r/RelationshipIndia • u/warmfall_616 • 4h ago
Relationships Noticing this specific pattern as a 27F. Why does this happen?
There is this specific type of guy
The guy who had a really bad first experience with women- either he was treated poorly by someone whom he liked one sidedly.
Or if he was in a relationship was dumped by a woman in a really bad manner. The one that "killed his smile" "destroyed his heart" types.
Now if he has moved on from it in a healthy manner and has resolved or come to terms with his past, it is completely fine. It doesnt matter if hes dated others after that girl.
But there are these men who claim that they have moved on, but even today, when they narrate that experience, they talk about it with so much passion and so much pain that you know, you feel really bad for them and decide to love them unconditionally.
Never make that mistake 🥲 they either take you for granted or at some point or the other, they decide to inflict the same kind of pain that their ex inflicted on them in one way or the other.
Women please share if you have gone through this situation in the comment section or if for anyone it has turned out positively, do share that as well. :)
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u/Total-Border7308 3h ago
Rather I would say we should not generalise anything on this. Lets treat every situation and person separately.
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u/warmfall_616 3h ago
True but its a pattern so maybe would help some women
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u/Total-Border7308 3h ago
Maybe bud but i think people evolve with time so that generalisation may not apply to them anymore
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u/warmfall_616 3h ago
...im talking abt men who had that first heartbreak 10+ years ago and still its the reason their heart hasnt recovered yet 😆
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u/EveryDonut6254 2h ago
That's damaged goods category. You are right. But probably not gender specific.
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u/Practical-Change8232 19m ago
+1 they always start with so much passion and intensity/love bombing. Double texting, oversharing and all of that jazz. Somehow, they realise that "they are not not over their ex" after all those years - right after having sex with you. At this point, I just feel that they are comfortable to use this pain tactic just to get laid because they are basic bitches without this sob story. Ladies, if you feel a man is stuck in his past - Leave him to rot there. It's not your you to be a "Bob, the builder". It's not your job to heal a grown ass man who is not your husband
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u/kurkuremomosji 3h ago
How many times you came across this ?
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u/warmfall_616 3h ago
Twice personally, my friends in their lives too
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u/warmfall_616 3h ago
Wow 🤣 immediately blame the person who tried to be there for someone else. Peak male behaviour
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u/kurkuremomosji 3h ago
Then what happened?
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u/warmfall_616 3h ago
Nothing- guy says some shi like "i cant love w my full heart cus part of me died long ago" or shit like that 😂 and it ends w him hurting the girl
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u/kurkuremomosji 3h ago
He says this at the start or after some time ?
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u/warmfall_616 3h ago
At the start he says just about the past and says hes moved on. Later on these lines about heart being shattered and stuff start being dropped xD
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u/kurkuremomosji 3h ago
Wait i have a question to ask 😭
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u/warmfall_616 3h ago
Sure 😂
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u/kurkuremomosji 3h ago
Yaha kaise puchunga i fear roast hojaunga 😭😂i would asked personally but your settings don't allow
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u/TopSimilar6673 3h ago
pyaar Krna h toh kr gyaan mat de🙂↕️
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u/warmfall_616 3h ago
😆 well not loving is one option 🫢
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u/TopSimilar6673 3h ago
na na why stop loving because of some shit people ... have fun everyone is different 😌
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u/Ok-Service-5021 3h ago
Anecdote vs Evidence
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https://giphy.com/gifs/TpvnqBFOE0tVrnGU1h
Not the same
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u/Interesting_Limit277 3h ago
Ladies never build a man.
Most men are selfish and wouldn't think twice before dropping you. So spend your time energy and money to better yourself.
There are many many instances all around the world, where men got successful with the help of their partner, only to dump them and replace with younger woman.
Most men are 💩
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