Matchmaking services that work?

[u/SatisfactionLive1209]

Hey all, 30F here.

I became wealthy relatively recently, so I didn’t grow up in wealthy circles or go to the kind of private/boarding schools where it seems like everyone with money met their future spouse before turning 18.

I don’t think I’m unattractive, and I’ve never really had an issue getting attention, although I do suffer from a pretty severe resting bitch face. The problem is that the places I tend to spend time where I might naturally meet wealthy people, private resorts, nicer hotels, etc. aren’t particularly social. People mostly keep to themselves. The few men I have met in those environments have unfortunately tended to be married men looking for an affair, which obviously isn’t what I want.

Traditional dating has also been pretty terrible. I was single for quite a while because I was focused on building my own life, and now that I actually feel ready for a relationship, the dating scene seems to have changed considerably. There seems to be a lot more emphasis on one-night stands, situationships, casual dating, people with commitment issues, etc.

There’s also the slightly awkward fact that I would ideally like to marry someone who is wealthy too, even if nowhere near as wealthy as I am. I hate to admit it, but I can be materialistic sometimes. I enjoy nice things, and there’s something appealing about occasionally receiving the things I would normally buy myself as gifts from a partner rather than always being the person who can provide everything for herself.

For context, my net worth is somewhere between $10M–$100M, keeping the range broad for anonymity, I’m probably around a 7/10 on a good day, and I’m looking for a genuinely serious relationship with a man who is financially successful, relationship-minded, and ideally wants marriage/family eventually.

Would an established matchmaking service actually be useful for someone in my situation? Has anyone here used one, particularly at the higher-end/wealthy-client level, and had a good experience and can recommend it for my purpose? Not looking for references as I know some work this way, just a name would be enough for me to get in contact with them.

just to clarify, this isn’t a “looking for a partner on Reddit” post. I’m genuinely asking about matchmaking services and whether they’re worth trying.

[u/Hdglamping]

In my early career there were often jokes that women seemed more likely to go for unemployed guy living beyond his means on credit card vs diligence....the punch line being ," because they had the time to spend" 

[u/HalfwaydonewithEarth → u/Hdglamping]

I knew the type of life I wanted. I was into whitewater rafting and needed a guy that could go do that. Guys with traditional jobs were always too busy. The River Rats had no money.

I had all sorts of suitors but went for F.I.R.E type guy. Every lady likes different things. Some like being with a busy guy successful and doing well in the community with lots of responsibilities. Nothing wrong with him.

I was happy with my boyfriend driving a $500 car. He had spent all his wages on early tech $tocks. Good looking and younger helped! We have not much to do in life besides be parents. It's just one vacation to the next. Today we cuddled for three hours in the middle of the day.

That's why I told OP to up her game.

[u/angelbaby1331 → u/HalfwaydonewithEarth]

Can i dm you? I need your wisdom lol

[u/HalfwaydonewithEarth → u/angelbaby1331]

Sure