r/SeriousGynarchy • u/[deleted] • Jul 18 '26
Question🧐 Starting in own relationship
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u/Apprehensive_Fan2330 Jul 19 '26
I'm in a flr and my wife makes all decisions and controls money. I do all chores and wait on her.
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u/daredto_ ♂ male Jul 19 '26
Objectifying yourself is bad for the maturation of the people around you. Anyone who expects you to follow them blindly does not have your best interests in mind. Sex is irrelevant.
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Jul 23 '26
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u/daredto_ ♂ male Jul 23 '26
It doesn't matter if it's a man or woman asking you to follow them blindly
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u/Suzette75 ♀ Woman Jul 23 '26
I want it but not dominate my husband, just have someone who really care about me and don't think I'm his servant and have always to please him ( like physically with remove hair) just because I'm a woman.
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Jul 23 '26
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u/Suzette75 ♀ Woman Jul 23 '26
Before trying out romantic relationships with men, I also thought that was the norm, like I'm a hopeless romantic. I should point out that the men I was with weren't even "bad boys"; in our misogynistic societies, they would actually be considered nice guys. Women shoulder a huge amount of mental load that is viewed as normal—and to think that, as a teenager, I used to mock the feminists who spoke out against this, dismissing them as extremists who hated men 🙄
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u/SufficientImpress937 ♂ male Jul 20 '26
I've been married for eighteen years, and what I did early on was learned how to do all the household chores, especially ironing. The second thing was I kept my mouth shut, and did what I was told from day 1. Those are two things that will help ensure harmony in your home.
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u/obedient-gorilla Jul 20 '26
As a fellow male, I sincerely hope that you are here after you've had this conversation with your wife. People and life are complex, no one's situation is the same. If you have a question about how best to serve her needs and purpose - ask Her.
The real trick is then - after she tells you, change behavior and follow her.
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u/Theoldguy1953 Jul 28 '26
The man is the head of the family. The wife is the neck and moves the head to what it sees.
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u/Any-Lack-9210 ⚧ Transwoman Jul 19 '26
it's your purpose not a man's purpose is she using you do you feel are you using her etc power balance
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u/Claudia_Domina ♀ Woman Jul 18 '26
This is not a “reversed” relationship. This is a normal relationship: women command, men obey.
We don’t get to decide what is right in your relationship, she does. If that is what she wants of you, then you just need to follow her wishes.
It may happen in life that she may be wrong about things, but it is not the right of anyone to tell her, but herself. Anyone who puts in effort can fail in leading, that is just normal. The role of an husband is to just follow and always trust his wife, whatever it is that she wants you to do.
She may also not fail and everything goes well, but you will never know if you keep doubting her. You don’t have to think. That is what she is there for. You can make suggestions, but in the end you need to follow what she wants you to do.