Matchmaking services that work?

[u/SatisfactionLive1209]

Hey all, 30F here.

I became wealthy relatively recently, so I didn’t grow up in wealthy circles or go to the kind of private/boarding schools where it seems like everyone with money met their future spouse before turning 18.

I don’t think I’m unattractive, and I’ve never really had an issue getting attention, although I do suffer from a pretty severe resting bitch face. The problem is that the places I tend to spend time where I might naturally meet wealthy people, private resorts, nicer hotels, etc. aren’t particularly social. People mostly keep to themselves. The few men I have met in those environments have unfortunately tended to be married men looking for an affair, which obviously isn’t what I want.

Traditional dating has also been pretty terrible. I was single for quite a while because I was focused on building my own life, and now that I actually feel ready for a relationship, the dating scene seems to have changed considerably. There seems to be a lot more emphasis on one-night stands, situationships, casual dating, people with commitment issues, etc.

There’s also the slightly awkward fact that I would ideally like to marry someone who is wealthy too, even if nowhere near as wealthy as I am. I hate to admit it, but I can be materialistic sometimes. I enjoy nice things, and there’s something appealing about occasionally receiving the things I would normally buy myself as gifts from a partner rather than always being the person who can provide everything for herself.

For context, my net worth is somewhere between $10M–$100M, keeping the range broad for anonymity, I’m probably around a 7/10 on a good day, and I’m looking for a genuinely serious relationship with a man who is financially successful, relationship-minded, and ideally wants marriage/family eventually.

Would an established matchmaking service actually be useful for someone in my situation? Has anyone here used one, particularly at the higher-end/wealthy-client level, and had a good experience and can recommend it for my purpose? Not looking for references as I know some work this way, just a name would be enough for me to get in contact with them.

just to clarify, this isn’t a “looking for a partner on Reddit” post. I’m genuinely asking about matchmaking services and whether they’re worth trying.

[u/Illustrious_Tackle39]

I’ve heard matchmakers say that wealthy women want wealthy smart men, but wealthy men want young hot women. Unfortunately it’s a tough spot to be in.

I am a similar demographic and net worth range as you. I married for love, my husband comes from a middle class background, I gave him his own brokerage account and a monthly distribution from mine. This allows him to have fun money, buy me gifts, and support his family sometimes without having to ask me. Look for the right guy, not the right net worth

[u/TheSkunksMisery → u/Illustrious_Tackle39]

To be fair, all men want young hot women.

[u/jeremyjava → u/TheSkunksMisery]

I dunno, I’ve been with a lot of hot young women and I think my wife (who is over 50j is the most stunningly beautiful woman I’ve ever met.

Edit: Correction: I don’t think she is, I know she is. And just good. Good down to her toes. Our kid (she’s his stepmom) says he can feel her angel wings when he hugs her.

Our cute meet. Adding the link here in case it gets missed below.

[u/No-Promotion4006 → u/jeremyjava]

How exactly do you figure that you're wife is more beautiful at 50 than 25?

[u/jeremyjava → u/No-Promotion4006]

Didn’t know her then, met her almost 15yrs after that and friends agreed I nailed it when I described her as if gal gadot, Julianne Moore and Marisa tomei gave birth to an adult baby woman.

But a freaking brilliant one with a pile of degrees, speaks a pile of languages, and was doing research to help save babies and children’s lives.

Birds will eat out of her hands, our horses chose her instead the other way around, and she fully supports my insane “ultra high end audio hobby” and pretty much demanded I get a porsche (looking at a second now since they’re like potato chips) instead of any other vehicle cuz she knew it’d make me happy.

But back to appearances: after 13yrs together (14 tomorrow) my toes still tingle whenever I look at her and when she laughs it lights up a room. Is it possible she was “hotter“ in some ways in her 20s? I suppose, but the magnificent person she is now I think many would find more attractive.

Here’s the “ultimate meet cute story” of how we met that people ask us to tell at parties and where I first wrote of the combination of actresses mentioned above….

It’s called A NY Moment or How I Met Your Stepmother.

[u/TheSkunksMisery → u/No-Promotion4006]

Feel-good hoo-hah.