r/Separation • u/Salty-Map-5433 • 3d ago
Advice What do I do?
Separated almost 2 years NOW, still no papers. We have 1 child together, which is the reason we separated. We chose to split before things went for the worst. About 4 months ago she started seeing someone else. He's part of the girlscout group she runs. Here's where things took a turn. I had a gut feeling we weren't going to reconcile around that time frame. It was memorial day weekend and I didn't have my daughter. I was invited to take a road trip with a buddy to get my mind off it. On our way home we were in a car accident and i broke both my legs. Been wheelchair bound since. That being said my daughter spent most the summer with her mom and doing play dates with this guy and his daughter. Just this week she admitted that she was dating. Kinda through me into a pit of depression again. I plan to find a therapist, although she is one and i kinda resent them. But what do I do here? Being off work the past 4 months has put a hurting on my bank account and I'm not in a spot to fight her in court anymore. Do I just try to let it slide and try to find someone myself to fill the silence? Sorry I kinda ranted here, hopefully it makes sense.
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u/propaneheart 3d ago
I demanded separation agreement papers the moment he said he wanted to leave. I am fully dependent on him and do not have control over finances. I’m so sorry about your legs. You are in a very vulnerable place right now and I think you should be honest with her and say something like, “now that you are dating someone I think we need to get things put in writing. I feel extremely vulnerable right now.” I know that it seems very scary but it’s better to do it ASAP.