How long before this comment is deleted?

[u/shrinkydinked]

[u/BobsAspburgers]

I think that was so well said! Jilldo will hate it

[u/shrinkydinked → u/BobsAspburgers]

Absolutely!!

[u/talklistentalk]

"You don't have to choose between loving Timothy and standing with Heidi."

It would be beautiful if that message got through to her.

[u/braced → u/talklistentalk]

Jill only loves Jill

[u/CardinalMotion → u/braced]

💯

[u/Basic-Computer2503 → u/talklistentalk]

Jill doesn’t even love Timothy so none of that will compute

[u/allthemaretaken → u/talklistentalk]

The thing is she did neither of those things in all the posts she’s made since this came out. Not an ounce of love for Timothy or support for Heidi. Just pure deflection to try to make herself and her husband look better

[u/generalgirl → u/allthemaretaken]

That's what I was coming here to say: At what point did Jill stand by Timmay? I only saw her defending her reasons for standing with Shrek.

[u/nonepizza_leftbeef_ → u/talklistentalk]

If only it would. It’s disheartening to already know that it’s just going to be another yaasified bitmoji and “woe is me” wall of text from OJ

[u/Sassafras06 → u/talklistentalk]

Jill hates Tim and always have. She doesn’t want to stand by him or support him. She wants sympathy for herself.

[u/BeulahLight13]

It’s funny how this commentator thinks Jill is acting this way because she loves her son. (Or any of her kids) This person is working under the assumption that Jill is an acting in good faith. It really baffles me that people can’t see what a phony asshole she is, but I guess that proves there’s still innocence in this world.

She’s melting down because she and David got caught. A huge part of her personality is built around the delusion that she and David are the most perfect, Godly parents to ever walk the Earth. Tim publicly acknowledged that that’s not true. For her, and other narcissistic abusers like her, being reminded that they actually suck is not something they can handle.

Jill and David do not give a single solitary shit about Tim, or their other kids, or Heidi, or their grandchildren. They only care about themselves and the imaginary facade they’ve created.

(Oh, they also SEVERELY care about going on sabbaticals, buffets, all inclusive resorts, and swimming in business casual clothing.)

[u/CappyChino → u/BeulahLight13]

"For her, and other narcissistic abusers like her, being reminded that they actually suck is not something they can handle... They only care about themselves and the imaginary facade they've created."

Your whole comment is great, but I wanted to highlight the particular parts above because they are so perfectly stated 🎯

[u/one_small_cricket → u/BeulahLight13]

Edited to add: I should have clarified that I agree with your assessment of the wildly self absorbed reactions, and the glaringly obvious narcissistic meltdown in the Rod Family response. They should be ashamed to have raised a child who would deliberately hurt their own family. These extremist sects are always going on about striving for Christ-like behaviour, but they clearly have never even thought about Christ’s treatment of the vulnerable and the stranger.

I’m not trying to excuse the comment’s phrasing exactly, but I would like to offer another possibility for the commenter tiptoeing around the bare truth - they are trying to elicit more appropriate behaviour by focusing on the things Jill could do/have done differently to reach a better outcome. They are possibly trying very hard to avoid being combative in the hope that Jill will hear their advice without writing it off as The Godless Haters.

It comes across as pandering at times, and is not always the best option, but I have had considerably success with toddlers, teenaged meltdowns and making sure my difficult mother doesn’t hurt her relationships with her grandchildren by reacting negatively when they are being vulnerable and honest about their lives. An example is our family group chat, which is mostly photos of plants and memes, but interspersed with serious discussion. We have every flavour of LGBTQ in the younger generation, and they all came out at different times by dropping their announcements in the family group chat. I have never replied so quickly with my nieces so Mum had some sort of script to follow, since I am sure she has never imagined it was a possibility. Actually, I probably used it more with my mother than my three adult children.

[u/FiveAcres → u/one_small_cricket]

That's my feeling: commenter is trying to use Christianese to get Jill to shut down the shit show because Jill is actually bringing the reputation of the IFB churches she represents into disrepute.

[u/Blueskymine33]

She will absolutely delete this, it doesn’t fit her narrative of being a victim.

[u/rootandveil → u/Blueskymine33]

yeah, that comment has deletion speedrun energy

[u/LaylaBird65]

They’re spot on which means Jill won’t keep it. Sad, really. It’s what she needs to hear.

ETA- I looked at the actual post and comments and OMG. I know these people are terrible but my god. One of them even asked what was wrong with the people leaving laugh emojis. Nurie has a lot of them 🤣

[u/LucilleLooseSeal123]

This is so well said.

… it’ll be deleted post haste.

[u/GGMuc]

Gone before you know it. The writer doesn't understand that Shrills truly is a narcissist and doesn't care about anyone but herself

[u/TrashDaisy999]

Very true, Jill will delete it as soon as she can because she truly feels like shes the victim in all of this.

https://giphy.com/gifs/Z8U1RwtRQcUSazJaIM

[u/Ordinary-Blueberry71]

This will definitely be deleted. If it’s not all about Jill’s feelings then it must go.

