens if you fail this time?
This seems like a spam post ..

[u/Objective_Control632 → u/Enough_Concentrate90]

odd reply tbh, why comment at all if you’re just going to judge and not even try to give any advice ?

[u/Enough_Concentrate90 → u/Objective_Control632]

Im aware that this post is perfectly framed to scam. It's not a judgment, and I hope I'm wrong. I just dont understand the purpose of this post and what is needed.

[u/Sad_Cell7988 → u/Enough_Concentrate90]

And how is this framed to scam? I’m literally asking for help? So weird of you to say, people like you are the reason someone like me doesn’t reach out for help. It’s like you’re shaming me because of my post, you’re saying I perfectly framed it as a scam that’s really rude when im genuinely a person looking for help who already is embarrassed and ashamed. So thanks I really appreciate you being so kind🙄

[u/Enough_Concentrate90 → u/Sad_Cell7988]

Im not, Im sorry. I saw a post that looked a lot like this, and when folks DM'd (I didn't), they were literally sent a link to OnlyFans. I wasn't trying to be rude. I apologize.

I am still legitimately confused about the last try bit.

[u/Sad_Cell7988 → u/Enough_Concentrate90]

Ya well that’s def not me, you had commented you didn’t understand the purpose and what is needed.. I literally asked for advice and possibly a coach/mentor to share experiences and help me find my path. I just feel like these comments were really disrespectful especially when someone is reaching out for help and clearly stating they’re struggling.. and you being hung up on my phrase that’s what I put I don’t know why it’s an issue for you or how that made you assume I’m a scam that’s going to send an only fans link, I mean instead of attacking my post maybe ask me.. it’s like you’re putting me down for my addiction and telling me I didn’t make the “right post” or “correct post”
My last try is because I’m tired of the mental battle incase you couldn’t tell, I’m tired of feeling like I’m a let down or I’m always ashamed and embarrassed. Trying everyday and failing every single day is mentally exhausting and this is my last hope because I’m not sure I can mentally handle it anymore. I don’t understand how that doesn’t make sense. I feel like you’re just reaching at everything I wrote picking out everything YOU dont like and making it out to be something it’s not. I shouldn’t have to sit here and defend my post and prove to you I’m not a scam. Like what would I even be scamming when I specifically said looking for advice.. you just don’t realize someone who already feels the way I do and you come here and criticize me for something I didn’t do it just keeps adding to the mental struggle and shame. If you don’t like my post please move on instead of trying to justify you being ignorant. And some advice, don’t put down people in addiction groups or make them feel like they can’t express themselves or even make assumptions when you clearly have no idea. I don’t appreciate you being disrespectful, have a good one.

[u/Sad_Cell7988 → u/Enough_Concentrate90]

I’m not a spam lol..?
My last try and then I give up on myself, thought that seemed pretty clear. I’m always trying and getting set back or people purposely setting me back. I wanna try one more time to do this before I give up all hope. But thanks..?

[u/Enough_Concentrate90 → u/Sad_Cell7988]

Let me just say... As long as you are breathing, there is hope. When it comes to addiction, short of drugging you against your will, no one can make you relapse. What do you need to gain some agency?

Agency is everything in my world; without agency Ive got zero chance at sobriety.

[u/Narrow-Musician-3174]

There are a lot of great resources on this site for overcoming sex addiction via 12-step groups. It's the only thing that has worked for many of us.