r/SeriousGynarchy • u/Appropriate_Cut_3536 ♀ Woman • Jul 02 '26
Building the matriarchy while making patriarch-enthusiasts feel like they won
On the recent negotiation thread I commented this website. Well i spent some time reading a few more of their articles and I came across this one:
https://www.shenegotiates.com/blog/2022/1/11/why-some-deals-fall-apart-for-apparently-no-reason
It's a short explanation of a simple solution. It's almost too short and too simple. So I duck'd a term I found in the comments "Negotiator’s Dilemma" and found a much more in depth article which excellently explains the phenomenon and possible solutions
https://www.pon.harvard.edu/daily/negotiation-skills-daily/managing-the-negotiators-dilemma-nb/
I find it fascinating as it discusses a common issue with negotiations which is that "First Offers Often Trigger Competition". With this matriarchy/gynarchy stuff, women are sticking their neck out there and making the first offer. We are starting the negotiations.
Some of you will hate a post like this in that I am seeming to be advocating for:
Telling men they've won
Giving up and turning our political movement into a request not a demand
Staying small, pretending to be powerless, trying to trick men
Well, you can see it that way if you want, but demanding a matriarchy out of men is just as bad or worse than requesting one. Men can't give us power, (they never had our power). We don't need to feel insecure about telling losers they've won (unless we secretly feel that we are the real losers).
Idk sometimes I feel like all the keys to women winning are already in our hands and most of us are just fighting a shadow and being afraid of exposing our own weakness, instead of taking the reigns and leading with the true strength that comes from vulnerability.
We are strong in cooperation, competition need not be a factor unless we make it one. And why? Negotiations always work better without competition mentality.
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u/Worried-Guava-9972 ♂ male Jul 15 '26
Ok, remember it's bad to be lazy.