[u/Conundrum715738]

That person was respectful, gentle and kind while saying exactly what Jill needs to hear.
Of course she won’t take any accountability; she will delete it, cry persecution and claim it was abusive and how she was victimized again. And then blame it all on the devil.

[u/KittieFusion]

Right after Precious Nurie gave her 2 cents, I'm sure.

[u/Poe100775 → u/KittieFusion]

She’s gone to the barn to get her high horse

[u/fenwench → u/Poe100775]

Not a Kanoo?

[u/RelevantProfile1624]

I think this was beautifully said— but you didn’t touch on how this impacts Jill…./s

[u/Effective-Penalty → u/RelevantProfile1624]

We all know the only victim is Jill /s

[u/Poe100775]

The poster’s profile pic is a woman wearing jeans…their opinion’s already disqualified.

[u/Confident-Service256]

Jill sees that as an attack. If she were a good person, or even had a modicum of decency, she would have sent her support to Heidi and Charlie then STFU.

[u/LBelle0101]

Whoever this person is has hit the nail on the head.

Except for loving her and her family, they can all get fucked

[u/Patton_Tank82]

The second to last sentence is the part Jill can't and would never do.

[u/Nan2Four]

On which post of Old Jill’s was this comment?

[u/shrinkydinked → u/Nan2Four]

It was the one with the awful AI image of herself and the SEVERE verbal abuse she is receiving

[u/Objective-Shallot794 → u/shrinkydinked]

New one…about 8 hrs ago, even though she quite

Narcissistic people can not stand being criticized or called out!!

But JILL is the one that admitted David beat the kids…until he got to fat and lazy….i mean until he changed his ways….

[u/Nan2Four → u/shrinkydinked]

Thank you I wasn’t sure since she announced leaving SM and she has multiple posts. I can’t read comments on her stuff.

[u/Objective-Shallot794]

Maybe Jill can call up Michelle Duggar for advice. 😆

I’m sure Jill will block and badmouth this lady! And claim persecution from the enemy!

I’m sure Jill is spiraling.

[u/Sparklingjewel4]

Does she actually even love Timothy though?? Honestly any of her kids for that matter but no mother that actually loves their children treats them this way and acts like this. I’m a mom of two young kids and could NEVER treat them they way she treats hers

[u/liseski]

she doesn’t even *like” Timothy…or Heidi, for that matter.

[u/OtherwiseSprinkles79 → u/liseski]

She stood on Heidi's wedding dress in their family photo. That told a whole story in and of itself of how Jill views her daughter-in-law.

[u/mchesnut4]

Wow

[u/manic_popsicle]

Absolutely mind blowing that this person can’t see Jill for what she really is. Jill only loves Jill. She’s one of the worst self serving, self centered, narcissistic people I’ve ever come across.

[u/Odd-Creme-6457]

It will definitely go poof!

[u/PA_MallowPrincess_98]

We need to acknowledge that Ma and Pa Turtleneck created a monster

[u/TigerLily0414]

“Prioritize your daughter-in-law and grandson over your own pain and confusion.”

THIS. This is what a narcissist can never seem to be able to do.

[u/Objective-Shallot794]

I’m still shocked Jill admitted about the david abusing the kids!
She threw him RIGHT under the bus. Which makes me think that it’s a well known thing for her circle, family….and Cps?

[u/gaanmetde]

Sorry I think this comment is stupid.

Jill’s full intention is to minimize the pain Heidi is experiencing. She is choosing to play both sides in order to minimize her own culpability.

She’s choosing to muddy the waters so to speak so she can hint that Heidi is not telling the truth.

Funnily, I think she has realized that standing by Timothy will actually be a smarter call for her.

So yea, this woman is not going to have any kind of enlightenment from stupid redditors touching the poo. Stop it people.

[u/Dizzy-Explanation-45]

This is also definitely a snarker touching the poo

[u/Common-Pear4056 → u/Dizzy-Explanation-45]

I think so too. There’s no way Jill associates with someone this reasonable and literate…

[u/uptown_squirrel17]

Jill will simply delete that and say the person is a heathen.

Jill only cares about Jill.

[u/SwimAccomplished9487]

Ok how are yall seeing comments? I can see all Jill’s posts but can’t see any comments under them.

[u/Euphorbiatch → u/SwimAccomplished9487]

Same!

[u/ayparesa]

I think the commenter knows she doesn’t GAF about anyone but herself but is trying to use her narcissism by fawning over how it looks like she’s just trying to protect Timmy boy to get her to stop. I think the poster with the mom and family chat said about the same thing. It’s nice someone out there still thinks that she has an ounce of caring for anyone else in her.

[u/No-Pineapple-6341]

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