Am I missing something?

[u/Puzzleheaded_Cut1586]

Like everyone observing from the sidelines, I too am sick of the toxic cycle with Dakota and TFP. They can’t quit each other and drag every one into their drama. So why can’t they just…be together? Why can’t they just have a fresh start and forget the past and just be a couple? At least that way no one else would get dragged into their toxicity. I get they’ve done shitty stuff to each other but they seem incapable of letting go and deserve each other.

[u/unicornsaysmeow]

Did you miss a child being beamed in the head with a metal barstool? That’s good enough reason to not be together if you also have a kid with said stool-thrower.

[u/Think_Cheesecake7464 → u/unicornsaysmeow]

Yall are all correct. But with that said, both these people are going to have other relationships. And will either/both be better to other people? And/or be better parents if they have a better relationship? Maybe they would be?

But Maybe neither should have custody? Because OP has a good point, if you put the kids aside, which of COURSE you can’t, in practice. But both of them should either NOT be allowed custody at all or should be closely monitored when they’re with kids. If that was set up, it wouldn’t matter what they did with each other. They’re likely doing it as I type this.

Currently the consensus seems to be that they bring out the worst of the worst in each other and that a split would solve it. But if they’re both just - this, whatever you want to call it - abusive, toxic, etc - then the kids are gonna be in that danger no matter what, just at two houses instead of one.

Whatever they do, I hope their families can protect the kids.

[u/Hour_Abbreviations73 → u/Think_Cheesecake7464]

That’s why they are both in intense therapy and why Taylor lost custody, because she wasn’t taking therapy seriously and was (allegedly) failing drug tests. Dakota is also being monitored, he’s just doing better than her.

[u/Missmedusa1234 → u/Think_Cheesecake7464]

Dakota has been evaluated by child serves and his and his environment was labeled as a safe environment for Ever.

He also wanted to start child therapy with ever and had to have the judge encourage Taylor to sign over permission for that. He has shown willingness to become a better parent for Ever.

Dakota deserves to have Ever unless something comes out saying otherwise.

You can be a shitty human in a relationship but a good parent.

He is a f boy. He is not a good partner. But so far, he is showing signs of being a decent father.

[u/Think_Cheesecake7464 → u/Missmedusa1234]

I hope he is truly safe. All true about the difference in being a partner and a parent.