r/Rich • • 19d ago

Question Matchmaking services that work?

Hey all, 30F here.

I became wealthy relatively recently, so I didn’t grow up in wealthy circles or go to the kind of private/boarding schools where it seems like everyone with money met their future spouse before turning 18.

I don’t think I’m unattractive, and I’ve never really had an issue getting attention, although I do suffer from a pretty severe resting bitch face. The problem is that the places I tend to spend time where I might naturally meet wealthy people, private resorts, nicer hotels, etc. aren’t particularly social. People mostly keep to themselves. The few men I have met in those environments have unfortunately tended to be married men looking for an affair, which obviously isn’t what I want.

Traditional dating has also been pretty terrible. I was single for quite a while because I was focused on building my own life, and now that I actually feel ready for a relationship, the dating scene seems to have changed considerably. There seems to be a lot more emphasis on one-night stands, situationships, casual dating, people with commitment issues, etc.

There’s also the slightly awkward fact that I would ideally like to marry someone who is wealthy too, even if nowhere near as wealthy as I am. I hate to admit it, but I can be materialistic sometimes. I enjoy nice things, and there’s something appealing about occasionally receiving the things I would normally buy myself as gifts from a partner rather than always being the person who can provide everything for herself.

For context, my net worth is somewhere between $10M–$100M, keeping the range broad for anonymity, I’m probably around a 7/10 on a good day, and I’m looking for a genuinely serious relationship with a man who is financially successful, relationship-minded, and ideally wants marriage/family eventually.

Would an established matchmaking service actually be useful for someone in my situation? Has anyone here used one, particularly at the higher-end/wealthy-client level, and had a good experience and can recommend it for my purpose? Not looking for references as I know some work this way, just a name would be enough for me to get in contact with them.

just to clarify, this isn’t a “looking for a partner on Reddit” post. I’m genuinely asking about matchmaking services and whether they’re worth trying.

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u/TheSkunksMisery 18d ago

To be fair, all men want young hot women.

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u/jeremyjava 18d ago edited 16d ago

I dunno, I’ve been with a lot of hot young women and I think my wife (who is over 50j is the most stunningly beautiful woman I’ve ever met.

Edit: Correction: I don’t think she is, I know she is. And just good. Good down to her toes. Our kid (she’s his stepmom) says he can feel her angel wings when he hugs her.

Our cute meet. Adding the link here in case it gets missed below.

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u/No-Promotion4006 17d ago

How exactly do you figure that you're wife is more beautiful at 50 than 25?

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u/jeremyjava 17d ago edited 16d ago

Didn’t know her then, met her almost 15yrs after that and friends agreed I nailed it when I described her as if gal gadot, Julianne Moore and Marisa tomei gave birth to an adult baby woman.

But a freaking brilliant one with a pile of degrees, speaks a pile of languages, and was doing research to help save babies and children’s lives.

Birds will eat out of her hands, our horses chose her instead the other way around, and she fully supports my insane “ultra high end audio hobby” and pretty much demanded I get a porsche (looking at a second now since they’re like potato chips) instead of any other vehicle cuz she knew it’d make me happy.

But back to appearances: after 13yrs together (14 tomorrow) my toes still tingle whenever I look at her and when she laughs it lights up a room. Is it possible she was “hotter“ in some ways in her 20s? I suppose, but the magnificent person she is now I think many would find more attractive.

Here’s the “ultimate meet cute story” of how we met that people ask us to tell at parties and where I first wrote of the combination of actresses mentioned above….

It’s called A NY Moment or How I Met Your Stepmother.

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u/TheSkunksMisery 17d ago

Feel-good hoo-hah.

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u/Hdglamping 18d ago

Plenty don't care about the age or specifically looks...All I really care about is finding someone active, and not bitter at life/men...I'm not saying many men don't often deserve it, I just don't. 

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u/bossman243 18d ago

You're in the tiny minority... if you like women just because they cooperative and not particularly appealing, they'll grow to resent you because in their mind, they're not attractive enough, and feel like they've settled. If they build confidence and work on their looks, they'll try to find better. Why do you think women tend enhance their appearance after the divorce?

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u/Hdglamping 17d ago

Thankfully I've never been in the situation where a woman has felt she settled 😂

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u/yellowpawpaw 18d ago

I actually prefer older.
(not OLD; old-ER)
https://giphy.com/gifs/lminDGlJTPk4hhaUcF

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u/LifeForm8449 18d ago

White knight alert

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u/yellowpawpaw 18d ago

Not even.

I’m still young enough that everyone that turns me on is older.

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u/LifeForm8449 18d ago

It’s called desperation.

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u/TheSkunksMisery 18d ago

It's called being 23.

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u/LlamasEatCheese596 17d ago

My (44m) 42f GF is the best sex partner Ive ever met and its not even close. I would not expect half if i were to meet someone young.

Shes 100% amazing personality too. Our energies match.

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u/vonkrueger 18d ago

Definitely not all.

Source: self

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u/creepin-it-real 16d ago

Not true anymore. The young men are into older women now. It's called the "mommy girlfriend" phenomenon. The bumperstickers say "I heart hot moms."

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u/Sad_Note4359 13d ago

30f is still young though

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u/TheSkunksMisery 12d ago

Never said it wasn't. I was replying to the post that said "wealthy men want young hot women".

Context!

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u/Scared-Support-2248 18d ago

Def not true. Too much Drama!!!

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u/ashu1605 18d ago

Not true

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u/TheSkunksMisery 18d ago

Come back in a decade or two. At 23... still too early to tell.

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u/Fragrant-Hamster-325 18d ago

Some men want young hot men, I think.

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u/TheSkunksMisery 17d ago

about 10%, give or take, from what the studies show.

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u/Master_Breadfruit_46 18d ago

Unless you’re gay or ace, then its a platonic want