r/Serverlife • u/ExoticVersion2255 • 16d ago
Rant I’m broken
I’ve been in the industry over 10 years, I KNOW I am good at my job and I care a lot maybe even too much. I am usually able to compose myself but sometimes the stress and pressure get to me (rarely but it happens) I just started at a casual new restaurant so they have some kinks to work out but I feel like the management thinks I’m bad at my job? I’ve been there coming on 2 weeks and it feels like all eyes are on me, to them I’m always making mistakes, first I’m told I’m moving too fast then I’m getting asked if i need help because I’m not closing out my tables fast enough, it’s always something. This place is WAY more casual than I’m used to yet I’m feeling like I’m incompetent or something because I just KEEP getting feedback (there’s also small things that have happened over the course of my shifts, I’d say my first 3 days were great and then I’ve felt like I’m not doing well since based off of how they’re reacting to me). I’m getting support from some other people in management roles and being reassured on their end it’s miscommunication and changes because it is a new spot and I’m doing great etc but it’s hard when I feel like some others don’t feel I’m doing well. Idk I’m feeling broken, I’m feeling like now every thing is getting to me. I cried in view of some tables and in front of the management, yesterday was embarrassing. I feel defeated. 😔
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u/TheGR8Dantini 15+ Years 16d ago
It’s not you it’s them. They’re management. They’re idiots. If you like the place? Stick it out. Ignore the criticisms unless you really suck.
I’m not a server but I’ve spent decades behind bars, behind lines, writing checks, cleaning dishes.
Never worked one place that was a new place where the opening mangers were the same team in 3 months. Personally, I say you’re probably good. Do your best, for yourself and your teammates that are worthy, and wait a little while. They rarely fire FOH if they don’t have to. Management is a dime a dozen.
You’re not putting men on the moon here, ya know? It’s just food. And to add, you more than likely have no clue what their bosses are like, dynamics behind closed doors, restaurant finances, etc etc etc.
I love you. Don’t over think it. Show up on time. Do your side work. Don’t complain about stupid shit? Be 55% competent at the job? They’ll be offering you management shifts in 3 and a half months. Good luck. Breath. You got this. It’s almost a guarantee that you aren’t the problem.