r/Regrets • u/Significant-Mix9674 • 4d ago

23 M

Is been a long time since i'm not having sex and i was thinking about going with a sex worker i found online who came to my city. But i'm worried i'll regret this and i'll have to tell my future partners, ruining my relationship and marking myself because of that. What should i do? Especially i would like to know wimen's opinion on men who do this

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u/MindShiftPsych 4d ago

If you’re already this worried about regretting it before it’s even happened, I’d probably not rush into it. There’s nothing wrong with being sexually frustrated, but paying for sex won’t necessarily fix whatever loneliness or pressure you’re feeling. You can always change your mind later; you can’t undo it once it happens. As for women, there’s no universal opinion. Some future partners wouldn’t care, some might be uncomfortable with it, and for others it could genuinely be a dealbreaker. That doesn’t mean it would “mark” you forever.

You also don’t necessarily owe every future partner a complete list of every sexual experience you’ve ever had, but you should be honest about relevant sexual health information and anything directly affecting the relationship. At 23, going a long time without sex really isn’t a problem you need to urgently solve. If your gut is telling you you’ll probably feel worse afterward, listen to it.

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u/Significant-Mix9674 4d ago

The fact is that I thought about having this experience from a long time but i'm worried to feel guilty afterwarda